Adopted children

[Jazzy]

Question: Should adopted children be allowed to seek their biological parents/parent without their consent? (Why/Why not?)

 

[seasidemike]

An adopted child has just as much right to search as the biological parent has the right not to be found.
It is the same if you reverse that as well.

 

[Jazzy]

Some birth parents give their children up because they feel they are too young or they can't afford a child. However, some birth parents have darker reasons. Maybe the child was a product of rape or incest. Maybe the parent hated children but was against abortion. Maybe the parent wanted to abort but was forced into adoption. Could you imagine the pain a birth parent would go through, if the child was a product of rape or incest, having to relive their trauma? Could you imagine finally finding your birth parents just to learn that they hate you, or that they never wanted you, or that they tried to abort you?

Adopted children should be happy for their adoptive parents who love them and not try to open a can of worms.

 

[Nebulous]

I think once the adopted child reaches the legal adult age, they should be able to reach a logical decision on what to do.

 

[seasidemike]

I have an adopted child and if she was ever interested in searching for her biological parents, but I would be very clear that it may not be the result she would may be looking for and that she would need to be open to any outcome including the possibility of never finding out who gave birth to her.
But I would fully understand her wanting to know.

 

[Nebulous]

I have an adopted child and if she was ever interested in searching for her biological parents, but I would be very clear that it may not be the result she would may be looking for and that she would need to be open to any outcome including the possibility of never finding out who gave birth to her.
But I would fully understand her wanting to know.

Thats why they should wait until they are an adult and can be emotionally able to handle what will be seen.

 

[BeautifulAngel]

Yes, everyone should be entitled to know where they came from and what religion/region they are from. Family history is very important and if I was adopted I would definitely want to know more about my biological parents and where my ancestors lived especially if I was going to have kids.

Everyone should have the right to know about themselves and where they came from.

 

[seasidemike]

I have an adopted child and if she was ever interested in searching for her biological parents, but I would be very clear that it may not be the result she would may be looking for and that she would need to be open to any outcome including the possibility of never finding out who gave birth to her.
But I would fully understand her wanting to know.

Thats why they should wait until they are an adult and can be emotionally able to handle what will be seen.

I totally agree with you.

 

[+paradox]

yes, no need to explain...

 

[Doom]

Absolutely, its their right.