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Jazzy

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Here's a little information about the seminar: Level I Trauma Center, John C. Lincoln offers extensive trauma-related education to medical professionals. We host 12 formal lectures and four grand rounds with our Life Flight First Responders Team. This seminar offers training credits for professionals seeking to be certified as Life Flight Trauma Paramedics.



As for me, it's my goal to become a Life Flight Paramedic. I enjoy what I'm doing now as a Paramedic but I'd really like to be able to be a member of such a prestigious group. I sat on a waiting list for over a year to be accepted into this seminar. They only pick 25 professionals each year from all over the US to attend. I was so thrilled when I got the call that I was accepted and the seminar would be held in May. Then I got the call yesterday that the seminar has been rescheduled for August. Oh well, another few months of waiting won't kill me.



Unfortunately, it's caused me to end a relationship over this. I have only one week vacation and I am using my vacation time to attend the seminar. My BF wanted me instead to use my one week vacation to visit him. I told him there was no way in heck I was going to give up my opportunity to attend this seminar. He said either I give up attending the seminar or the relationship was over. I told him there was no way in (you know where) that I was going to do that. He said I chose the seminar over him. Seminars like this one are to achieve my furture dream. I refuse to give up my dream for anyone!
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Is it just me, or do you think his demand was unreasonable too?
 
I agree with what you decided to do, Jazzy. He was the unreasonable one in this. He should know that your career and what you want to do means the world to you and nothing should spoil that. He should of been more supportive in your decision.
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This is my relationship summed up in 3 minutes and 29 seconds



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Let me ask you this though, how often does this thing happen? How many chances do people have really to be together? And this sounds to me like its a long distance relationship. If he knows there is other chances of this happening again somewhere down the line say a year or 2 later. Why beat around the bush by making him wait? I get you have a dream, I do get that. But can you honestly expect him to wait even longer? I do imagine the guy is probably beating himself up over this as well.
 
Sci said:
Let me ask you this though, how often does this thing happen? How many chances do people have really to be together? And this sounds to me like its a long distance relationship. If he knows there is other chances of this happening again somewhere down the line say a year or 2 later. Why beat around the bush by making him wait? I get you have a dream, I do get that. But can you honestly expect him to wait even longer? I do imagine the guy is probably beating himself up over this as well.
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She's waiting a year for this seminar, why should she have to wait any longer just because of some man? If he truly understood her choices in life, he'd not of asked her to choose between him and her dream?
 
Sci said:
Let me ask you this though, how often does this thing happen? How many chances do people have really to be together? And this sounds to me like its a long distance relationship. If he knows there is other chances of this happening again somewhere down the line say a year or 2 later. Why beat around the bush by making him wait? I get you have a dream, I do get that. But can you honestly expect him to wait even longer? I do imagine the guy is probably beating himself up over this as well.
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This seminar happens once a year. There are hundreds of applicants from the entire US hoping to be selected to attend this seminar. People have a lifetime to be together if it was meant to be. All he had to do was wait another 3 months. Not a LIFETIME a stinking 3 months. If he had truly loved me (IMO) he would have supported me and urged me to go after my dream. Obviously, by making me choose, he did not love me enough to allow me to follow my dream. My Dad (God rest his soul) always told me: Set the bar high, kiddo and go for it. That's exactly what I intend to do.
 
Boogie said:
She's waiting a year for this seminar, why should she have to wait any longer just because of some man? If he truly understood her choices in life, he'd not of asked her to choose between him and her dream?
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I do get that, and I realize we all make mistakes. I hope you realize I'm not defending him as well.

Jazzy said:
This seminar happens once a year. There are hundreds of applicants from the entire US hoping to be selected to attend this seminar. People have a lifetime to be together if it was meant to be. All he had to do was wait another 3 months. Not a LIFETIME a stinking 3 months. If he had truly loved me (IMO) he would have supported me and urged me to go after my dream. Obviously, by making me choose, he did not love me enough to allow me to follow my dream. My Dad (God rest his soul) always told me: Set the bar high, kiddo and go for it. That's exactly what I intend to do.
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And I get that now, but what if he really does truly love you. But just can't stand the thought of having to wait longer? As it means being without you even more? And what if he offered a simple solution? Would you be then willing to follow it?
 
