Sad example

[pgn23]

of how life isn't fair?

Wanting something so badly, and never feeling like you'll ever get it.
Assumptions people make without any real facts to back it up.
The environment you were born into- family, bad crowd of friends.
The place you grew up.
Whether or not you have support.

Whether or not your parents died or disappeared at a young age.
Being lonely.

 

[cowcatcher]

The summer my parents got divorced, before I found out and while they worked things through - I was sent to my grandmother's to spend the summer. Amtrak to Johnstown, long and boring and if you missed the horseshoe curve you missed any hint of excitement. If you are a dining car cheeseburger you made a huge mistake. Long long ride at that age but I had some books. Long ride.
Btw I'm an introvert.
She came down the aisle. Smile. Hair. Wow. I went back to reading.
She came back down the aisle and omg started talking to me and asked me if I wanted to see her sleeping car (it sounds much more lurid when I write it, it was a "let's get aquatinted" thing rather than what you are thinking. Ok, maybe it was what you were thinking but I'm naive who knows lol).
I took my suitcase and followed her through car after car after car... and the conductor announced we were pulling into the Johnstown station and damn I was on the platform and she was slowly receding towards Pittsburgh.........

I always wonder what would have been, if I had stayed aboard.

 

[MrDawn]

I always wonder what would have been, if I had stayed aboard.

I can empathize. It nags at you if you don't explore. I've had a few of these over the years. I followed up on one. I talked to her for a while. We didn't seem to communicate well. I walked away. I have no regrets. I'm glad I tried.

 

[cowcatcher]

It nags at you if you don't explore

The girl on the train had endless potential and it remains that way. An ending with only the feeling of longing remaining.

The hardest one, for me, is where it ended with me deeply hurting someone emotionally when I didn't understand emotions as well as I do now. I have constant regrets that far outweigh the longing I still have. I think we all have facets to ourselves that we hope remain hidden, but in a relationship those facets get exposed eventually. If that relationship had survived, that side of me would have come out regardless, and it would have destroyed us just the same, and maybe with more loss.
But I have regrets. I can't undo that damage.

 

[Ammi]

…we can’t ever change the past and we can’t ever remove any of those unfairnesses or those sadnesses, obviously there is so much that isn’t in our control…but what we can change/control is our mindsets and feel strengthened by what we’ve gone through rather than victimised…if you’ve felt emotional pain yourself then you’ll recognise it in others and can be a support that they need…things we’ve experienced make life unfairness easier to recognise and so will often make it easier to deal with as well, both for ourselves and for others who might be feeling as lost as we have at times…when we know and recognise ‘our enemy’ they lose some of their power to create that sadness in us…we‘ll never rid ourselves or others from unfairnesses and sadnesses but we’ll learn to move forward from them and we’ll learn to put them on that emotional shelf in a high place where we don’t see them or think about them in any negative or regretful way…but at the same time, drawing the experiences from them to focus on events and things and decisions etc that we can control and to help others….something like that, anyway…

 

[Ammi]

…cowcatcher…the girl on the train was probably a serial killer who lured victims to her sleeping car…so phew, I’m glad that it was your stop to get off …fate intervened thank the Lord….