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Bad Behavior = Parents Fault?
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I personally say yes simply because a child's first role model and teacher is the parent(s). If they teach the child poor habits and behavior then it will carry on all through life. It's easier to fix issues like that early before they become older as the older you get the harder it is for you to change.
At an early age, everything you do in front of them is going to be considered the proper way to do things as after all how woudl they know it isn't when their parents are doing it themselves. So if you don't want a child doing things that you wouldn't want them to do then don't do it yourself either. At least that's what I think.
At an early age, everything you do in front of them is going to be considered the proper way to do things as after all how woudl they know it isn't when their parents are doing it themselves. So if you don't want a child doing things that you wouldn't want them to do then don't do it yourself either. At least that's what I think.
Honestly it's the person who raise them fault. Also it's not only the parents, it's everyone the child looks up to, they're gonna take after whoever they like. They take after everyone in a sense. But ultimately it's the parents responsibility to make sure their kids aren't influenced by bad people. Parents should if anything at least take a bigger part of their kids life, spend time with them, not just hand them to the day care and hope for the best.
My parents handed me to grandpa most of the time or my aunt. Personally I think I ended up alright.
My parents handed me to grandpa most of the time or my aunt. Personally I think I ended up alright.
No, bad behaviour isn't always the parent(s) fault.
Sometimes it's the child's own thrive to fit in or be cool
that causes them to act badly, but I honestly don't belive that there's
such thing as a bad kid. Just bad influences.
Sometimes it's the child's own thrive to fit in or be cool
that causes them to act badly, but I honestly don't belive that there's
such thing as a bad kid. Just bad influences.
Everyone's own behaviors are their own faults. My parents raised me to be certain ways and I didn't become some of those ways and it's because I'm me. You can teach the kids the rules of how to fit in in society, but they're the ones who choose whether to act on those rules you taught them or not. I choose to accept some of their rules and not others.
The difference between little kids and adults is that as a child you don't always understand a lot of the things of the world (you're just this developing confused little person) and take your parents' word for a lot of it, so sometimes you might act in a way because your parents misguided you in the wrong direction and you're too young to see that, but you're still your own person and you make your own decisions. Your parents aren't you. And when you see a little kid misbehaving, it is not because the parents had just whispered in their ear,Please misbehave and throw a tantrum because it's the right thing to do right now. No parents say something like that. Kids behave that way because even as a young, confused child, you still are rebelling against your parents sometimes. You are a separate person and a separate entity to them and children only behave when they both choose to listen to their parents and also when their parents tell them to do the right thing.
The difference between little kids and adults is that as a child you don't always understand a lot of the things of the world (you're just this developing confused little person) and take your parents' word for a lot of it, so sometimes you might act in a way because your parents misguided you in the wrong direction and you're too young to see that, but you're still your own person and you make your own decisions. Your parents aren't you. And when you see a little kid misbehaving, it is not because the parents had just whispered in their ear,Please misbehave and throw a tantrum because it's the right thing to do right now. No parents say something like that. Kids behave that way because even as a young, confused child, you still are rebelling against your parents sometimes. You are a separate person and a separate entity to them and children only behave when they both choose to listen to their parents and also when their parents tell them to do the right thing.
sabrina said:
Best point I've seen made in a long time. Parents have a role in the way children grow up, no doubt. But the extent of that is only so much. All little kids throw fits. It is accepted. Sometimes, there are a few traits that a child can pick up from their parents, and not know there is another way. Common courtesy, for one. Table manners, another. Things like those are the parents responsibility, and should be treated as such if the child, say, doesn't open a car door for the lady, or puts his elbows on the table while eating. I know those are vague, but they are just a couple examples off the top of my head.
Summary:
Older children and young adults have the intelligence to make their own decisions, but some of their actions can be a result of the way they were grown up, still. They might not know of a different way.
it's mostly the parents. if the parents are bad, the kids will be bad. if the parents are never there, the kids will be bad to get the parent's attention. but not in every single case when the parent is bad is the child bad. some of them realize hey, that's stupid, I shouldn't do that.
I can't say it's always the parents fault. My older son is a total pain in the ass. He skipped school again today. All because he doesn't want to change for gym. So now I have to drive him to school on my way to work and he has to sit there for an hour before school starts on gym days. I don't trust him to go to school by himself any longer. It's an inconvenice for me but I have to do it. I am a single mom and I have to go to work everyday so I can't be home when the bus comes. He also isn't getting the iPod he wanted for his birthday which is 12/22. He is getting nothing for his birthday and Christmas because his grade are horrible and he keeps skipping school. Also, he has been very rude and disrespectful to me. I do not tolerate a lot of his behavior and he gets punished and it doesn't have an impact on him. I took his cell phone away two weeks ago and he still is acting like an ass. He is going to Florida on 12/24 for two weeks to visit his grandparents. If they hadn't paid for the ticket, he would not be going. He doesn't deserve it. My point is sometimes no matter how hard a parent tries to raise a good kid, it doesn't work.
That's why he is not getting the iPod for his birthday. He really really wants one and asks about it everyday. I think not getting that will be a pretty stiff consequence. And having to be at school an hour early everyday will be too. What really pisses me off is that he is super smart and if he put even a little bit of effort into school he could get straight A's. He is wasting his potential.
I love this question because I actually studied child behaviors!
For the most part, yes it is the parents fault for not parenting the child correctly or not having any disciplinary measures in place. However, there could be other reasons for a child's behaviour such as autism, head injuries ,etc. that would play a huge role in the childs behaviour and it isn't the parents fault at all.
Though again, most times it is a lack of parenting that causes bad behaviours in kids but sometimes it's something that has nothing to do with the parents themselves.
^ InMyOpinion said exactly what I was going to. However, I do believe that some people can be born bad. I've seen a couple cases where the parents were as sweet and loving as could be, but their child was, plain and simple, evil. One family paid a shit ton of money on therapy and did everything they could for him. No mental illnesses or anything of the sort, he was just an asshole who enjoyed causing pain to anything living.
I went to school for criminal profiling and you are 100% right. Some people are just born evil. There is nothing anyone can do to change them, it's just the way they are. 🤷🏼♀️
It's not a black and white situation. There's some behaviors where you can see a correlation to insufficient parenting, and then there's other situations where said person is just a lost cause.
There's people who were perfectly fine living under their parents' roof, but then when they leave the bird's nest, they befriend the wrong crowd and end up with a criminal history.
There's people who were perfectly fine living under their parents' roof, but then when they leave the bird's nest, they befriend the wrong crowd and end up with a criminal history.
