Body count - promiscuity

[The Raven]

Body count or promiscuity is always a hot topic among younger generations. Long time ago (well not that long) it was considered that woman should be virgin until the marriage while today this point of view is considered outdated and conservative. Modern women tend to change partners, have intercourse frequently and as they would like to say "experiment" and "try out" stuff until they decide it is time to get married.

What do you think on this particular subject? Should women have low body count or stay virgins until marriage or they should do it as much as they want and will be of equal value as those who are virgins?

 

[ElegantAura]

I never understood why is it ok for a man to have many partners before getting married but not for a women
if someone want a woman and she try to have a relationship without having sex yet, she will be called so many names and play hard to get but if she does she is a slut
no matter what she will do always will be called something
i am not going to try to say something great here as there is no point It's a man's world.

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[Mendalla]

Women should be held to the same standard as men. Why different standards for them?

I don't believe in waiting for marriage for either sex (we sure didn't), but would hope that anyone having a "high body count" is at least playing safe.

My personal preference for myself would be to have fewer, higher quality sexual relationships. Probably more enjoyable in the long haul than loads of encounters with relative strangers. So if not a girl/boyfriends, then maybe FWBs or something like that.

But, again, that's my personal preference, not a standard I would hold up for others.

 

[MrDawn]

I agree with @Mendalla that women should have the same rights and standards as men. I don't think it's right that some men shame women for having a lot of consensual sex.

 

[The Raven]

I never understood why is it ok for a man to have many partners before getting married but not for a women
if someone want a woman and she try to have a relationship without having sex yet, she will be called so many names and play hard to get but if she does she is a slut
no matter what she will do always will be called something
i am not going to try to say something great here as there is no point It's a man's world.

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If men desire a virgin girl, all of them should refuse sex until the marriage and by doing so, all women would remain virgins. So, we can see that man also have control over chastity of women. If women were to refuse sex before marriage, all of them would be virgins as men want them to be.
That being said, we can clearly see the responsibility is 50/50 in this case. One can't blame woman for not being virgin if he is the one who is taking virginity and then dumping them.

 

[ElegantAura]

If men desire a virgin girl, all of them should refuse sex until the marriage and by doing so, all women would remain virgins. So, we can see that man also have control over chastity of women. If women were to refuse sex before marriage, all of them would be virgins as men want them to be.
That being said, we can clearly see the responsibility is 50/50 in this case. One can't blame woman for not being virgin if he is the one who is taking virginity and then dumping them.

You did put this in a clever way i guess this way both on fault ....
most men want a virgin but they dont want to be one and that is how it is ... and why is always a womans fault ...
Its like some of the men thinking that is the womens fault that been raped
And even more bad there are some women believe this ...

i dont have a problem if a man wants a virgin thats great he can go and find a women with the same believes .. my problem is most time he want only the woman to be one...

 

[The Raven]

my problem is most time he want only the woman to be one...

Yup. I dislike double standards. Even in this matter. All of those red pill guys saying same things. It doesn't work like that..

 

[Saphira]

I'm not saying people should remain a virgin, but I sure would have doubts about anyone (also men) with extreme high "body counts", as to they would be able to remain faithful. Because, once past a certain threshold, they must be physically appealing to be able to get that many opportunities, and they in the past also often succumbed to them. Not a problem for people desiring an open relationship of some sort perhaps, but it would be for those not into that.

 

[Doc Nova]

Generally speaking, it comes down to some ignorance on the male's side. "She had x amount of partners? Her vagina is probably so stretched! It's like throwing a hot dog down a hallway." That's not necessarily the fault of men. We don't get in depth sex ed on female's bodies, just like females don't get in depth sex ed on male bodies. I find myself mixed on this topic, because on the one hand, I don't care if a girl I start dating has a body count, but at the same time, I would never date a girl who has porn star body count levels.

In terms of the virginity thing, that is 100% a dominance thing. "Yeah, I was her first, I own that shit now." Some men act like taking virginity is a trophy, a bragging right. As a guy, I can understand the mentality behind it. Hell I even understand the dominance part. Is it right or wrong? To each their own.

 

[Dismal_Bliss]

I never understood why is it ok for a man to have many partners before getting married but not for a women

It's not, necessarily. Depends on what kind of circles you run in. Men who are always trying to use women, increase their body count, and brag about it - well, I don't want anything to do with them. I will choose better associates.

Women should be held to the same standard as men. Why different standards for them?

Set your own standards. Don't let society or others set your standards for you.