Nice way to say this.

[Skillet]

I love the attention, don't get me wrong, but recently my girlfriend never leaves me alone. When we started dating, she gave me loads of space, conversations were great and thoughtful when we had 'em. Our time together was great because it wasn't all of the time. Is there a nice way to tell her just because I don't want to text her 1000 times a day, and see her every single day doesn't mean I don't love her?



Our texting conversation has 405 today + Facebook. + MSN.. The closest other person is 10.



I just don't want my life to be totally about her. How do I tell her to give me a bit more space? Our conversations are losing variability. They are getting dull. I don't want to lose our spark. At this pace, of seeing her every day, for 8 hours, plus everything else, her texting me the second I leave, I'm getting really nervous.



Some times, I can be a social introvert, and like my space. She takes it as an insult though, when I don't respond to her immediately.



Thoughts/comments?

 

[Flurry]

You could try telling her up front that she's getting a little too invasive. She might not like it. But if you explain it gently, she might calm down. However, one of the ladies here will probably have a much better answer then I would.

 

[Skillet]

Yeah, I'm hoping for a female perspective; I don't want this to cause a crazy fight.

 

[Bluezone777]

You might as well be honest and tell her how you feel about it. Why have a relationship built on a lie? That lie being you like spending every waking moment talking to her. You will just be miserable and besides relationships are a two way street. If she doesn't want to go half way then that's not much of a relationship worth having to be honest.

 

[Jazzy]

You need to sit down with her and tell her exactly how you feel. Say something like: I love you but I need some personal time. Maybe you can come up with a compromise that you see and/or text each other every other day. When a relationship becomes smothering it's not going to last. Be honest and let the cards fall where they may. Maybe she doesn't even realize how much this bothers you and a good talk could do the trick.



Sounds to me like she's lonely and depends on you to fill that feeling. Does she have any friends that perhaps she could spend more time with?



Wish you the best of luck with this and please keep us updated!

 

[Flurry]

How's this going dude?

 

[Skillet]

I forgot to update this thread. It went well. Funny thing, it kind of just came up in conversation immediately after I posted it here. We aren't texting near as much, which I like. We still are seeing each other a fair bit, because I'm moving in three weeks. I just don't see the point of texting immediately after we hang y'know? There's nothing to talk about I didn't say in person.



It's now down to 30 or so messages a day, which, really is better. Convos are better, because we actually have stuff to talk about! These things just seem to work themselves out.

 

[Flurry]

Well that's great to hear!

 

[Jazzy]

I forgot to update this thread. It went well. Funny thing, it kind of just came up in conversation immediately after I posted it here. We aren't texting near as much, which I like. We still are seeing each other a fair bit, because I'm moving in three weeks. I just don't see the point of texting immediately after we hang y'know? There's nothing to talk about I didn't say in person.



It's now down to 30 or so messages a day, which, really is better. Convos are better, because we actually have stuff to talk about! These things just seem to work themselves out.

Very happy to hear things all worked out for you!

 

[Skillet]

Communication is a major key in any type of relationship...

Funny thing is, the day I felt it, she did too. Great minds think alike.