Entering the mind of a woman. Have a question for all you ladies.

[WHO IS SERAFIN]

Have been married now for 10 fantastic years. My wife knew from day one I hated rings on my fingers and the fact its not safe with my work. And it never been a problem but Now after ten years of what are the happiest years of my life she has been obsessing these last few weeks for me to wear the ring. Which by the way when we got it over ten years ago I was 50 pounds heavier. But know that we are both big into working out it does not even fit me anymore.

I know women are complicated creatures far more then men. So Any ideas on what is driving this ladies?

 

[DarkFury]

Have been married now for 10 fantastic years. My wife knew from day one I hated rings on my fingers and the fact its not safe with my work. And it never been a problem but Now after ten years of what are the happiest years of my life she has been obsessing these last few weeks for me to wear the ring. Which by the way when we got it over ten years ago I was 50 pounds heavier. But know that we are both big into working out it does not even fit me anymore.

I know women are complicated creatures far more then men. So Any ideas on what is driving this ladies?

Your wife is Asian and she sees/feels a threat and she wants whats hers marked.
Consider a ring tat on your finger.

 

[yugasini]

Woman's heart is more deeper than the ocean, it is difficult to understand a woman.

 

[Jazzy]

So Any ideas on what is driving this ladies?

There is only one lady that can answer your question. That lady is your wife.

 

[WHO IS SERAFIN]

Have been married now for 10 fantastic years. My wife knew from day one I hated rings on my fingers and the fact its not safe with my work. And it never been a problem but Now after ten years of what are the happiest years of my life she has been obsessing these last few weeks for me to wear the ring. Which by the way when we got it over ten years ago I was 50 pounds heavier. But know that we are both big into working out it does not even fit me anymore.

I know women are complicated creatures far more then men. So Any ideas on what is driving this ladies?

Your wife is Asian and she sees/feels a threat and she wants whats hers marked.
Consider a ring tat on your finger.

My wife is Spanish but probably the same thought process works. But does not explain after 10 years why now.

 

[WHO IS SERAFIN]

So Any ideas on what is driving this ladies?

There is only one lady that can answer your question. That lady is your wife.

If only it was that easy with women to get a straight answer.

 

[Jazzy]

So Any ideas on what is driving this ladies?

There is only one lady that can answer your question. That lady is your wife.

If only it was that easy with women to get a straight answer.

It is easy depending on how you're asking the question. Why not just sit down and ask her what you just said here: "After 10 years why now?"

 

[WHO IS SERAFIN]

So Any ideas on what is driving this ladies?

There is only one lady that can answer your question. That lady is your wife.

If only it was that easy with women to get a straight answer.

It is easy depending on how you're asking the question. Why not just sit down and ask her what you just said here: "After 10 years why now?"

okay I will come clean you can't be married 10 years and not have good communication. I just thought it would make for some interesting answers.

 

[Nebulous]

Maybe its been bothering her all along and now she's finally speaking her mind about it.

 

[Jazzy]

So what's the answer?

 

[Bluezone777]

Maybe its been bothering her all along and now she's finally speaking her mind about it.

This honestly makes the most sense to me. I would have a hard time believing this thought came about just now as it's probably been there from the beginning and it's only now that for whatever reason had the push to talk about it.

 

[Dee]

I don't know about her in particular because all people are different--both men and women--so to assume that this wouldn't matter for a man could be rather offensive. In any case, marriage and rings are indicators of a commitment. You've dedicated the rest of your life to someone else, and that's a huge, huge thing to many people. It can also act as a sign of faith and trust, and it's possible she could feel slightly jealous if she knows you're not wearing your ring, especially now after a long time. Perhaps it is that she thinks you're getting bored with her, and not wearing a ring makes it easier for other women to look at you and think: "Oh, wow, he's not married."

 

[DrLeftover]

"the mind of a woman"?

 

[WHO IS SERAFIN]

So what's the answer?

First she put our wedding photos on facebook 5 or 6 years ago. And since I have no idea how facebook works she said someone found them and put likes on them. Which then other people see it and put likes I think is how it works. So it made her go through the wedding photos and remember how nice of a day it is. And she said she would just like to see me wear it sometimes with our ten year anniversary around the corner. I guess I need a new ring because its way to loose now. And I really need to come up with a nice anniversary surprise.

But I also think its some of this. For my personal business I go to homes for various repairs and home inspections. And I try to keep our relationship very honest and open. So I have told her about two college women hitting on me in the last few months. I would never cheat but what guy does not like younger women flirting with you? And finally with her heavy training for running marathons and the work out called insanity she does, she has gone from 95 pounds to 115 in muscle making all her pants tight in the legs and butt area. I think she looks fantastic getting muscular but she thinks she is getting fat. Just strange! So she wont really say it but I think she is feeling a little insecure.

