Living Together

[Jazzy]

Do you think couples should live together before getting married? Why or Why not?

 

[Evil Eye]

Probably, get to know each other before getting married, divorce rates are high enough already.

 

[Nebulous]

I lived with my daughter's mom (my ex) for 3 years. I suppose it was a good thing because it led us to break up. Had we been married, I would have had to go through a divorce. I'd rather have a clean break up with a girlfriend then a nasty divorce resulting in me giving her half my stuff or paying her spousal support.

 

[Psychognosis]

I think it depends on the couple. My view of marriage is it is more a legal contract dealing with property than love anyway.

 

[Kasynlie]

Why not? If anything it would strengthen the relationship and make it clearer as to whether the two should be married.

 

[Jazzy]

I think it's a great way to find out if you are truly compatible before getting married.

 

[Xarina]

I don't think living together is necessary. Not all divorces get nasty. My parents just got divorced it's like oki, not as childish as other divorces (yet at least, although they've had their moments). I'm comparing with my best friends parents who divorced last summer though. They were way worse than mine.

Of course mom is a bitch thinking dad cheated on her while she was the one leaving for another guy T.T me and my brother knows for a fact dad has never cheated. He've been home with us or always with mom the whole time so meh... Bitch pisses me off.



Sorry for kinda turning this into a mini-rant.

 

[Kingmush]

I think it's a must. When you're that close to your significant other and always around them you get to know them on a deeper level. And that level will basically decide if marriage is worth it or if it's a precursor to divorce. I plan on doing it with my girlfriend before I pop the question.

 

[Black Angel]

I think it's a great way to find out if you are truly compatible before getting married.

I agree completely..

 

[Psychognosis]

I don't think living together is necessary. Not all divorces get nasty. My parents just got divorced it's like oki, not as childish as other divorces (yet at least, although they've had their moments). I'm comparing with my best friends parents who divorced last summer though. They were way worse than mine.

Of course mom is a bitch thinking dad cheated on her while she was the one leaving for another guy T.T me and my brother knows for a fact dad has never cheated. He've been home with us or always with mom the whole time so meh... Bitch pisses me off.



Sorry for kinda turning this into a mini-rant.

No prob sis. The way your mom acts would piss me off too. You're right. Marriage can work out well. It mostly depends on getting to know the person you love first as well as yourself. Living together is not a must but just a tool some couples use.



My own parents didn't take the time to find out all about each other they could. I think that may be one reason they had problems. .

 

[Xarina]

It's all about how much people are willing to compromise. A lot of people these days are selfish and/or too lazy to put in the work needed to make things actually work.

And then there is the average abusive A-hole/bitch that wouldn't work in any relationship whatsoever.



Please don't take this post to personal. I can even admit to be a bitch at times. Everyone has their moments

 

[Psychognosis]

I have had some bad moments myself. I don't have them as often now. I don't like myself when I do.

 

[Alien]

I think it's a great way to find out if you are truly compatible before getting married.

I agree. You dont truly know someone till you have lived with em, seen em at their best and worst.

I have lived with my fiance for 5 years. Before him, I lived with a guy who turned out to be a total idiot, and I'm glad I found that out sooner rather than later.

 

[InMyOpinion]

I think couples should live together before marriage. It really lets you get to know someone intimately. You know if they are a messy person, if they clean up after themselves, what they daily routine is.

I think it's important because I wouldn't want to get married and then find out that my husband is very lazy and doesn't clean up after himself. I also would want to make sure that we can coexist in the same house without getting annoyed.

 

[ElegantAura]

I believe couples should live together before marriage if they've been together for a long time.
However, moving in together after only a month or so not really, unless they were close friends before dating. If things don't work out, sorting out living arrangements can be challenging. Ultimately, everyone is different, so what works for one couple might not work for another.

 

[Mendalla]

I think it needs to be whatever is right for the couple.

We lived together on and off pre-marriage, partly due to simple logistics. We were living in different cities so had no choice when visiting each other. She was a doctoral student during our early relationship so once her coursework was done and she was just working on her thesis, she could spend time at my place in a nearby city an hour or two from the university unless she was teaching classes (which she did a lot).

Then she got her degree and her first position was in Halifax, days away from me by car. Even by plane, it look me probably a half day to get there once you include time to the airport and stuff like that. At that point, living together whenever we were able to get together was a given.

And I think it was good for us for sure. We had all the logistics of married life (yes, including our sex life) worked out before the rings went on. But given that some people's value systems still revolve around being "pure" before marriage and such, what was good for us may not be for others.

But if someone asked, I would say it was a good idea based on our experience.

 

[Crys]

It helps, sometimes. Every couple is different though. You never know about a person until you actually live with them. Before I got married, I lived with my S/O. We learned all sorts of things about one another that help us better communicate today.