Bad Friends

[Randy]

Do you have any friends that aren't very good friends (like they lie to you, never show up when they say they will, are unreliable, use you, make you pay for everything, etc) but they still are around anyways?

If so, why don't you get rid of them? Or, why don't you try to help them not be such a horrible friend?

 

[sabrina]

Well, everyone in the world has faults, so I do have friends with some serious faults, but they were ones I picked and chose as the less serious of the serious faults I could have in a friend.



I have one friend who is really sweet and really understanding (which I need so much), but it can be hard for her to keep secrets, although most of the time, that's okay. She doesn't usually hurt me too badly when she blabs.



I have another friend who gets extremely moody on a regular basis and acts rude to me when he is. I just leave him alone when he's in a bad mood and the rest of the time, he's an amazing friend. XD



And I learn to relate to people to the extent I can. I've had a lot of friends who were really fun to be around, but when you talk to them about your problems or life, they're really judgemental. So I don't spend time with those friends to talk, I spend time with those friends when I want to have fun.



I mean, there's lines I just can't cross and people I just can't be friends with because we don't have enough in common or trying to be friends with them is just too hurtful to me, but I don't really keep those people around. I get rid of them. I used to keep them in the past because I had zero self-esteem, but I have changed and things are different now.

 

[Nebulous]

Well, everyone in the world has faults, so I do have friends with some serious faults, but they were ones I picked and chose as the less serious of the serious faults I could have in a friend.



I have one friend who is really sweet and really understanding (which I need so much), but it can be hard for her to keep secrets, although most of the time, that's okay. She doesn't usually hurt me too badly when she blabs.



I have another friend who gets extremely moody on a regular basis and acts rude to me when he is. I just leave him alone when he's in a bad mood and the rest of the time, he's an amazing friend. XD



And I learn to relate to people to the extent I can. I've had a lot of friends who were really fun to be around, but when you talk to them about your problems or life, they're really judgemental. So I don't spend time with those friends to talk, I spend time with those friends when I want to have fun.



I mean, there's lines I just can't cross and people I just can't be friends with because we don't have enough in common or trying to be friends with them is just too hurtful to me, but I don't really keep those people around. I get rid of them. I used to keep them in the past because I had zero self-esteem, but I have changed and things are different now.

Great post.. I agree.



I have some friends who have flaked on me a few times or only seem to come around when I have a fresh pack of beer in my fridge, but in the end if I really wanted to get rid of them, they would be gone by now. I can accept people who have faults as I have a lot myself.

 

[Shocked]

My friend that I started talking to on MSN 2 months ago and he knew where I lived and everyone and we knew everything about eachother. Well, right out of the blew, he says I'm moving to Nova Scotia! (which is where I live). Well, I tried for days to to be able to find out where he lives and what his phone number is, he never told me. He said he was going to meet me at the racetrack 2 nights ago, didn't show. He said he had to leave earlier because his brother was (so said) in the hospital and he has been sick (I was told before) and something bad happened 2 nights ago. They were suppose to start going to my school yesterday, NO SHOWS and they were my best friends and all the heat came back at me and I was in the middle of EVERYTHING! Well, last Thursday I started going out with his sister and then yesterday I got dumped. The day after something happened. She was on the phone with her ex boyfriend from Ontario and told Dylan (her brother) to dump me. Me and Dylan started talking and he said that I only liked her because she was cute and I told him that it wasn't true per the fact I did like her for more then just that reason. I've been depressed for a full day now and I just feel like I have unreliable friends and me, myself, am unreliable; by my mind.

 

[Madyy]

I have one really good friend who isn't bad at all. She doesn't tell my secrets and I don't tell hers, she is there when I need someone to talk to, etc.



My other best friend isn't really as great as she used to be. I mean, she doesn't make me pay for her stuff - she sometimes pays for me, like if we go to Sonic and I'm out of cash. However, she really makes me mad when I'm at her house and I'll be all alone in her room because she'll be off on the computer or she'll be in her room, but she'll be texting someone else. I've even had to take her phone away when we go places just to get her to talk to me.



