Breaking up Relationship

[nomad]

How many times have you been in a relationship and how many times you have broken up ( as opposed to your partner breaking up the relationship)? When the relationship breaks, is it always your partner's fault or do you also admit your mistakes? After breaking up do you try to mend the relationship again?

 

[Nebulous]

I've been broken up with maybe 5 times (where they ended it). I've been the breaker-upper maybe 4 times (where I ended it).

I don't recycle relationships so when its over, its over.

 

[MrDawn]

How many times have you been in a relationship and how many times you have broken up

I've had many women break up with me more times than I've ever broken up with anyone else. I don't know the exact number.

I don't recycle relationships so when its over, its over.

Agreed. It's better to start over with someone new.

 

[Henrywrites]

I have not experienced any heartbreak. Some of my friends talk about heartbreak, but it is something that I haven't felt how it is. Maybe because I have not been deep into relationships before.

 

[Black Angel]

I have been in 2 relationships.. my marriage is the second relationship.. I am not a big fan of wasting my time and I pretty much knew exactly what I wanted in a man, (intelligence, sense of humor, respectful, etc.) but I thought my expectations were too high and that the ideal guy I wanted, didn't exist. So I lowered my expectations and I ended up with my ex. And literally on the same day we decided to see a movie since school was out for Winter Recess, I ended up meeting the man who eventually became my husband.. I was annoyed, because had I have held out by one day, that first relationship would not have happened..

I ended the first one, to make a long story short, it was a colossal waste of time and I wish I could get those 8 months of my life back and he really wasn't worth the racist bullshit I went through with him, but my friends thought I should give him a chance since he seemed nice.. but even though it was a waste of time, I can't really hate on it too much as it literally led me to my husband.

He actually took care of us when we went to see a movie, and I ended up working at the same theatre later on. For the longest time, while working there, I was trying to figure out how I knew him because he was so familiar.. I knew it wasn't from school since he is 3 years older than me, but I couldn't shake the feeling that I knew him from somewhere.. It didn't come back to me until a few years after we got married and we were talking about the movies we saw at the theatre we worked at.

So perhaps I had to endure what I did in order to be ready for the real thing.

 

[Nebulous]

I have been in 2 relationships.. my marriage is the second relationship.. I am not a big fan of wasting my time and I pretty much knew exactly what I wanted in a man, (intelligence, sense of humor, respectful, etc.) but I thought my expectations were too high and that the ideal guy I wanted, didn't exist. So I lowered my expectations and I ended up with my ex. And literally on the same day we decided to see a movie since school was out for Winter Recess, I ended up meeting the man who eventually became my husband.. I was annoyed, because had I have held out by one day, that first relationship would not have happened..

I ended the first one, to make a long story short, it was a colossal waste of time and I wish I could get those 8 months of my life back and he really wasn't worth the racist bullshit I went through with him, but my friends thought I should give him a chance since he seemed nice.. but even though it was a waste of time, I can't really hate on it too much as it literally led me to my husband.

He actually took care of us when we went to see a movie, and I ended up working at the same theatre later on. For the longest time, while working there, I was trying to figure out how I knew him because he was so familiar.. I knew it wasn't from school since he is 3 years older than me, but I couldn't shake the feeling that I knew him from somewhere.. It didn't come back to me until a few years after we got married and we were talking about the movies we saw at the theatre we worked at.

So perhaps I had to endure what I did in order to be ready for the real thing.

Sounds like that 8 months was worth it to me, if finding your hubby was impossible without it.

 

[Scarlet Rose]

It has been a long time since I have been in a relationship, so it feels like I am looking at another lifetime when I try to recall how my relationships have ended. I have had 3 break up with me and I have broken up with 2. I would say that I was at fault in all five of them. Although I would note that my most recent ex when it ended at the end of 2010 expressed that she wished I would learn to forgive myself. With the first four the end resulted in a clean break when we stopped communication with each other. With the last one however we continued talking for 2 or 3 years afterwards. I am pretty sure I was still talking to her mother for over a year after we broke up, since we did end on really good terms.