Family of 13-year-old autistic boy disgusted after hate-filled letter

[Jazzy]

The family of a 13-year-old autistic boy in Canada was sent a hate-filled anonymous letter, urging them to “move or euthanize” the teen because he is a “nuisance” to the neighborhood.

The one-page missive, purportedly from a neighbor, was slipped under the front door of Brenda Millson’s Ontario home, where her grandson, Max Begley, spends his summer mornings, City News Toronto reported.

The Letter

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The boy’s father, James Begley, said he drops his son off at Millson’s house every morning because Max’s mother has multiple sclerosis.

“Max’s grandmother helps us out a lot,” he told CNN, adding that he found the letter “disgusting.”

“I cannot believe that someone would think that in this day and age.”

“Who says that about a child?” the boy’s tearful mother, Karla Begley, told City News Toronto.

The parents — who live about 15 minutes away from the grandmother’s home in Oshawa, which is about 40 miles outside Toronto — said they hope investigators find the person who wrote the letter.

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This just makes me so angry. The person who did this is disgusting and I hope they find her.

 

[DrLeftover]

A child like that does require almost constant supervision.

Perhaps he is not getting it.

But I do agree, the letter is obscene.

 

[Jazzy]

There is no excuse in this world to write a hate filled letter like this person did. It's not the childs fault he's autistic. This child is a human being with feelings just like we have. If this were my son, I would hunt this person down and God help them when I found them.

 

[DrLeftover]

Like I said, I agree that the letter cannot be excused.

But I doubt if it was written in a vacuum.

There has to be more to the story that we do not know.

 

[Bryd0]

A child like that does require almost constant supervision.

Agreed.

By the way, I like how that letter is splattered with so many exclamation and question marks. Nothing else to say about it, other than it was very disrespectful.

 

[Jazzy]

The one-page missive, purportedly from a neighbor, was slipped under the front door of Brenda Millson’s Ontario home, where her grandson, Max Begley, spends his summer mornings, City News Toronto reported.

The boy’s father, James Begley, said he drops his son off at Millson’s house every morning because Max’s mother has multiple sclerosis.

This child doesn't even live in the damn neighborhood. So what's this psycho's problem? She's a sick and disturbed bitch. That's what her problem really is.

 

[Bryd0]

So, not only the woman used excessive amounts of exclamation and question marks to get her "point" across and be such an obnoxious person, she also assumes that the boy lives in a neighbourhood when really he isn't?

Think it's safe to say that the boy is smarter than her right now.

 

[DrLeftover]

Perhaps some back story to explain where I am coming from.

Several years ago a family lived not far from my house with a 'special' child.

Many a day I would come home from work and see him standing somewhere, just staring at something, a house, a car, tree, whatever, he would stand and stare at it.

Sometimes he would be on the sidewalk, or in somebody's yard, sometimes he'd be in the street.

If you stopped and tried to get him to move out of the street, he'd make unintelligible noises at you, but sometimes he'd move. And sometimes he wouldn't.

Occasionally, the local authorities would drive by when he was in the street, and once in awhile they'd call a 'wagon' for him that was capable of dealing with him. But, after what was probably an unpleasant experience for all, he'd go back home, and then, sooner or later, he'd be back outside, standing, and staring.

This went on for at least five or six years that I can remember, until he was a teenager.

I don't know what happened to him or his family, but I haven't seen him in the street for a number of years.

Like I said early on, that sort of child requires supervision. And sometimes, a locked door.

But I never wrote a letter like that to anybody.

 

[Sinon]

The letter was uncalled for. But in a way, I agree with some of the sentiments.

I went to college in 2005, and in my class was an autistic boy. He constantly disrupted the class, watched Pokemon on his laptop, he stole and threw another member of the class' cellphone out of the window (the classroom was 3 storeys up) and had nothing brought against him. He wasn't required to pay for the damage, he wasn't kicked out for being disruptive, nothing.

He received a Distinction, the highest grade possible, despite the fact it was his chaperone who did his classwork. He just did not fit in with polite society, and it pissed me off, and still does to this day, that they allowed the things he did to go on simply because he's "different". Sure, it's nobody's fault that their child is born with autism, but at the same time they should be treated in a manner that suits them; they are DIFFERENT. There is no sense in making an entire class suffer because the teacher has to spend most of his time dealing with the disruptive one who doesn't understand because he was playing games on his laptop instead of taking notes.

 

[Jazzy]

@Doc: I appreciate where you're coming from. However, I did not read in that letter that THIS child was in the street or in somebody's property. The complaint in the letter was about the noise he makes. You make reference in your post to a 'locked door'. There is no evidence from that letter that he's not supervised. So, from the evidence presented, should he also be behind a 'locked door'?

 

[Jazzy]

The letter was uncalled for. But in a way, I agree with some of the sentiments.

I went to college in 2005, and in my class was an autistic boy. He constantly disrupted the class, watched Pokemon on his laptop, he stole and threw another member of the class' cellphone out of the window (the classroom was 3 storeys up) and had nothing brought against him. He wasn't required to pay for the damage, he wasn't kicked out for being disruptive, nothing.

He received a Distinction, the highest grade possible, despite the fact it was his chaperone who did his classwork. He just did not fit in with polite society, and it pissed me off, and still does to this day, that they allowed the things he did to go on simply because he's "different". Sure, it's nobody's fault that their child is born with autism, but at the same time they should be treated in a manner that suits them; they are DIFFERENT. There is no sense in making an entire class suffer because the teacher has to spend most of his time dealing with the disruptive one who doesn't understand because he was playing games on his laptop instead of taking notes.

This would piss me off too. There are "Special Education' classes he could have attended. At least here in the U.S. there are, I'm not sure how it works in the UK. Maybe, just maybe, he acted out because even he knew he was different. Not an excuse for what he did or was allowed to do but just maybe.....

 

[DrLeftover]

From the article and the letter, there is no way to know.

However, it is very clear that there is a lot going on there that we simply don't know about.

It is possible the letter writer had their own experience with a 'special individual' and the whole thing has dredged up a lot of bad memories.

It is also possible they're just a busybody/asshole and need their own 'locked door'.

 

[JetWing34]

I first saw this letter shared by a local radio station from Canada. Whoever wrote this letter should be arrested by the RCMP, and shall face him/herself a serious sentence.

 

[DrLeftover]

I didn't know ignorance was a crime in Canada.

 

[JetWing34]

I have hatred in the author of the letter. I dislike her with a burning passion, and you can smell my smoke from your house.

 

[Evil Eye]

That's horrible. I do indeed wonder what brought this on...
My further thoughts aren't quite forum appropriate so I'll just leave this with a quote, "Five exclamation marks, the sure sign of an insane mind."