 

[Dee]

So what's the answer?

First she put our wedding photos on facebook 5 or 6 years ago. And since I have no idea how facebook works she said someone found them and put likes on them. Which then other people see it and put likes I think is how it works. So it made her go through the wedding photos and remember how nice of a day it is. And she said she would just like to see me wear it sometimes with our ten year anniversary around the corner. I guess I need a new ring because its way to loose now. And I really need to come up with a nice anniversary surprise.

But I also think its some of this. For my personal business I go to homes for various repairs and home inspections. And I try to keep our relationship very honest and open. So I have told her about two college women hitting on me in the last few months. I would never cheat but what guy does not like younger women flirting with you? And finally with her heavy training for running marathons and the work out called insanity she does, she has gone from 95 pounds to 115 in muscle making all her pants tight in the legs and butt area. I think she looks fantastic getting muscular but she thinks she is getting fat. Just strange! So she wont really say it but I think she is feeling a little insecure.

There's nothing necessarily wrong with it as long as it's not affecting your relationship. You just have to realize that these things are important to her. Just reassure her that she's the one you married, and that she's the one you come home to each night. It's natural for people to get insecure and jealous, especially when people are hitting on their loved ones, their spouses. How would you feel if a very handsome, hunky guy was hitting on your wife? Chances are you might not care, you might trust her enough knowing she wouldn't cheat on you, but you may not. It may make you feel jealous and overly protective, but you just take it out in different ways.

 

[Jazzy]

And she said she would just like to see me wear it sometimes with our ten year anniversary around the corner. I guess I need a new ring because its way to loose now. And I really need to come up with a nice anniversary surprise.

It would be much cheaper just to have your original ring resized. Since it's the original ring, it holds more significance to your wife than a new one would. You'd have to sneak the ring out of the house for my anniversary surprise to work:

A nice anniversary surprise would be to have a very small intimate ceremony and renew your wedding vows. Hand her a small box and when she opens it, it contains your resized original wedding band. Then ask her to place the ring on your finger.

 

[WHO IS SERAFIN]

And she said she would just like to see me wear it sometimes with our ten year anniversary around the corner. I guess I need a new ring because its way to loose now. And I really need to come up with a nice anniversary surprise.

It would be much cheaper just to have your original ring resized. Since it's the original ring, it holds more significance to your wife than a new one would. You'd have to sneak the ring out of the house for my anniversary surprise to work:

A nice anniversary surprise would be to have a very small intimate ceremony and renew your wedding vows. Hand her a small box and when she opens it, it contains your resized original wedding band. Then ask her to place the ring on your finger.

The ring has designs on it so that could not be done. I would have to gain all my weight back. Lol!

She was talking about renewing our vows back in Ecuador with her entire family and friends of hundreds since we got married here. But that is big endeavor to pull off by April. She would not want to spend the money again and do it here again. There is no such thing as small when it comes to her and her family when the word wedding is involved.

 

[Jazzy]

The ring has designs on it so that could not be done. I would have to gain all my weight back. Lol!

She was talking about renewing our vows back in Ecuador with her entire family and friends of hundreds since we got married here. But that is big endeavor to pull off by April. She would not want to spend the money again and do it here again. There is no such thing as small when it comes to her and her family when the word wedding is involved.

Regarding the ring: Even though it has designs on it, doesn't mean it's impossible to have it resized. Find a jeweler and see if they can do it. If not then perhaps they can order the same ring but only this time in your correct size.

Regarding renewing the vows: Can't you and your wife go there? I'm sure with all her friends and family there you have plenty of people to help you organize this. Would they be able to keep it secret why you are coming and what you plan to do?

 

[WHO IS SERAFIN]

The ring has designs on it so that could not be done. I would have to gain all my weight back. Lol!

She was talking about renewing our vows back in Ecuador with her entire family and friends of hundreds since we got married here. But that is big endeavor to pull off by April. She would not want to spend the money again and do it here again. There is no such thing as small when it comes to her and her family when the word wedding is involved.

Regarding the ring: Even though it has designs on it, doesn't mean it's impossible to have it resized. Find a jeweler and see if they can do it. If not then perhaps they can order the same ring but only this time in your correct size.

Regarding renewing the vows: Can't you and your wife go there? I'm sure with all her friends and family there you have plenty of people to help you organize this. Would they be able to keep it secret why you are coming and what you plan to do?

This ring cannot be resized. I will just lt her pick another one if she wants.

Not by next year. Earlier this year I convinced her to go there for three weeks to spend some time with her very elderly parents with failing health. So between that vacation time and the vacation time we used in California she is out of vacation time. And no one speaks english except her. And I would never dare even think of planning something like that without her. I just stayed out of it for the first one and put on the clothes she wanted said I do and smiled a lot for a camera when the time came. LOL! Maybe for our 15th anniversary.