Jazzy said:
This seminar happens once a year. There are hundreds of applicants from the entire US hoping to be selected to attend this seminar. People have a lifetime to be together if it was meant to be. All he had to do was wait another 3 months. Not a LIFETIME a stinking 3 months. If he had truly loved me (IMO) he would have supported me and urged me to go after my dream. Obviously, by making me choose, he did not love me enough to allow me to follow my dream. My Dad (God rest his soul) always told me: Set the bar high, kiddo and go for it. That's exactly what I intend to do.
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Well said Jazzy!!
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Sci said:
And I get that now, but what if he really does truly love you. But just can't stand the thought of having to wait longer? As it means being without you even more? And what if he offered a simple solution? Would you be then willing to follow it?
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I don't think he truly does otherwise, as Jazzy said he'd of urged her to follow her dreams, and be what she wants to be. She may never get this chance again, why wait? She should go for it now, while she has the chance.
 
Boogie said:
I don't think he truly does otherwise, as Jazzy said he'd of urged her to follow her dreams, and be what she wants to be. She may never get this chance again, why wait? She should go for it now, while she has the chance.
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And while I'm not defending the guy, as I love everybody's favorite Jazzy as much as the next person here. I think the dude may have made a huge mistake and let out the more selfish side of him. Part of me does think this would kill the relationship a bit, but hey. What do I know really? I do wish Jazzy and this guy the best though.
 
Sci said:
I do get that, and I realize we all make mistakes. I hope you realize I'm not defending him as well.



And I get that now, but what if he really does truly love you. But just can't stand the thought of having to wait longer? As it means being without you even more? And what if he offered a simple solution? Would you be then willing to follow it?
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Sounds like you're defending him but that's okay. If he truly loved me to begin with, he never would have made me chose. I offered HIM a simple solution: wait another 3 months or it's over. He didn't want my solution so end of story. The only thing I'm going to follow is my dream of becoming a Life Flight Paramedic. One day, I will find someone who will love me for never giving up and who will be there to support me no matter what small sacrifices have to be made. I can't waste my time or emotions on a person who wants to take my dream away from me. Once you allow someone to take away your hopes and dreams, it's no longer called a relationship. It's called a prison sentence where you loose all your freedom. I ain't ready for that cell yet!
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Jazzy said:
Sounds like you're defending him but that's okay. If he truly loved me to begin with, he never would have made me chose. I offered HIM a simple solution: wait another 3 months or it's over. He didn't want my solution so end of story. The only thing I'm going to follow is my dream of becoming a Life Flight Paramedic. One day, I will find someone who will love me for never giving up and who will be there to support me no matter what small sacrifices have to be made. I can't waste my time or emotions on a person who wants to take my dream away from me. Once you allow someone to take away your hopes and dreams, it's no longer called a relationship. It's called a prison sentence where you loose all your freedom. I ain't ready for that cell yet!
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I honestly don't think he wants to take any of that from you. But I don't really know the guy myself. The entire thing sounds like one big mess though.
 
Jazzy said:
Sounds like you're defending him but that's okay. If he truly loved me to begin with, he never would have made me chose. I offered HIM a simple solution: wait another 3 months or it's over. He didn't want my solution so end of story. The only thing I'm going to follow is my dream of becoming a Life Flight Paramedic. One day, I will find someone who will love me for never giving up and who will be there to support me no matter what small sacrifices have to be made. I can't waste my time or emotions on a person who wants to take my dream away from me. Once you allow someone to take away your hopes and dreams, it's no longer called a relationship. It's called a prison sentence where you loose all your freedom. I ain't ready for that cell yet!
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YOU GO JAZZY!!
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Follow your dreams -- you only get one life. Live it have you want to live it and don't let ANYBODY stand in your way!
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Follow your dreams Jazzy. I'll be here to support you in any path you take!
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Sci said:
I honestly don't think he wants to take any of that from you. But I don't really know the guy myself. The entire thing sounds like one big mess though.
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How do you know what he wants unless you agree with what he did. There is no mess as I have swept the floor clean!
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Thank you both Dragon and Boogie. I have no intentions of letting anything or anyone stop me from my dream.
 
Jazzy said:
How do you know what he wants unless you agree with what he did. There is no mess as I have swept the floor clean!
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I don't agree with it. I do think this guy could have handled things a lot better though.
 
This is one of my favorite songs and pretty much sums up what my Dad always told me.

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Nice song, kinda makes you want to cry. Do you yourself see yourself getting back with this guy? Or has this ruined any of that?
 
If I somehow got into a long distance relationship and that happened to me I would probably end it as well, but for different reasons than his. It seems to me it was a rather emotional reaction of him because of the news that his waiting time had doubled. It's unreasonable, but then again people usually don't think rationally when they're emotional...
 
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