how do you cope with greef?

[emily]

how do you cope with greef, and what are your strategies to help you cope?

as for me, I find myself greeving more for celebrities, than I do people that are actually close to me and I'm actually quite embarrassed by it.

people like michael jackson pass, and I cry for an entire year

but when people like my grandmother pass, nothing... not even upset for a second- it's weird.
when celebrities die, one of the things I like to do is stand outside and pretending I'm talking to the sky (and hope that peoplel ike michael jackson can hear me)

I give a little ulegy about their life. makes me feel better that I've done something like that

 

[Smiley]

I go to Soviet Russia where grief copes with YOU, comrade!

 

[Nebulous]

I cried a lot when my mom passed and was depressed for a while. I was still sad when others close to me have passed, but not to the extent I grieved my mother.

 

[Smiley]

My mother is the last living family I have, not counting my relatives. I didn't shed so much as a tear for my father when he died. I will commit suicide when my mother dies.

 

[Nebulous]

My mother is the last living family I have, not counting my relatives. I didn't shed so much as a tear for my father when he died. I will commit suicide when my mother dies.

Does she live with you?

 

[passenger]

My mother is the last living family I have, not counting my relatives. I didn't shed so much as a tear for my father when he died. I will commit suicide when my mother dies.

I sure hope you are joking!

 

[Smiley]

Unless some event drastically changes my mind, I intend to remove myself from this world once my mother is gone. I know my death would devastate her to the point she'd never recover from, so I'll wait for her to go first. My relatives are going to celebrate my death anyway, since they'll be able to claim my house and other property they've been coveting for years now.

 

[Megan]

Unless some event drastically changes my mind, I intend to remove myself from this world once my mother is gone. I know my death would devastate her to the point she'd never recover from, so I'll wait for her to go first. My relatives are going to celebrate my death anyway, since they'll be able to claim my house and other property they've been coveting for years now.

I hope you don't actually intend that. It'd make her so sad. Plus your too awesome to do that.


As for myself, I have lost people but I don't usually react much even if I am sad. I don't really remember crying too much or anything. But everyone does react differently I guess.

 

[Smiley]

I hope you don't actually intend that. It'd make her so sad.

That's the thing. I'm fully aware of what effect my suicide would have on my mother, so I'll play along and continue going through the motion while she's still alive, unless I meet my demise in some other way first, of course, like, say, a traffic accident.

My relatives from my father's side will be happy when I'm gone, and the one's from my mother's side won't miss me either, so I have no reason to keep on living once my mother is gone.

 

[Megan]

That's the thing. I'm fully aware of what effect my suicide would have on my mother, so I'll play along and continue going through the motion while she's still alive, unless I meet my demise in some other way first, of course, like, say, a traffic accident.

My relatives from my father's side will be happy when I'm gone, and the one's from my mother's side won't miss me either, so I have no reason to keep on living once my mother is gone.

I kinda get it. I'm really close to my mom and I don't know what I'd do without her.

As for other relatives who cares? Just live long even if its to spite them.

 

[Smiley]

 

[Megan]

You'd best or ferret army!

 

[Smiley]

If they're as cuddly as cats, bring them on.

 

[Megan]

If they're as cuddly as cats, bring them on.

Oh I will if you don't behave.

 

[Smiley]

Yes, Mistress.

 

[passenger]

Unless some event drastically changes my mind, I intend to remove myself from this world once my mother is gone. I know my death would devastate her to the point she'd never recover from, so I'll wait for her to go first. My relatives are going to celebrate my death anyway, since they'll be able to claim my house and other property they've been coveting for years now.

Whatever that event to change your mind might be, I certainly do hope that it happens. A traffic or any other kind of accident would probably only render you crippled, helpless, and in some kind of good or bad 'assisted' facility for your natural duration.

Also...what the ferret Queen has said, " Plus your too awesome to do that. "

 

[Smiley]

A traffic or any other kind of accident would probably only render you crippled, helpless, and in some kind of good or bad 'assisted' facility for your natural duration.

Unacceptable. Being crippled and forced to rely on the help of others would only make me even more motivated to off myself. Life is bad enough even when you're healthy and able to take care of yourself, but to be tied down to a wheelchair or a bed for the rest of my life... no thanks. Just pull the plug and let me die, and then watch my cousins throw a party and dance on my grave in ecstasy.

Also...what the ferret Queen has said, " Plus your too awesome to do that. "

That's very sweet of both of you to say. Thank you, but I'm afraid there's nothing awesome about me.

 

[passenger]

Unacceptable. Being crippled and forced to rely on the help of others would only make me even more motivated to off myself. Life is bad enough even when you're healthy and able to take care of yourself, but to be tied down to a wheelchair or a bed for the rest of my life... no thanks. Just pull the plug and let me die, and then watch my cousins throw a party and dance on my grave in ecstasy.

That's very sweet of both of you to say. Thank you, but I'm afraid there's nothing awesome about me.

That's not for you to say. We can tell.
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But, what if, your "accident attempt" messed up & you just wound up helpless....not able to perform any more attempts. "Unacceptable" or no, you're stuck with it.
So, DON"T!!

 

[Nebulous]

@passenger & @Megan are the best!

@Smiley

 

[Smiley]

But, what if, your "accident attempt" messed up & you just wound up helpless....not able to perform any more attempts. "Unacceptable" or no, you're stuck with it.

Yes, that's the risk. I guess drowning is always an option. It worked for my friend / neighbor when he decided to remove himself from this world. His mother hasn't recovered from it yet, though. She's a completely different person now, visibly devastated. His father doesn't seem to be affected, though, just the opposite, he seems relieved he got rid of him.