Rejection

[Corleone]

It hurts! I've been dating this girl this summer and we've been boyfriend/girlfriend for over a week, and I attempted to get a first kiss from her, but she said no. She was nice about it by saying, no, sorry. I said okay and just left it at that and left (I was already going out to the truck to leave). However, when I got home she texted me and told me that she's sorry she didn't kiss me and that she's just not ready. I completely understand and that's what I told her. And then she thought I was mad at her and honestly I wasn't, so I told her this, I'm not mad. I'm just a little shocked. I really care about you so if you're not ready I respect that. She just said okay and thanked me for understanding. I talked to her friend about it and she just said that she told her that she was nervous because she's never had a boyfriend/kiss before.



Again, it's not that I'm mad at her, it's just that it hurts.



To make matters worse, I heard this song on the radio on my way home. (It was night and the moon was out and I felt like the moment was right)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xs9X8NhQJF4

 

[Evil Eye]

Interesting coincidence on the song.



Anyway, unless you really managed to convince her it's all right, you're pretty much bound to get that kiss... because she'll be feeling bad about it... Maybe not the best reason.



And heh, she obviously likes you, it'll be all right.

 

[Corleone]

I believe she was just nervous, because as her friend said, she's never had a boyfriend before, let alone a kiss, so I understand if she's not ready. However, it just hurts. It's not even that I want to kiss her just to say I've kissed her, it's just the connection felt like it was there, and the moment felt so right, but when she said no sorry, it just hurt.

 

[Jazzy]

Aww, don't feel hurt. The first kiss is always the hardest. It's only been a week that you guys have become boyfriend and girlfriend. Don't rush things and just let nature take its course. When she's ready, you'll definately get your kiss.

 

[Corleone]

Aww, don't feel hurt. The first kiss is always the hardest. It's only been a week that you guys have become boyfriend and girlfriend. Don't rush things and just let nature take its course. When she's ready, you'll definately get your kiss.

I'm not in a rush or anything, it just felt so right and I thought the moment was perfect, so I tried to kiss her and she just wasn't ready. I mean, I gave her a hug goodbye and we were both looking each other in the eyes and I just assumed the time was right and evidently I was wrong. I just don't know how to go in for the kiss now that I know she's not ready and I have no way of knowing when she's ready. It's really hard to explain how I feel because I'm not mad that she didn't kiss me, but I am upset, but I'm not upset with her.

 

[Cranos]

It's not that big of a deal. She's obviously into you. She'll let you know when she's ready.

 

[Jazzy]

I gave her a hug goodbye and we were both looking each other in the eyes and I just assumed the time was right and evidently I was wrong.

That will teach you to never assume anything. You keep saying that you're not mad but you're upset. You kind of sound like you're both to me. Why are you feeling this way?

 

[Corleone]

I'm over the rejection now, but honestly, I believe I was so upset because my pride was shot down. I know that's not right, but at the time I just knew I was going to get that kiss, and it's almost as if I let myself down when I didn't. Now, I've thought about it more and more and I've came to the realization that she'll kiss me when she's ready.



Thanks for all the help/advice!

 

[Jazzy]

I've thought about it more and more and I've came to the realization that she'll kiss me when she's ready.

We expect a full report when it does happen!

 

[Corleone]

We expect a full report when it does happen!

Will do! She's coming over tomorrow and we're going to watch a movie. Let's see what happens!

 

[Jazzy]

Good luck!

 

[seasidemike]

Little dude.. hear my words.



One week?? Not a long time..



Be there, be real, and let her make the first move now. The fact that you will not push it, will make her want to kiss ya, if you push it you will only push her away.



Don't ask way.. that is just the way it is.. she know you want her, now you need to get her to want you and that is not a negotiation

 

[Corleone]

Had an amazing day! After we watched the movie and got something to eat I walked her to her car and we hugged and as I started to turn away she grabbed my shoulders and kissed me!

I honestly wasn't expecting it, but I'm not complaining!

 

[seasidemike]

Had an amazing day! After we watched the movie and got something to eat I walked her to her car and we hugged and as I started to turn away she grabbed my shoulders and kissed me!

I honestly wasn't expecting it, but I'm not complaining!

Little dude!! You rock.

You are one step closer to becoming a bigger little dude.

So now that the ice is all broken.. don’t go all fecken nuts like.

Keep it cool.. keep her wanting you more that you want her… (even if it is not true).. if you want her more than she wants you, you will freak her out.



Keep it cool, let he make the first move a few more times.

 

[Evil Eye]

Too... easy... to... turn... into... sex joke... must restrain... self

Had an amazing day! After we watched the movie and got something to eat I walked her to her car and we hugged and as I started to turn away she grabbed my shoulders and kissed me!

I honestly wasn't expecting it, but I'm not complaining!

Hehe, congrats!

 

[Jazzy]

Had an amazing day! After we watched the movie and got something to eat I walked her to her car and we hugged and as I started to turn away she grabbed my shoulders and kissed me!

I honestly wasn't expecting it, but I'm not complaining!

Good things happen to those who wait! I'm so happy for you!

Listen to seasidemike as he has given you excellent advice.