Conflict in the family

[nomad]

Did you ever have conflict in the family, how did you settle? Can you be in good terms with your family after having a conflict? If you were wronged, do you think you can forgive your family members? Well, I have had multiple conflicts in the family and as time passed, conflicts were settled and we are in good terms.

 

[fuzzems]

Would depend on what it is i think. We are a pretty low drama family. I think we all keep out of each other's business and we are all fairly introverted. I try not to comment on things that are none of my business. Generally don't give advice unless asked, etc. The biggest drama in the family has been my sister in law. She just talks a lot about all kinds of things and makes comments. We all just kind of nod and say yeah and go with it, so there's not much conflict anymore. I think conflicts happen when people just won't accept that someone else has their own way, their own opinions, their own life, etc.

 

[MrDawn]

I've had conflicts with family members and had to cut ties with them. Sometimes loving someone from afar is the only way to keep the peace.

 

[fuzzems]

I think too many people try to change the behavior of others. They "set boundaries" thinking that will change the OTHER person's behavior. I don't try to change anyone's behavior. I just decide how much I want to engage it, how i want to engage , and when. Just because someone is annoying doesn't mean I have to let them annoy me. I can go to Thanksgiving dinner, make small talk and be polite. I don't have to engage my emotional or mental energy on someone who is an annoying jerk. Now, i am not talking about ABUSE or abusive people. Someone can run their mouth or whatever and it can go in my one ear and out the other.

 

[Doc Nova]

Sadly every family has some type of conflict. Those who, in their mind, honestly say "my family doesn't have conflict" are just unaware of said conflict. Families have issues and families fight, it's normal. For me, personally, I keep my family at arm's length. The only person who truly wronged me is my dad, and we never speak. My mom and I have gotten in fights when I lived with her, but that's normal when you live in a confined space with someone. Most people do forgive and make up with their family after a fight, but there definitely are circumstances where what they were fighting about was serious enough that reconciliation is never an option.

 

[Shawn Gossman]

I have family members that I don't associate with or even consider my family. But if other members of the family want to associate with them, that's fine; just leave me out of it.

I have good reasons. They've done wrong, and they've gotten away with it. I know it's just for me to avoid people like that, which is what I do.