I have a group of friends that I've been friends with since, well, forever. We sit at the same table at lunch, we have all the same classes - we even sit next to each other in class. They aren't really good friends, though. They talk about me and my family while I'm there with them, but they talk about everyone like that - it just seems worse about me. They cuss and talk about MY other friends - calling them names and stuff. They leave ME out when they do Christmas stuff - they have done secret santa for the past few years and I have never participated because they never asked me to.



I'll stick with them, though. They can be good sometimes...

 

[Shocked]

I have one really good friend who isn't bad at all. She doesn't tell my secrets and I don't tell hers, she is there when I need someone to talk to, etc.



My other best friend isn't really as great as she used to be. I mean, she doesn't make me pay for her stuff - she sometimes pays for me, like if we go to Sonic and I'm out of cash. However, she really makes me mad when I'm at her house and I'll be all alone in her room because she'll be off on the computer or she'll be in her room, but she'll be texting someone else. I've even had to take her phone away when we go places just to get her to talk to me.



I have a group of friends that I've been friends with since, well, forever. We sit at the same table at lunch, we have all the same classes - we even sit next to each other in class. They aren't really good friends, though. They talk about me and my family while I'm there with them, but they talk about everyone like that - it just seems worse about me. They cuss and talk about MY other friends - calling them names and stuff. They leave ME out when they do Christmas stuff - they have done secret santa for the past few years and I have never participated because they never asked me to.



I'll stick with them, though. They can be good sometimes...

I need someone I can trust and can do what you can do. Tell secrets to him/her and not have them told, be able to talk to him/her, etc.

 

[TayneC8]

I used to have a so called friend who never turned up to things when he said so, but he was really nice to me on msn.

 

[Princess]

Do you have any friends that aren't very good friends (like they lie to you, never show up when they say they will, are unreliable, use you, make you pay for everything, etc) but they still are around anyways?

If so, why don't you get rid of them? Or, why don't you try to help them not be such a horrible friend?

I don't know if I have friends like that, but I know that there are days that everything bothers me--I might have a fight with my husband, the boss might jump my case--whatever. And I have bad days--everyone else does too. I try to give my friends the benefit of the doubt.

 

[sabrina]

[quote name='Madyy']I have one really good friend who isn't bad at all. She doesn't tell my secrets and I don't tell hers, she is there when I need someone to talk to, etc.



My other best friend isn't really as great as she used to be. I mean, she doesn't make me pay for her stuff - she sometimes pays for me, like if we go to Sonic and I'm out of cash. However, she really makes me mad when I'm at her house and I'll be all alone in her room because she'll be off on the computer or she'll be in her room, but she'll be texting someone else. I've even had to take her phone away when we go places just to get her to talk to me.



I have a group of friends that I've been friends with since, well, forever. We sit at the same table at lunch, we have all the same classes - we even sit next to each other in class. They aren't really good friends, though. They talk about me and my family while I'm there with them, but they talk about everyone like that - it just seems worse about me. They cuss and talk about MY other friends - calling them names and stuff. They leave ME out when they do Christmas stuff - they have done secret santa for the past few years and I have never participated because they never asked me to.



I'll stick with them, though. They can be good sometimes...

I need someone I can trust and can do what you can do. Tell secrets to him/her and not have them told, be able to talk to him/her, etc.[/quote]



I know what you mean. Those people can be hard to find, so I consider them the most valuable, no matter what their faults might be.

 

[DanteX]

Yes, that's all I'll say

 

[Kaczynski]

I have a lot, but I'm a worse friend, so I can't really talk. I don't trust anyone because they've all let me down, and in return, I don't expect anyone to trust me, because I'll let them down.

 

[Nebulous]

I have a lot, but I'm a worse friend, so I can't really talk. I don't trust anyone because they've all let me down, and in return, I don't expect anyone to trust me, because I'll let them down.

Well at least you admit it.