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Were your parents abusive?

My mother used a 'switch' on me from time to time; I think today that would be considered abuse.......but, that was the trend in "those days".
 
Nowadays doing what many of our parents did in the 90s and 00s would be considered abuse. I think at most my parents could be verbally abusive at times and physically if I acted out in public.
 
Mostly mentally abusive
 
Let me tell you about my monster of a father. I only knew him for a year but he was a true monster.

When I was four I was taken away from the only family I'd ever known, my grandparents. They were raising me at the time and the state couldn't do much about it. I was taken away across country to his home town along with my sister who I didn't really know at the time. She was being abused from the get go and had many horrible things done to her.

During that time he assaulted my mother to the point of knocking out teeth, molested my sister (half sister I learned later), and beat me daily. His father was worse and I understand now that my father's behavior was learned. Not that it helped 4 year old me at the time but I still tried to stop him. My sister and I were also locked in a room with bars on the windows, food that was mostly expired given to us and one time I was even tortured for information after managing to call for help.

I'm really only going over the surface of the evils he and his family committed. Unfortunately they were protected by local politics. His father was the alderman of the town and a free mason, his mother worked with the police, his step mother was part of another secret society... So it wasn't difficult for them to cover all this up.

His father is now dead, he's become a pastor and is likely trying to repent but the stuff he put people through is not the sorta sin you can wash away. And having gone through that hell even if only for a year it was the crucible that gave me a sense of justice and a hatred for monsters like that.
 
No. I had really great parents. My mom was fun and loving. My dad was reserved. He never really told me he loved me in words but he would show that he loved me by taking care of my car or giving me some cash or things like that. I always felt loved by my parents.
 
I actually just ASSUMED everyone grew up like I did. It was quite eye opening when I went back to some of my HS reunions to hear what some of my classmates went thru. You just didn't know that back then. And, you assumed the football star had a charmed life but then find out his dad beat him if he wasn't the best.
 
Let me tell you about my monster of a father. I only knew him for a year but he was a true monster.

When I was four I was taken away from the only family I'd ever known, my grandparents. They were raising me at the time and the state couldn't do much about it. I was taken away across country to his home town along with my sister who I didn't really know at the time. She was being abused from the get go and had many horrible things done to her.

During that time he assaulted my mother to the point of knocking out teeth, molested my sister (half sister I learned later), and beat me daily. His father was worse and I understand now that my father's behavior was learned. Not that it helped 4 year old me at the time but I still tried to stop him. My sister and I were also locked in a room with bars on the windows, food that was mostly expired given to us and one time I was even tortured for information after managing to call for help.

I'm really only going over the surface of the evils he and his family committed. Unfortunately they were protected by local politics. His father was the alderman of the town and a free mason, his mother worked with the police, his step mother was part of another secret society... So it wasn't difficult for them to cover all this up.

His father is now dead, he's become a pastor and is likely trying to repent but the stuff he put people through is not the sorta sin you can wash away. And having gone through that hell even if only for a year it was the crucible that gave me a sense of justice and a hatred for monsters like that.

Wow, sorry you had to go through that. :hug:
 
Wow, sorry you had to go through that. :hug:
I appreciate it. but that was over 25 years ago. It made me stronger, better. Though I'm sure there are after effects from it.
 
Not one bit, and I still live with them in fact. I have very loving parents, I'm sad for those that cannot say the same. The closest thing to abuse was probably getting spanked with a paddle, but I probably deserved each and every one of them.
 
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