Last Relationship

[Icetex]

Never been in relationship :forever alone:
so i wouldn't know

 

[Nebulous]

Never been in relationship :forever alone:
so i wouldn't know

Do you want to be in a relationship?

 

[Icetex]

Never been in relationship :forever alone:
so i wouldn't know

Do you want to be in a relationship?

so wouldn't sound like creep
I do but thing is not sure if girl ready with my personality
My personality is well... all over the place when come to girl taking to me IRL
Just tend get nervous around girls(I don't know why). I tend to ramble too
or try make direct eye contact just mind set i guess
so really depends on the girl really

 

[Nebulous]

Never been in relationship :forever alone:
so i wouldn't know

Do you want to be in a relationship?

so wouldn't sound like creep
I do but thing is not sure if girl ready with my personality
My personality is well... all over the place when come to girl taking to me IRL
Just tend get nervous around girls(I don't know why). I tend to ramble too
or try make direct eye contact just mind set i guess
so really depends on the girl really

Im sure there's plenty of girls out there just like you, personality wise. Maybe your two personalities will mesh well because you'll understand each other.

...Or you could find someone opposite from you. Some say opposites attract.

 

[Icetex]

Never been in relationship :forever alone:
so i wouldn't know

Do you want to be in a relationship?

so wouldn't sound like creep
I do but thing is not sure if girl ready with my personality
My personality is well... all over the place when come to girl taking to me IRL
Just tend get nervous around girls(I don't know why). I tend to ramble too
or try make direct eye contact just mind set i guess
so really depends on the girl really

Im sure there's plenty of girls out there just like you, personality wise. Maybe your two personalities will mesh well because you'll understand each other.

...Or you could find someone opposite from you. Some say opposites attract.

Oh okay Just takes time i guess

 

[Nebulous]

The perfect person will walk into your life when you're least expecting it. That's usually how it happens.

 

[Phossix]

Got asked out by a girl last night, and said yeah. She was pretty happy, but when I woke up, I just didn't feel ready for it. Had to let her down. Feel kinda bad now.

 

[Nebulous]

Got asked out by a girl last night, and said yeah. She was pretty happy, but when I woke up, I just didn't feel ready for it. Had to let her down. Feel kinda bad now.

Hmm, well if you weren't feeling it then it was best to cut it off before it even began.

 

[Phossix]

True, but I wish I hadn't agreed.
I was slightly drunk the night before, and was egged on by my even drunker friend.

What's done is done now, I suppose.

 

[~KAGE-008]

True, but I wish I hadn't agreed.
I was slightly drunk the night before, and was egged on by my even drunker friend.

What's done is done now, I suppose.

Maybe you should look for a therapist if you want to stop that madness.

 

[Bluezone777]

I think to stop drinking or at least to stop drinking to get drunk will be enough. Getting drunk doesn't lead to anything good. All you do is lose all self control which leads to doing things you while sober will regret and hate yourself for. Whatever pleasure you think will come out of being drunk is not worth all the pain that normally follows it.

I hope he was at least honest with the girl in telling her that it wasn't her with a problem as he was the one with the problem and it had to do with him not being ready for a relationship and not due to her not being good enough for him. At least he can salvage the situation so it isn't as painful as it could end up being.

 

[Phossix]

True, but I wish I hadn't agreed.
I was slightly drunk the night before, and was egged on by my even drunker friend.

What's done is done now, I suppose.

Maybe you should look for a therapist if you want to stop that madness.

There's genuinely no need for a Therapist. I went to see one a few years back, for different reasons, and it was a waste of time for me. I'm fine. I'm managing okay - although I made a few mistakes, like a most people do. I learn from these mistakes, and don't make them in future.

I think to stop drinking or at least to stop drinking to get drunk will be enough. Getting drunk doesn't lead to anything good. All you do is lose all self control which leads to doing things you while sober will regret and hate yourself for. Whatever pleasure you think will come out of being drunk is not worth all the pain that normally follows it.

I hope he was at least honest with the girl in telling her that it wasn't her with a problem as he was the one with the problem and it had to do with him not being ready for a relationship and not due to her not being good enough for him. At least he can salvage the situation so it isn't as painful as it could end up being.

I drink sensibly most of the time. I can't say that's always the case, but a wise old man who taught me everything I know told me that "Man should be the one who controls alcohol. He should never be in a position where he lets alcohol take control of him."

Funny story though, I was out last night at a friend's for a BBQ and some ciders, and even though I told her the other day it wouldn't work out, she just asked me out on a date again. To which I just said I had plans. Which I do. :glare:

 

[GoldenBlade]

My last girlfriend was just a drama queen. I have no idea what I was thinking when I asked her out. She was a big waste of time, and I should've known it.

 

[Ladyvamptress]

My last relationship lasted almost a year and a half. We started off as great friends, became best friends in a very short time and then maybe 6 months after we met, decided to date. 8 months after that, he decided to ask me to marry him. I was so happy... we had that perfect relationship, but I guess it was too perfect because 7 months after he proposed... he left me outta the blue. When I tried to fix the relationship (honestly I didn't really know what was wrong as it was really a great relationship we had), he told me to not bother because he just didn't love me anymore. Whaaat?

