Divorce

[Jazzy]

So many marriages end in divorce. Just wondering if you are or where a child of divorced parents. If so, what affect (if any) has it had on you?

 

[Cranos]

My parents were never married, but are still together.

 

[Rapunzel]

My parents were never married, but are still together.

How does that affect you?



How do you feel about that?



My partner and I are not married although we've been together for a long time.



We have our reasons for our choice but I sometimes wonder how our children will react when they find out the truth.



I worry about it a lot and would love to hear your perspective on it and how it affected you.

 

[Cranos]

How does that affect you?



How do you feel about that?



My partner and I are not married although we've been together for a long time.



We have our reasons for our choice but I sometimes wonder how our children will react when they find out the truth.



I worry about it a lot and would love to hear your perspective on it and how it affected you.

I doubt it has had any effect on me. They've been happily together for more than 20 years and I fail to see how a contract would've made any difference whatsoever. I'm not religious though, so for me marriage doesn't have any spiritual value. I don't even remember wondering why they aren't married, I must have accepted my parents' explanation immediately.

 

[Rapunzel]

I doubt it has had any effect on me. They've been happily together for more than 20 years and I fail to see how a contract would've made any difference whatsoever. I'm not religious though, so for me marriage doesn't have any spiritual value. I don't even remember wondering why they aren't married, I must have accepted my parents' explanation immediately.

Thankyou for answering and yes, I agree. A piece of paper makes no difference whatsoever. (Barring property rights, but that doesn't apply to me).



Interestingly, my son once said he was the only child in his class whose parents were still together. How odd that all the married ones were divorced!

 

[LunarScorpio]

My parents were divorced, but it was actually a really weird setting because after they got divorced they lived together, but in separate rooms. My mom and I moved out, but I was already almost in my teens by the time we left. I don't know if it really had an affect on me; though, I think I was much more careful when selecting who I dated and who I (later) married, I always looked for someone who I could really trust and rely on.

 

[Dennis]

Both of my parents are divorced and they both have partners. They divorced when i was 6, so i don't really remember how it affected me. Right now, i see my father on the weekends and i'm a lot closer to my mother. I can't say i regret their separation, because i wouldn't be where i am now and i wouldn't have a sister or a brother for that matter.

 

[Nebulous]

My parents divorced and my relationship with my child's mother resulted in the same way. Guess history is doomed to repeat itself.

 

[Dennis]

I believe that 51 percent of marriages in the USA have ended in a divorce. I don't remmeber where i heard that, so i can't verify it but it's a scary fact if it's true.

 

[Kahnai]

You can't get divorced if you were never married, but what about a common law marriage divorce?



My uncle and my aunt, have been together since before I was born. Years before I was born. My uncle wants to be married, and wants to have children. But when he proposed, she refused. Yet continued to see them. So now they are in their endless loop of my aunt thinking, I wanna be with you, but I don't want to be WITH you.



I asked my uncle if he was happy and he said he loves my aunt, but he really wanted children and the whole settling down aspect.



It's been years and years, and I do love my aunt but I (personally) think my uncle should have moved on and found someone he could build his dreams with. He so wants to be a Dad... and he would make a great one. But the longer he waits, the older they get...



I don't know...



Then my parents! Ugh!



They've been married years and they can't stand each other. My father sat me down when I was 3 said they were getting a divorce and has said it at least once a month since.



It's devisting to hear that constantly and the fighting that went on... ugh...

 

[CommanderMadi]

I was drinking some coke and reading this interesting thread but I was like WTH!



Guys, may be I am the only one over here from the Middle East, and may be I am the only Arabian one over here and to see your replies, I'd almost think that all of your parents are divorced

Well, in our community and society life differs completely from the life in any other society. Divorcing in our community is not prohibited but its so hated and disliked. Parents generally in our society care so much about keeping up their house running smooth and bringing up their kids, even if the man dislikes the woman or vice versa, they will try to cope together and make it out to bring up the babies.



Many people in my country married, loved each other, tried for a baby, brought babies then here the stress goes. As they start new responsibility of taking care of that child, they go wild, tired of thinking and that makes quarelling a compulsory thing between them but YET, they do not leave each other and they do not go separated, our community is kind of stable, at this point of course.