You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing he/she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?
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Awkward Lunch
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Slap them with spaghetti.
Wouldn't like it if they did that to someone I didn't know. Probably ask them to change the subject, it's always distasteful to talk bad about people you know during lunch anyways. (My opinion of course. OTL)
Insert a comment about how he/she is a good friend of mine and watch them squirm
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Do you realise almost every day of your life after age 6, i.ll say, someone is talking behind your back. At work everyone talks about Filipinos behind their back. If somone metions Filipinos it isn't long before someone mentioans are they ever hard wrokers. Now these people are immagrants and beleive they are Hard Workers so we think it's cultural thing, There society creates hard workers.
Now these three people criticising my friend would be basing thier thoughts on what they know and have heard about that friend and it is there truth, they aren't lying. Howver if one of them hates that friend you can expect themto spew bullshit. Since I know my friend better then them I wouldn/t tell them that them that person was my friend. I'd start questioning them during the conversation. How do you know that? Where did you here thatfrom? Innocent non-confrontational questions they have trouble answering.
As far as I can remember the first time encountered this was inhigh school. I went to school and one of the guys told me one of the girls had slept with the entire football team from amother high school. Where did you here this I asked? from another guy so I asked him and he heard from so and so. So iasked them and agian so \nd so. That was the end my questioning since none of the guys I asked were part of her social circle. I never considered it nothing but a lie.
It happened at work a few years ago and it was a Holy F Moment. It was a do nothing day and the went over to where The Entitled Ones were taalking and Holy Crap they were talking about whether another guy on the crew was gay. First words out of my mouth were, "Don't you realise you can get fired for talking about things likethis?" No one had thought of it.So I asked thereasons they thought he was gay and they gave them to me. I started giving the of a few guys we.ve who lived a similar lifestyle and asked if any of them thought they were gay.
As expected the answer was no. I said you've all known him for years and if he was gay woud itmatter? The answer was no. I then told them if they wanted to talk about that's keep iti on the crew. Ifsomeone hears the story and that person doesn't like you all it wouldtake is an ananonymous email to the company and they would rain hell on us. I'm sure they kept it on the crew.
Now "The Entitled Ones" are people under thirty who have spent their lives on the internet and defitiley have different way of thinking. Well my typing is improving, only 8 spell checks though I have;t any idea if this makes sense because I didn't botherto edit it
Now these three people criticising my friend would be basing thier thoughts on what they know and have heard about that friend and it is there truth, they aren't lying. Howver if one of them hates that friend you can expect themto spew bullshit. Since I know my friend better then them I wouldn/t tell them that them that person was my friend. I'd start questioning them during the conversation. How do you know that? Where did you here thatfrom? Innocent non-confrontational questions they have trouble answering.
As far as I can remember the first time encountered this was inhigh school. I went to school and one of the guys told me one of the girls had slept with the entire football team from amother high school. Where did you here this I asked? from another guy so I asked him and he heard from so and so. So iasked them and agian so \nd so. That was the end my questioning since none of the guys I asked were part of her social circle. I never considered it nothing but a lie.
It happened at work a few years ago and it was a Holy F Moment. It was a do nothing day and the went over to where The Entitled Ones were taalking and Holy Crap they were talking about whether another guy on the crew was gay. First words out of my mouth were, "Don't you realise you can get fired for talking about things likethis?" No one had thought of it.So I asked thereasons they thought he was gay and they gave them to me. I started giving the of a few guys we.ve who lived a similar lifestyle and asked if any of them thought they were gay.
As expected the answer was no. I said you've all known him for years and if he was gay woud itmatter? The answer was no. I then told them if they wanted to talk about that's keep iti on the crew. Ifsomeone hears the story and that person doesn't like you all it wouldtake is an ananonymous email to the company and they would rain hell on us. I'm sure they kept it on the crew.
Now "The Entitled Ones" are people under thirty who have spent their lives on the internet and defitiley have different way of thinking. Well my typing is improving, only 8 spell checks though I have;t any idea if this makes sense because I didn't botherto edit it
What really gets on my nerves is adults acting like or having the maturity of school kids.. I’ve had friends gossip about how rude another friend was to tell them they’re being loud or they talk too much
Sometimes ppl aren’t attacking you, they may have had a stressful day at work or have a headache and some ppl are just naturally reactive.
I’m not blaming anyone here… they’re neurodiverse so i can understand how they processed what was told but my annoyance was primarily “Why don’t you just tell them? By talking to me about it, you’re blowing a minor possible misunderstanding out of proportion.”
Sometimes ppl aren’t attacking you, they may have had a stressful day at work or have a headache and some ppl are just naturally reactive.
I’m not blaming anyone here… they’re neurodiverse so i can understand how they processed what was told but my annoyance was primarily “Why don’t you just tell them? By talking to me about it, you’re blowing a minor possible misunderstanding out of proportion.”
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