It's Over?

[Corleone]

I guess it's over between me and my girlfriend. I've been noticing lately that she has been acting different, and last night was the final straw. I finally asked her if she felt the same way still and she said we needed to take a break, but she still wants to be friends. I told her that's fine and I appreciate her telling me the truth.



This morning, she sent me a txt saying: Hey we need to meet this afternoon sometime and talk. Please



I don't know what she wants to talk about or anything, because I thought we already established it's over.

 

[Jazzy]

I'm sorry this is happening as I know how much you like her. I guess she wants to meet face to face to explain her reasoning for needing a break. Perhaps she's seeing someone else and wants to tell you herself before you find out from another source. Maybe it's something as simple as she feels the relationship is moving too fast and that has scared her. At least I give her credit for being honest and I would hear her out. You'll never have closure on this unless you meet with her.

 

[DrLeftover]

You want somebody to explain women?



Good luck my friend. Good luck.



I'm supposed to have a Ph.D. on the subject of women. But the truth is I've flunked more often than not. I'm very fond of women; I admire them. But, like all men, I don't understand them.

- Frank Sinatra (1915 - 1998)

 

[Corleone]

We never were able to meet because evidently she got upset with me on the phone. She said she made a big mistake last night and she didn't want to break up with me and I was honest with her and told her she really hurt me; she wasn't too happy that I didn't welcome her back with open arms. So, she won't talk to me and I don't plan on talking to her. As far as I know, it's over. I just don't understand how she's mad at me because I won't forgive her through her words alone. Actions speak louder than words. If she wants to start treating me better that's one thing, but otherwise, I'm done.



I treated her like a princess. I made sure she felt loved and cared for, I respected her and her parents, including their values, and I put up with a lot of pain and made several sacrifices just to be with her, and I'm done being treated like the king's shoe shiner.

 

[Sariki]

Good for you bro. It's hard too keep on your stand point you know? so I give you props for doing so great job bro!

 

[Jazzy]

[font=arial,helvetica,sans-serif]Good for you and I admire you for your values!

 

[Corleone]

Thanks! I'm dreading school tomorrow because I park next to her, we sit around the same people in the gym, we have third block together and sit beside each other, and we sit around the same people at lunch. It's going to be extremely awkward.

 

[Flurry]

Thanks! I'm dreading school tomorrow because I park next to her, we sit around the same people in the gym, we have third block together and sit beside each other, and we sit around the same people at lunch. It's going to be extremely awkward.

Ouch man, just deal with it as best you can. Frankly, it should just be awkward for her since she's the one who basically caused the mess to begin with.

 

[Jazzy]

How did it go at school? I have a feeling you and her are not done yet. I think you're both hurt and perhaps both a little stubborn.

 

[Corleone]

How did it go at school? I have a feeling you and her are not done yet. I think you're both hurt and perhaps both a little stubborn.

I'm done with her. I got to see the real her today and it wasn't the least bit attractive. She didn't get to school later on purpose so she wouldn't have to talk to me, she acted like nothing was wrong today in class, and never made an attempt to talk to me. I wouldn't take her back if she begged me to. After seeing the real her, the uncaring inconsiderate her, I can't believe I wasted four months of my life. (Two pre-dating, two dating)

 

[Corleone]

Only problem is, I don't think she was acting. I honestly believe she never truly felt the same way. She just wanted to have a boyfriend, and she wanted to make up because she already bought her homecoming dress.

 

[Cranos]

I'm done with her. I got to see the real her today and it wasn't the least bit attractive. She didn't get to school later on purpose so she wouldn't have to talk to me, she acted like nothing was wrong today in class, and never made an attempt to talk to me. I wouldn't take her back if she begged me to. After seeing the real her, the uncaring inconsiderate her, I can't believe I wasted four months of my life. (Two pre-dating, two dating)

That's typical behaviour for a teenage girl. It doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't care. In fact, I'm pretty sure she was dreading the awkwardness as much as you and just wanted to avoid it (and you).

 

[Corleone]

She genuinely seemed to be perfectly fine today, and I was trying to give off the same impression, but I couldn't because in reality I was torn. And I'm sure she noticed I was down but she obviously didn't care, at all.

 

[Cranos]

Well, of course I don't know her so I can't say for sure, but I have been through my fair share of break ups and the girl in question often acted very hurtful in one way or another afterwards. Certainly around that age when you're both not that mature yet when it comes to relationships (not that I'm mature about it at my age, mind you). The way she's acting is typical, trying to win the break up. My point is, you're emotional right now, if I were you I'd try to refrain from making a demon out of her until you can think more clearly about it.

 

[seasidemike]

I guess it's over between me and my girlfriend. I've been noticing lately that she has been acting different, and last night was the final straw. I finally asked her if she felt the same way still and she said we needed to take a break, but she still wants to be friends. I told her that's fine and I appreciate her telling me the truth.



This morning, she sent me a txt saying: Hey we need to meet this afternoon sometime and talk. Please



I don't know what she wants to talk about or anything, because I thought we already established it's over.

You want to win her back???



Don’t be a baby about it… man up.



This is not a take you ball and go home situation.



Tell her respect her opinion, give her space and be the best friend you can be.

Change the topic as soon as possible to something light and fun



Don’t be a feck’n downer.. start showing her the guy that she wanted to go out with in the first place.

 

[Jazzy]

Any update on this situation?

 

[Corleone]

Any update on this situation?

We still don't talk. I want closure, but I'm afraid that's not possible anymore. She's too prideful to apologize, and I'm too hurt to take her back. She did admit she made the wrong choice and she didn't want to break up, but I can't go back to that. She claims that she really cares for me, but she's done nothing on her part to make things right between us. The day after we broke up she was suppose to meet me somewhere and talk about everything, but she went to a shooting range instead.



I'm done with her though, and there's nothing left to do other than move on. I'm moving on. I can sleep at night knowing I gave her my all, and I treated her the way a girl should be treated. The treatment I received from her was harsh, and I know I deserve better than that. It's difficult, but I have to let go and move on. She can continue to ignore me and tell her friends I'm the bad guy, but I'm not going to step down to her level, because that's not who I am and that's not who I'm about to be.

 

[Jazzy]

I'm done with her though, and there's nothing left to do other than move on. I'm moving on. I can sleep at night knowing I gave her my all, and I treated her the way a girl should be treated. The treatment I received from her was harsh, and I know I deserve better than that. It's difficult, but I have to let go and move on.

I'm glad you have decided to move on. You're a nice guy and you will find another girl who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Any relationship is a two way street and it seems like this old girlfriend thought only of herself. You're both young and will learn from this and as difficult as it is to move on, you are doing the right thing.