I did try for a couple of months to talk him into trying to fix things, but he just would say it was no use and avoid me. We agreed to stay best friends and things were ok between us, until one day (8 months after the break up) he texted me while I was on a date with another guy asking me to come over as he missed me. I got excited and thought that maybe he would finally wake up to see what he threw away. I went straight over to his house after my date ended. We had sex, he was very romantic. I didn't dare bring up a relationship yet, I thought I'd just go with the flow until he was ready. A few months later, he asked me to come over and hang out, again saying how he missed me. I went over, sex happened again. He just seemed so loving in those moments, he'd even cuddle me after and watch movies. I was so happy! This went on for about a lil over a year.

When he never asked me back out or anything, I got to wondering why he would ask me over and have sex with me. Then the thought of him using me for sex hit my brain and it about ripped my heart out. I tried to push that thought outta my head cause I never would have thought he would do that, he was one of the 'good guys'. I just had to know, so the last time he asked me over, I asked him, "Are you having sex with me outta love or is it just sex to you?" He said it was just sex. It crushed me, I had unknowingly been letting a guy use me for sex. I just got up and walked outta his house without saying one word and I haven't spoken to him since (July 2012).

I am in a relationship currently, have been since Feb 15, 2013 and it's going great... one of the best relations I've ever had with a truly great man.

 

[Nebulous]

My last relationship lasted almost a year and a half. We started off as great friends, became best friends in a very short time and then maybe 6 months after we met, decided to date. 8 months after that, he decided to ask me to marry him. I was so happy... we had that perfect relationship, but I guess it was too perfect because 7 months after he proposed... he left me outta the blue. When I tried to fix the relationship (honestly I didn't really know what was wrong as it was really a great relationship we had), he told me to not bother because he just didn't love me anymore. Whaaat?

I did try for a couple of months to talk him into trying to fix things, but he just would say it was no use and avoid me. We agreed to stay best friends and things were ok between us, until one day (8 months after the break up) he texted me while I was on a date with another guy asking me to come over as he missed me. I got excited and thought that maybe he would finally wake up to see what he threw away. I went straight over to his house after my date ended. We had sex, he was very romantic. I didn't dare bring up a relationship yet, I thought I'd just go with the flow until he was ready. A few months later, he asked me to come over and hang out, again saying how he missed me. I went over, sex happened again. He just seemed so loving in those moments, he'd even cuddle me after and watch movies. I was so happy! This went on for about a lil over a year.

When he never asked me back out or anything, I got to wondering why he would ask me over and have sex with me. Then the thought of him using me for sex hit my brain and it about ripped my heart out. I tried to push that thought outta my head cause I never would have thought he would do that, he was one of the 'good guys'. I just had to know, so the last time he asked me over, I asked him, "Are you having sex with me outta love or is it just sex to you?" He said it was just sex. It crushed me, I had unknowingly been letting a guy use me for sex. I just got up and walked outta his house without saying one word and I haven't spoken to him since (July 2012).

I am in a relationship currently, have been since Feb 15, 2013 and it's going great... one of the best relations I've ever had with a truly great man.

Glad you got that loser out of your life and found a winner!

 

[Ladyvamptress]

My last relationship lasted almost a year and a half. We started off as great friends, became best friends in a very short time and then maybe 6 months after we met, decided to date. 8 months after that, he decided to ask me to marry him. I was so happy... we had that perfect relationship, but I guess it was too perfect because 7 months after he proposed... he left me outta the blue. When I tried to fix the relationship (honestly I didn't really know what was wrong as it was really a great relationship we had), he told me to not bother because he just didn't love me anymore. Whaaat?

I did try for a couple of months to talk him into trying to fix things, but he just would say it was no use and avoid me. We agreed to stay best friends and things were ok between us, until one day (8 months after the break up) he texted me while I was on a date with another guy asking me to come over as he missed me. I got excited and thought that maybe he would finally wake up to see what he threw away. I went straight over to his house after my date ended. We had sex, he was very romantic. I didn't dare bring up a relationship yet, I thought I'd just go with the flow until he was ready. A few months later, he asked me to come over and hang out, again saying how he missed me. I went over, sex happened again. He just seemed so loving in those moments, he'd even cuddle me after and watch movies. I was so happy! This went on for about a lil over a year.

When he never asked me back out or anything, I got to wondering why he would ask me over and have sex with me. Then the thought of him using me for sex hit my brain and it about ripped my heart out. I tried to push that thought outta my head cause I never would have thought he would do that, he was one of the 'good guys'. I just had to know, so the last time he asked me over, I asked him, "Are you having sex with me outta love or is it just sex to you?" He said it was just sex. It crushed me, I had unknowingly been letting a guy use me for sex. I just got up and walked outta his house without saying one word and I haven't spoken to him since (July 2012).

I am in a relationship currently, have been since Feb 15, 2013 and it's going great... one of the best relations I've ever had with a truly great man.

Glad you got that loser out of your life and found a winner!

Thank you! I'm very happy with who I'm with now and I'm glad that none of my other relationships worked out. All that pain and heart break was worth it in the end.

 

[xlovelyxrosesx]

My last relationship was actually a little scary. He was physical with other people and I often feared if he would ever hurt me. He was rarely sweet to me and expected me to give everything to him while I got absolutely nothing. I tried talking to him or spending time with him, but he often was busy with something else. I broke up with him. It was quite scary though. I had friends next to me in case he tried to hurt me. He just walked away and punched things on the way out. I am very happy i'm out of that violent relationship. My current relationship is much better, even if I can never really touch or see him, he is better than any other relationship I have ever had with any other person.