Change and Lessons

[Flurry]

For some, its needed. And for others. They could care less. And for some, there is a lesson involved. You may already know this Lesson. Yet, you still tend to make mistakes. Mistakes that have consequences. Such as hurt feelings or your significant other being quite upset with you. Or worse. And yet, you tend to fall back into bad habits. The question in the long run is.. Do you keep on striving to make this change? Not just for your significant half.. but for your self as well? Or let it fall to the side and lose out cause you were unwilling?



As for myself.. I have no intention of giving up. My other half is one of the best things to happen to me in a long time. I want to make her happy, and proud of what I am doing. Its slow going as I still fall into my habits. But I will change. And hopefully... she's willing to stand by me, despite how frustrating it can be.

 

[Cranos]

Everyone has bad habits. If a girl wants to completely change me then I will probably break up with her very fast. She should like me for who I am and not for what she wants me to be. That doesn't mean I don't take her feelings into account though, in a relationship you always have to make some adjustments.

 

[Flurry]

I'm not saying she wants me to completely change. And I am more then willing to make the adjustments she wants me to make.

 

[Cranos]

I'm not saying she wants me to completely change. And I am more then willing to make the adjustments she wants me to make.

Well I was more speaking about my own past experience. I wouldn't comment on your situation since I hardly know anything about it.



Good you found someone though.

 

[Jazzy]

I'm not saying she wants me to completely change. And I am more then willing to make the adjustments she wants me to make.

May I ask what adjustments she wants you to make?

 

[Flurry]

Well I was more speaking about my own past experience. I wouldn't comment on your situation since I hardly know anything about it.



Good you found someone though.

Oh, no worries. And thanks

May I ask what adjustments she wants you to make?

Basically, from how I understand it. Less sleeping in. As well as less staying up late.

 

[Jazzy]

Basically, from how I understand it. Less sleeping in. As well as less staying up late.

Not understanding. How is what you are doing affecting your girlfriend?

 

[Flurry]

She from what I understand, doesn't like it. And feels that I'm sleeping my life away.

 

[Jazzy]

She from what I understand, doesn't like it. And feels that I'm sleeping my life away.

Okay but I'm still not understanding how that is affecting your girlfriend. Does she want to go out and you're sleeping?

 

[Flurry]

Well if that was the case, I could understand it. But she lives in a different state. With her, I think what it is she is saying. Is that that time I am sleeping during the day. Could be spent with her. Its just taking me a bit longer then it should be to get that fully into my head.

 

[Jazzy]

Well if that was the case, I could understand it. But she lives in a different state. With her, I think what it is she is saying. Is that that time I am sleeping during the day. Could be spent with her. Its just taking me a bit longer then it should be to get that fully into my head.

Now I get it as this is a LDR. I guess time is limited as to when you two get to converse online?

Sorry for all the questions as I'm just trying to understand your situation.

 

[Flurry]

Now I get it as this is a LDR. I guess time is limited as to when you two get to converse online?

Sorry for all the questions as I'm just trying to understand your situation.

Yeah. We've been together for nearly 7 months. We did seperate for a bit around Christmas. And yeah, its a bit limited cause of what she does during the day and the job she later has. Hours and such. So my sleeping habits aren't helping any either. And no worries. I don't mind the questions. To be honest, it gets me to think.

 

[Jazzy]

Yeah. We've been together for nearly 7 months. We did seperate for a bit around Christmas. And yeah, its a bit limited cause of what she does during the day and the job she later has. Hours and such. So my sleeping habits aren't helping any either. And no worries. I don't mind the questions. To be honest, it gets me to think.

I think that's one of the hardest parts of a LDR. When time is limited one person (or both) may feel they are not spending quality time if one party is sleeping while the other is free to talk. It's a difficult situation and I hope you and your girlfreind can find some middle ground that makes you both happy.

 

[Flurry]

I think that's one of the hardest parts of a LDR. When time is limited one person (or both) may feel they are not spending quality time if one party is sleeping while the other is free to talk. It's a difficult situation and I hope you and your girlfreind can find some middle ground that makes you both happy.

Yeah, I'm really starting to understand it all better now. And thank you for your support! For now, I think we have worked out something. But only time will tell.

 

[Naviero X]

I actually read one or two stories about LDRs. It's amazing how people maintain it. It takes a unique set of people, but it seems like it's totally work out.



I try to change when I think I need to. It's hard sometimes, since it is a very big thing, but I really am happy in the end.

 

[Jazzy]

@Sci: How are things going so far?

 

[Flurry]

Pretty well. We managed to have a pretty enjoyable day yesterday until I got called in. And yeah Naviero, it is pretty amazing how we and others are able to maintain it.

 

[Jazzy]

That's good to hear Sci! I also agree LDR's are very difficult to maintain. Sounds like you and your GF are finding a way to do it.

 

[Flurry]

Aye. That we are!