Disowned

[Jazzy]

Have you ever disowned a family member?.. Why?

 

[Sariki]

Not me personally.
I have however been disowned. When I got out of the military I went straight to Virginia. I'm from Colorado. I went for a woman and spent a year and a half out there. My family disowned me for it too.... I came back to Colorado and it's better for the most part now. It was rough though.

 

[Jazzy]

Not me personally.
I have however been disowned. When I got out of the military I went straight to Virginia. I'm from Colorado. I went for a woman and spent a year and a half out there. My family disowned me for it too.... I came back to Colorado and it's better for the most part now. It was rough though.

That was sad to read. I'm glad, however, that for the most part it's better for you now.

 

[Dee]

No, not really. I haven't come to that point and I doubt I will.

 

[Jazzy]

I haven't. There is a nurse at work who totally disowned her son. When he told her he is gay, she threw him out of the house. She has no contact with him even though they live in the same town. I find this so very sad but it's her loss (IMO) and not his.

 

[Dee]

I haven't. There is a nurse at work who totally disowned her son. When he told her he is gay, she threw him out of the house. She has no contact with him even though they live in the same town. I find this so very sad but it's her loss (IMO) and not his.

I cannot understand why a parent would have the capacity to do this to their own child. This isn't like they're breaking the law, hurting people or doing something bad. I get that it might be for them, but that's just one of the most cold and callous things I think a person could do to their child.

 

[~KAGE-008]

I haven't. There is a nurse at work who totally disowned her son. When he told her he is gay, she threw him out of the house. She has no contact with him even though they live in the same town. I find this so very sad but it's her loss (IMO) and not his.

Those cases of disowning must vanish for once. But sometimes the only way to solve it is by living independently and (if he/she decides to) with his/her S.O.

 

[Wonko]

I have a sister who I refuse to have any dealings with unless I absolutely have to and usually at my mothers request only, I have 2 other sisters who I get along with very well, the one I almost disown is a selfish nasty manipulative woman and always has been right from we were old enough to talk and nothing will ever change her. My parents finally realised what she is really like only a couple of years ago but they will not disown her and I would never want them to ether, the way it works atm for me is I have as little as possible to do with her and only speak once in maybe 3-4 years.

 

[Sariki]

@Jazzy that is just wrong on so many levels. The anger I have for that is beyond. How could someone do that to their own flesh and blood. -_- As for me it happened. When I got out of the military I was so lost. They kinda just drop you on your butt and say have a nice day. There isn't much direction. So I thought at the time it was the right thing to do.

 

[Jazzy]

@Jazzy When I got out of the military I was so lost. They kinda just drop you on your butt and say have a nice day. There isn't much direction. So I thought at the time it was the right thing to do.

I'm sorry they treated you like that. I would, however, like to thank you for serving our country.

 

[Sariki]

I do appreciate that.
It happens, regardless of how they treated me, it was still rough to have your family do that. I try not to do that to others.

 

[Jazzy]

I do appreciate that.
It happens, regardless of how they treated me, it was still rough to have your family do that. I try not to do that to others.

I'm sorry they did that. Here this is for you....

 

[Sariki]

Aww thanks so much for that!

 

[MrDawn]

Have you ever disowned a family member?.. Why?

I was disowned by my father.

My mother wouldn't get an abortion like he asked, so he married her, tried to make things work and justify his actions. when I asked him this question growing up, he'd never answer because it was true since one day he admitted it.

This is also why I'm so against abortion. Not such a good idea, when someone is talking about terminating your life.

In the end he cheated on my mother with a woman older than himself and left. At the age of 12, I went to live with him. He was the biggest son of a bitch, I ever met. One day he gave me a choice when my mother took custody of me. I was about to turn 15 when I went to live with my mother.

He said. "Your mother or me."

I chose my mother. She had always been there and supported me, he hardly ever did.

When I tried to call or visit him. He claimed that I was no longer his son. Told me to have a nice life and that I was on my own. He acted as though that I was asking a favor to have him in my life. Said he'd had enough and that my half sister was his only child.

I called him a while back at his work to his office. I was 24 when I did this and I did for a few months off and on. He doesn't recognize my voice. How pathetic right? He is a college professor in another state. I pretended I was a student interested in his class .So we talked a while and I gave him a false name. I called him for a while before I'd had enough. Reality told me that he'd never accept me for who I was, and that I needed to move forward.

Because of him I had to see a few councilors and get on some medication to numb the humiliation. I honestly had never wanted to kill someone so badly. When I think of him, I think of strangling him. I often think of pay back. But I know I'll never see the day.

 

[Bamboo]

I cannot understand why a parent would have the capacity to do this to their own child. This isn't like they're breaking the law, hurting people or doing something bad. I get that it might be for them, but that's just one of the most cold and callous things I think a person could do to their child.

I guess it's just the way the family has always been bought up, after generations of a family having certain family rules it could be hard to just snap out of them and disobey your entire family history. It's messed up and sadly disowning a family member happens way too often than it should over.

I've never been disowned and in all honestly, I would rather be disowned for something by my family then what happens to some people in stories you read. Could always be a lot worse than just being disowned. Although losing a family member in whatever situation it might be in, is always terrible and very hard to deal with.

 

[Bamboo]

I always seem to double post when I'm on Off Topix