Online Hatred

[Jazzy]

Ever join a forum and right away there is a member that just doesn't like you?



You have not insulted them nor do you even know them.



They bait you into trying to get you to say something so they can hit that damn report button.



Are they so bored or miserable in their own life that they find this entertainment?



Has this ever happened to you?



Why is there online hatred towards people you don't even know?



Can someone PLEASE explain this to me?????

 

[Sinon]

I've been on both sides, honestly. Before I join a forum, I tend to look at the existing content. And sometimes, especially when it's a section geared towards debating and such, I find myself just straight away taking a dislike to the way someone puts their point forward, or dislike their point itself. Similarly, I have a certain dislike for bad grammar and obvious mistakes, so if someone is constantly making posts filled with these errors, I tend to find myself becoming irritated by them.

 

[TommyTooter]

i've seen very few forums where the newbies DIDN'T get jumped.

 

[DrLeftover]

What's with the Guy Fawkes avatar?

 

[Bluezone777]

The following is something I learned over the years and is a lesson everyone should learn...



The power of words is defined not by the speaker/writer but by the listener/reader.



It is up to you and you alone to decide how much power someone's words have over you. In a way, letting someone control your emotional state through their actions/words is like slamming your head into a cupboard and getting mad at the cupboard for being there. The problem isn't with the cupboard for being there as it is you being dumb enough to smack your head into it. There's nothing wrong with acknowledging when someone's being disrespectful but it is never wise to let them control how you feel.

 

[DrLeftover]

indeed



fascinating

 

[Bluezone777]

There was a a mistake made by me, no excuse for it , l own it. My thread dealing with friends should have been placed in the web-blog section but l didn't know we had one .

l posted it where l thought best but was wrong there as it did do what l didn't want it to do....start a discussion of sorts.

But that still didn't make it right for me to get jumped on like l was. And that's my bottom line.

My position on online friends for me was very clear and what l wanted to do was to ward off anyone who may have wanted to befriend me as l would have declined

Rather then explaining this every time in a PM l thought a one time post/thread would suit the purpose. It would have had l put it in the right place. l was wrong my bad.

But the comments l received both in the forum and the PM's were out of order.

Everyone gets the first kick of the cat but nobody should feel that this cat won't kick back.

For every action there is a reaction.

Something people should remember.

If you wanted to send a message then all you needed to do was put it in your sig that you will not accept any friend requests and saved yourself the trouble.



The line for every action there is a reaction is in my opinion a common excuse people use to explain why what they do should just be tolerated. The truth is that you choose whether to react to something or not and how you do react to it. The idea that what you define as right is defined by others instead of yourself is a foolish idea. People may choose to treat me wrong but I do not need to react in the same fashion because I don't lower myself to any other person's standard.



Not only is it a lame excuse but it just ensures the problems you have continue because your reaction will spark another reaction from the other person which brings forth a similar action from you and etc. How exactly will peace come when you have two people who are hell bent on throwing the punch that they received from the other? Someone has to be the bigger person and not respond in the same way as the other does.

 

[Evil Eye]

Why is there online hatred towards people you don't even know?

Maybe because it's easier?

But then again, most people who act like turds on a forum are usually mentally challenged

Now, now, Smooth, that's not fair to the mentally challenged.

 

[Cranos]

I haven't really been there. The times people disliked me were when I posted in the debate forum (so for a reason). I come from Europe, even our most conservative party doesn't even compare with how conservative the democrats are (when it comes to health care, social security, etc anyway). So when I join a political discussion I'm immediately the liberal, socialist or communist.

 

[DrLeftover]

So when I join a political discussion I'm immediately the liberal, socialist or communist.

Congradulations, most people would be content with one of those, if you get handed all three, that's something special.

 

[El Churro]

Not really. I have never really had any enemies on any forum. I usually am liked (or tolerated) all around. In online games I do get harassed all the time, however, but that is a different story.

 

[hotspot]

Some people are just really nasty people; I guess that is the only explanation. I've only met people like that on very popular forums where everyone's a complete douche to everyone.

I've seen maybe three of those forums, and I never went back.



Alternatively, there is this one forum that I know of that is kind of like that. But, the people aren't really bad, they literally just push around the new people and then let it pass. They all insult each other, but in a way it can also help you become more stronger emotionally.

Last time I was on there (like two years ago), eventually I was actually insulting them back. (But not in a bad way) XD

Even though I am not like that, it kind of allowed me to become a stronger person... well sort of..

 

[Black Angel]

I have, and the first thing I did was apologize for misleading that member by giving them the impression that I gave a flying fuck about what they thought about me and then promptly reassured them that I didn't.

 

[Geoffrey]

That was fun... lol.



If this happens, I'll just leave the forum. Assuming I did in fact just join, I have no attachment to the forum and so I'll just stop posting. I may visit occassionally still, but I sure won't be active as long as that user is there. They're not worth my time.

 

[Ashley]

Why is there online hatred towards people you don't even know?

Maybe because it's easier?

But then again, most people who act like turds on a forum are usually mentally challenged

Now, now, Smooth, that's not fair to the mentally challenged.

I am mentally challenged and I try to treat everyone I meet on a forum with a considerable amount of respect. So I actually find Smooth's point a tad on the offensive side. I don't find entertainment in being an idiot with people online. I never have been that way and I never will be that way. I may be mentally challenged but at least I know how to behave when on a forum!

 

[Andrew Darmac]

I had a similar experience when I joined my first forum. There was a member who didn't like me and I didn't like back almost as soon as I had joined.

Then we by chance began to talk a bit more and actually started to like each other a bit more with time. It seems that's been the case with me and other people I've met though.

 

[ConfabIt]

Lmao definitely. My girlfriend signed up to a forum and one of the staff randomly started calling her names and stuff. It was horrible. *shakes head*

 

[Jazzy]

Lmao definitely. My girlfriend signed up to a forum and one of the staff randomly started calling her names and stuff. It was horrible. *shakes head*

That's totally uncalled for and mean. What happened to this staff member?

 

[Hulk's iconHulk]

As sad as this sounds I used to be a member on a forum where the admin wanted me dead.

His reason was that I am more experienced in forums than he is.

Don't get it?

 

[Ashley]

As sad as this sounds I used to be a member on a forum where the admin wanted me dead.

His reason was that I am more experienced in forums than he is.

Don't get it?

What an idiot! (the person who said that to you, rather!) You'll always find people who are a lot more experience in this kind of thing than you do. I actually find this to be rather helpful because if there's something I don't understand, at least there are people who are higher up than I am experience wise who can explain it to me better.