My little bastard

[FTON]

I don't usually say this, but i'm just posting it.
I have a younger sister, she's 14 years old, When she was younger than she's today, she was obedient, kind and funny, but now, she's just a little selfish bastard who thinks that she is "Grown up" with her disrespecting behaviour and her foolishness.
She barely listen to what i say, i used every method to take her back to her old life but no use, she used to be interested in half thoughts and discussions she shares with me, but now she thinks only about Johnny Depp, she told me once i'm grown up, but i'm still sure she's a child.
My parents kept telling me to be soft with her, which i absolutely refuse this as an answer to keep my dignity in safe.
My only explaination of this she got infected by the preparatory school, where recently all students became jerks.
Any suggestion regrading this please?

 

[Jazzy]

Hello FTON!

Maybe if you read this article, it might help you understand the changes your sister is going through in her life right now.

Let me know if it helped you any.

 

[FTON]

Thank you, that was helpful. i will apply these tips.

 

[Jazzy]

Thank you, that was helpful. i will apply these tips.

Be patient with her, love her and good luck!

 

[FTON]

Thanks

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

I don't usually say this, but i'm just posting it.
I have a younger sister, she's 14 years old, When she was younger than she's today, she was obedient, kind and funny, but now, she's just a little selfish bastard who thinks that she is "Grown up" with her disrespecting behaviour and her foolishness.
She barely listen to what i say, i used every method to take her back to her old life but no use, she used to be interested in half thoughts and discussions she shares with me, but now she thinks only about Johnny Depp, she told me once i'm grown up, but i'm still sure she's a child.
My parents kept telling me to be soft with her, which i absolutely refuse this as an answer to keep my dignity in safe.
My only explaination of this she got infected by the preparatory school, where recently all students became jerks.
Any suggestion regrading this please?

I noticed you used words like "obedient" and said "She barely listens to what I say" ... Do you try to control her or tell her what to do a lot? Maybe she is disrespecting you and not doing what you tell her to do because she feels that you are her equal and not her superior?

 

[FTON]

Yes, she feels that way.

 

[DrLeftover]

I see much opportunity for, shall we say, 'growth', for both involved parties.

 

[FTON]

Now it got worse, i cut my relationship with her in all forms, she's not getting anything seriously.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

Now it got worse, i cut my relationship with her in all forms, she's not getting anything seriously.

Do you still live with her?

 

[FTON]

Yeah, because i have to, but on the Bright side, i'm registering to University, so i'm going to Tunis or Monastir very soon, it will help me forgetting her.

 

[DrLeftover]

"And the award for best actor in a drama series goes to...."

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

Yeah, because i have to, but on the Bright side, i'm registering to University, so i'm going to Tunis or Monastir very soon, it will help me forgetting her.

So you live with her and are ignoring her? How's that working out for you?

 

[Sinon]

From what you say, the problem lies not with your sister, but with you. Your entire post has nothing to do with helping her, merely helping you control her. You want obedience, respect. And yet you call her a "little bastard" because she's a teenager?

And you're doing the opposite of what your parents told you to do, to boot. I think she isn't the childish one in this tale.

You are.

 

[FTON]

Yeah, because i have to, but on the Bright side, i'm registering to University, so i'm going to Tunis or Monastir very soon, it will help me forgetting her.

So you live with her and are ignoring her? How's that working out for you?

It is working 64%, she has a Cement head, she even became heartless, she only respects me when it comes to help, i'm sure i can live without Dumbs and iditos as long i can share lot of things with my old brother.

From what you say, the problem lies not with your sister, but with you. Your entire post has nothing to do with helping her, merely helping you control her. You want obedience, respect. And yet you call her a "little bastard" because she's a teenager? And you're doing the opposite of what your parents told you to do, to boot. I think she isn't the childish one in this tale. You are.

I'm sorry, but What did i do to be called Childish?
I cannot be patient with people like this, so i'm not going to bow to kids, it's humiliating.
If I keep taking easy like my parent say, i may lose everything, Because respecting mean people is low to me.
I don't want to control or anything like that, only respect and i'm ready to respect as well, i'm not Hitler.
i have to say your post didn't help unfortunately, it was accusing.

 

[Sinon]

It was meant to be accusing. Your entire first post is full of insulting and/or derogatory terms for your sister, and yet you expect her to respect you? You think she should do what you say because you're older, and yet you refuse to follow the rules your parents laid down? Do you expect her to follow your rules, if you refuse to follow your parents'? You're setting a terrible example for her so it's no wonder. You claim it's foolish for her to believe she is grown up. I say you're the foolish one for thinking she should lie down and give you what you want, when you obviously are unwilling to give her anything in return. You want to be given respect? You must show respect. Your so-called dignity is stopping you from actually being of any use to her.

You call her immature; in the same breath you call her a little bastard. My post was accusatory because you are a hypocrite.

 

[FTON]

What do i look like to you?
I was respecting back and following whatever my parent say until this case, Brothers and sisters argue all the time. And i never said i'm a Hitler because i'm older, but i don't want to be disrespected.
I used to show her respect until this case, but i can't do much more than this for the sake of Dignity, my post was setting a terrible example of her, because she's actually in this way, i've dealt with these situations before, and some of them ended with peace, but this one the more respectful i was trying to be, the lamer she gets, so i'm stopping all of this because i'm out of everything, call me lame, foolish, Weirdo, Freak, whatever you want, but i've decided not to make it worse.
You kept calling me "Control Freak" which i'm not, I'm a white hearted person, and i've never hated anybody until i made this thread, having a white heart has a big side effect which i'm suffering the consequences of these effects, it's difficult to love someone in this situation, it became impossible.

 

[Raven]

Sorry I'm with Dagger on this.

You want respect from her but yet you call her a little bastard on a public forum, where is her respect?!
You've cut all ties?! igoring her? Want to forget her? SHES YOUR SISTER! And a teenager. Don't know how old you are but perhaps you were a little bastard when you were that age.

She thinks she is a 'grown up' no I think you'll find she is GROWING UP!

Teenagers are moody, angsty, rule breakers, disrespectful etc, it's all part of growing up, she'll get over it, but by the sounds of it you might not be around, how sad is that?!

Grow some balls and be a better brother!

 

[FTON]

You never get tired of making me look a bad person, which i'm not, wow..
I thought i was saying few posts before This I used to Respect her before posting this.
And i have never been like her when i was a teenager.
I didn't get any helpful advices, except direct attacks.
I'll carry this on my own from here.

 

[Bluezone777]

This is the first step to a lifetime of hate for one of your own and it's a real shame. There is a lot to be earned from having a healthy relationship with your siblings and to throw it all away over this is a tragedy to be honest.

I think you need to take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror and focus on YOUR flaws first before you can talk about helping anyone else. I will even provide a list...

1. arrogant
2. judgmental
3. disrespectful
4. disobedient
5. ignorant

What's funny is that many of these very same words were used to describe your sister when they actually fit you. Perhaps you can see why it would be best to be patient and loving while overlooking all of her flaws so she could do the same for you?

Nobody is attacking you as it only seems that way because you can't see your own mistakes and think everyone else has the problem. Goes back to my first item in my list.