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Free Hugs Campaign
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Nebulous said:Hey if you want to hug strange men because they are holding a sign, then more power to you. To each their own.
Someone very close to me was so sweet and kind. He gave hugs to everyone he met and he would go above and beyond out of his way to help someone. He adopted me as his granddaughter, and helped me so much with school. He bought nearly everything in my dorm, including 700 dollars worth of new cloths because I had had the same clothes for years. He took time out of his life to be active at his church and make sure all the kids got to go to the church camp even if their parents couldn't afford it. He took in a teenager after she got knocked up from her boyfriend and her parents had kicked her out of the house. A short time ago he got me a fridge and blankets, and a lamp for my dorm and all he asked for in return was two hugs the next time I saw him. Then he died a day or two later, before I was able to give him those hugs...
I want to carry on his idea of kindness, and peace which is something this video is promoting. Hugs make people happy. Everyone's day could be a little brighter if we all gave out at least one free hug a day.
I will always try to make someones world just a little bit brighter...and yes, I will give a hug to anyone who wants one.
Thats a lovely story and he sounded like a nice person.
...But you see, its a dangerous world out there and hugging a stranger or offering hugs to strangers in my neck of the woods might get you beat up and/or robbed.
...But you see, its a dangerous world out there and hugging a stranger or offering hugs to strangers in my neck of the woods might get you beat up and/or robbed.
That was a really lovely story Kahnai. I, however, voted Noââ¬Â¦ probably notââ¬Â¦ There are a lot of strange people out there and I would never hug a guy I didn't know. I do, however, visit my local nursing home and I hug every senior who wants one.
I got to help out at a nursing home for awhile
. I remember it being tons of fun but also at times quite sad...
. I wish I could do it again, but being in college and away from home it's not possible right now...
I understand about the weirdo thing... Sometimes people are dangerous and you just wanna leave
.
My adoptive Grandpa had limits too. When he was alive he said he always helped someone one time, and if they misused his kindess he didn't help them again.
When his church was told about this family where the father had just lost his job and the mom was pregnant with their fourth child he went home and got an old dresser from their shed. He spent weeks sanding it and painting it and when it was done it looked brand new. He and other members of his church filled it with baby clothes and gave it to the family. The next week someone found the dresser thrown in the garbage at the end of their street.
Though that didn't stop him from helping the next family in need, yet another family where the father had lost his job, and their car had broke down leaving the father no way to get to work. He started the collection to repair the transmission on the car putting most of the money in himself, the rest coming from his church and they paid to get the transmission fixed on the car. They were greatful and even started returning to church because now they could...
It's like when I met this muslim (sp?) girl the other day who said it was so difficult to make friends in America. It seemed like if her and a friend were working on a project or an assignment her friends were there for the time of the assignment and then they just disappeared... She said in her culture to make friends with someone you have to see them and be around them in good times and bad, and speak with them over a meal. So she cooked this other girl a huge feast for her and her husband. When their project was done however, she was gone.
She said she could either just not make the effort to be friends or she could keep trying until one person reached out to her and she could say (after years in this country) that she had an American friend.
...I want to be that American friend...
So my ideas could be dangerous. Going out of your way to either help a stranger or just give them a friendly hug could turn out bad for me. I figure though, it's better than not trying, because in the end I could could brighten someones world just enough that maybe they won't turn out to be someone evil: ex. A killer, a rapist, etc...
Not saying of course that I would just randomly hug people in the street. But if I was talking with someone for the first time and they said something like their day had just been horrible, or that they could really just use a hug, then of course, HUGS FOR ALL!
I understand about the weirdo thing... Sometimes people are dangerous and you just wanna leave
My adoptive Grandpa had limits too. When he was alive he said he always helped someone one time, and if they misused his kindess he didn't help them again.
When his church was told about this family where the father had just lost his job and the mom was pregnant with their fourth child he went home and got an old dresser from their shed. He spent weeks sanding it and painting it and when it was done it looked brand new. He and other members of his church filled it with baby clothes and gave it to the family. The next week someone found the dresser thrown in the garbage at the end of their street.
Though that didn't stop him from helping the next family in need, yet another family where the father had lost his job, and their car had broke down leaving the father no way to get to work. He started the collection to repair the transmission on the car putting most of the money in himself, the rest coming from his church and they paid to get the transmission fixed on the car. They were greatful and even started returning to church because now they could...
It's like when I met this muslim (sp?) girl the other day who said it was so difficult to make friends in America. It seemed like if her and a friend were working on a project or an assignment her friends were there for the time of the assignment and then they just disappeared... She said in her culture to make friends with someone you have to see them and be around them in good times and bad, and speak with them over a meal. So she cooked this other girl a huge feast for her and her husband. When their project was done however, she was gone.
She said she could either just not make the effort to be friends or she could keep trying until one person reached out to her and she could say (after years in this country) that she had an American friend.
...I want to be that American friend...
So my ideas could be dangerous. Going out of your way to either help a stranger or just give them a friendly hug could turn out bad for me. I figure though, it's better than not trying, because in the end I could could brighten someones world just enough that maybe they won't turn out to be someone evil: ex. A killer, a rapist, etc...
Not saying of course that I would just randomly hug people in the street. But if I was talking with someone for the first time and they said something like their day had just been horrible, or that they could really just use a hug, then of course, HUGS FOR ALL!
There are safer ways to brighten someones day. I find a simple smile goes a long way. Just saying good morning or hello works too. I find it dangerous that you would hug strange people. I know if a stranger gave me a hug, I would probably freak out. I don't like being touched by people I don't know. Also, you never know how the other person may react. They could take it the wrong way and cause you bodily harm or worse.
Nebulous said:Thats a lovely story and he sounded like a nice person.
...But you see, its a dangerous world out there and hugging a stranger or offering hugs to strangers in my neck of the woods might get you beat up and/or robbed.
Jazzy said:
I agree with Nebulous and Jazzy. It IS a lovely idea but this world is just NOT a safe place and you have to be realistic about that.
I'm like Jazzy, I don't like being touched by people I don't know and I, too, would freak out if a stranger hugged me!
Whereas I love getting smiles or being told my smile brightens someone's day.
In the video, the majority of huggers are aged about 20. They are not yet truly aware of the evils in the world, so they are more open to others. Also, they can see the guy holding the sign is being filmed and know if they hug him then they are on film too. Perhaps they hope to see themselves on TV? Maybe I'm too cynical but I bet most of them wouldn't have hugged him if there hadn't been a camera around!
Youââ¬â¢re all just too pessimistic.
I used to be that way too. But life is too short...
I wouldn't hug someone unless they wanted one first, because you're right, it can be scary for most people especially if you're a tad aphephobic.
I used to be that way too. But life is too short...
Jazzy said:
I wouldn't hug someone unless they wanted one first, because you're right, it can be scary for most people especially if you're a tad aphephobic.
Kahnai said:Youââ¬â¢re all just too pessimistic.
I used to be that way too. But life is too short...
I wouldn't hug someone unless they wanted one first, because you're right, it can be scary for most people especially if you're a tad aphephobic.
We're realists not pessimists and your life will be way too short if you don't start taking better care of it!
aphephobic?
Do you mean Haphephobia?
There is a world of difference between not liking having your personal space invaded by strangers and the morbid fear of being touched! That's two erroneous conclusions you've jumped to.
Kahnai said:Youââ¬â¢re all just too pessimistic.
Why thank you
Rapunzel said:
Rapunzel said:That's two erroneous conclusions you've jumped to.
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