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Have you ever felt like no one likes you?
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Yes, what people think about you is something you can't control
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My default mode in social situations where I meet people for the first time is indifference... I present myself as is and can't really be bothered to care how that's being recieved. I'm confident that I am a nice and generally agreeable person, so when I don't click with people I figure it's just a chemistry thing.
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Most people are phony anyways and only pretend to like you if they think they can get something out of you. So it is sad that we tend to care what so many people think about us. Instead we should focus on the good qualities within ourselves. 😉
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I honestly don't care. I'm not overly social, I'm not worried about what others think of me, and I'm not going to expend any undue effort to change their opinion.
As far as my own 'feelings'.... I'm still not convinced that I have them.
As far as my own 'feelings'.... I'm still not convinced that I have them.
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Very true!
I tend to operate the same way.
You're a robot!
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I'd have to say one thing I've learned over the years online is this. I don't have real life friends and tbh I don't care to.
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Honestly, most people are too caught up in their own affairs to even have an opinion of you one way or the other unless you are actively engaging with a stranger such as while working retail for example. I think if you go around thinking no one likes you then that just speaks to how much you like you. If you can't find the will to like yourself then how do you expect anyone else to?
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Speaking of that, people can be self-deprecating because they want others to come around and shower them with reassurance and love. Its a way of getting attention.
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Reminds me of an old email I used xstinct@peopledontlike.me 🤣
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As I get older I care less what people think of me myself.
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I disagree with that. I get annoyed when i’m showered with reassurance and love. When I self-deprecate, I do so playfully. I prefer it when ppl join in the banter or just ignore it, i don’t like to be corrected.
It’s the saying that goes “If I mock myself, no one can mock me.” Self-deprecation for me serves the purpose to reclaim power of those who upset me.
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@Nebulous psychology is complex m8
Everyone has varying experiences of bullying at some point in their lives, and experienced things differently, grown from their experiences in different ways and so everyone has different defence mechanisms and ways of dealing with things. It’s just a barrier to protect one’s mental health
Everyone has varying experiences of bullying at some point in their lives, and experienced things differently, grown from their experiences in different ways and so everyone has different defence mechanisms and ways of dealing with things. It’s just a barrier to protect one’s mental health
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I don’t think that’s a bad thing as you can’t control other ppl but can only control your own life and emotions. Most ppl have experienced betrayal, and not having real life friends means you don’t have to worry about that as much.
Or do you mean to say you have developed tons of fulfilling online friendships? Would you say you’re close enough to invite them to your wedding for example?
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I've had more fulfilling online relationships than actual IRL ones.
Yep, I've experienced betrayal a lot be it IRL or online. It hurts and it sucks.
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Would you like to meet them IRL?
Betrayals always suck. You’re welcome to chat to me if you ever need to
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I've made plans to meet with some before, but it never happened.
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Why cancellations?
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Feeling that way today like nobody likes me 😔
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Whats that website about?
Well you said it yourself, everyone is different. So while what I said is true for some, it might not be true for someone else. I don't speak in absolutes or definitives.
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Then why assume the intention of why someone would be self-deprecating? In fact the quote I posted is a common expression and one that I live by.Well you said it yourself, everyone is different. So while what I said is true for some, it might not be true for someone else. I don't speak in absolutes or definitives.
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I already know a lot of people in society don't like me, I've been trying to educate others on what it's like to be trans but I feel that it falls on deaf ears for some people. I'm not going to stop being who I am though, you can't please everyone in life anyways.
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Good on you for realising you can’t please everyone 👍
I feel like educating others sucks energy out of you though. Especially when it falls on deaf ears.
Not everyone has to like me. I can’t tell you how to live your life but personally? I strive to live a carefree life and embrace myself no matter what 🥳🎉🎊
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Trying to educate people when they don’t want to know stuff is a waste of your time. If someone shows interest or curiosity then go for it. The media unfortunately and some people are dehumanizing those who are transitioning. I tried including a trans person in my story and my traffic is down. There’s no special attention to this person she is just a regular person too. ☹️
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I said "people can be" not "all people do this 100% of the time" ...basically I was just posting one of the reasons why certain people would be self-deprecating (and its a pretty common one).
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Oh yeah, it's always annoying when ppl wanna throw a pity party
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