Far Too Emotional Girls..

[Skillet]

Have you ever had to deal with this? Too emotional or clingy? I'm dealing with this today. She likes this guy, but he obviously doesn't like her. She texts me constantly about him, and if it wasn't him, it was some other guy. She's been like this since August. She gets worked up to the point of talking of suicide. How do you deal with a situation like this?

 

[Temerit]

Tell her not to kill herself over some dumb guy that she will never have a meaningful relationship with.

 

[Skillet]

I feel like saying that. She says she wants a relationship, but gives in too easy. I feel like saying it is her fault, because in sense, it is. I just don't want to be held responsible if she does do something.

 

[Nebulous]

How old is she?

 

[Tom]

I wonder why you're even dealing with her talking about another guy to you, and about a relationship.



Is this your best friend or someone you like?

 

[Skillet]

I wonder why you're even dealing with her talking about another guy to you, and about a relationship.



Is this your best friend or someone you like?

Was a really good friend. Nice person. And got in one bad relationship, and it's messed her up pretty bad since.

 

[Tom]

Oh... okay.



So basically you're offering her your ears, etc?

 

[Skillet]

Pretty much. But at times, it gets too much. How do you tell her that she needs to not fall in love with every guy that will talk to her, and give in so easy if you know what I mean?

 

[Skillet]

Tell her that not every guy will want to be in a relationship with her like that.

Like what?

 

[Skillet]

Actually, that's not her problem. She doesn't want a relationship like that. She just thinks it's the only way to keep them around. Once the guys get what they want, they leave. She gives in far too easy..

 

[Alien]

She sounds insecure, like she has a low opinion of herself? And being with these guys is actually hurting her more. I feel for her. I know she must be a bit of a pain in the backside though!

 

[Scout]

Well first I would tell her straight up that this guy's not into her, and that she's wasting her time, but then again I'm honest to a fault.

If that didn't work and she refused to listen to me I'd just tell her simply that she'll be sorry she doubted me, and eventually she'll realize that she's wasting her life talking to this guy when she's up 7 days a week texting him every five minutes.

 

[Skillet]

If she was talking to them, it wouldn't be a problem. It's me she's constantly talking to. Not the guys she likes..

 

[Scout]

Well it pretty much works both ways, you need to tell her that seeking someone out who clearly doesn't want to be seeked is a waste of time, and if she won't listen then I have no sympathy for her.

 

[Corleone]

How old is she?

Good question. If she is young, tell her to enjoy being a kid, stop dating, because it probably won't last. Not saying stop talking to people, but stop trying. If you meet someone and you like them, go from there, but don't go looking right now. If it happens it happens, if it don't it don't. Study in school and worry about your future. Best advice you could give a young girl, because until she can handle the heartbreak, she doesn't need to be dating. Especially if suicide is coming across her mind. If you have any doubt she is serious about suicide, contact her parents and let them know what's going on. Too young to be worrying and considering suicide over a boy.

 

[Princess]

Everyone needs a cheerleader....some more than most.

My best friend--who is a guy--calls me and reminds me that I am someone special who deserves the best out of life. He tells me when I'm being stupid or stressing out over something dumb. (Stop that Princess, you're NOT dumb)

All you need to do is to remind her that she is wonderfully made and if a guy can't tell that--he's the one losing out, not her.

One thing you may want to watch out for is that she may fall for you. If that's not your thing, make sure she knows that from day 1. Good luck.

 

[Skillet]

Everyone needs a cheerleader....some more than most.

My best friend--who is a guy--calls me and reminds me that I am someone special who deserves the best out of life. He tells me when I'm being stupid or stressing out over something dumb. (Stop that Princess, you're NOT dumb)

All you need to do is to remind her that she is wonderfully made and if a guy can't tell that--he's the one losing out, not her.

One thing you may want to watch out for is that she may fall for you. If that's not your thing, make sure she knows that from day 1. Good luck.

She did. I was dating at the time. Actually, I used to like her too. She wasn't always like this. One bad relationship really messed her up. I keep giving her positive inspiration, while at the same time keeping it real. I'm not telling her lies to make her feel better.

 

[Princess]

She did. I was dating at the time. Actually, I used to like her too. She wasn't always like this. One bad relationship really messed her up. I keep giving her positive inspiration, while at the same time keeping it real. I'm not telling her lies to make her feel better.

You should be able to build up her self esteem without lying to her. I didn't mean tell her that she looks like Jessica Simpson, if she looks like Marge Simpson....Just tell her the truth. Remind her that she has good attributes. Everyone has them. If you guys are such good friends--that shouldn't be difficult.