Should parents physically discipline their children?

[MrDawn]

Should parents physically discipline their children? Why or why not?

 

[Tuesday]

Totally up to the parents to decide nobody should interfere with family matters not even the government...

 

[Rhn_1]

If the child is really bad then yes a beating would knock sense into them. I approve of this. Teachers especially should have the same privilege.

 

[Laifot]

I'm a supporter of dialogue. I was beated by my father very few times and i will try to keep it that way with my son.

I know it's nearly impossible not to discipline physically your kid depending on the situation, you always need to explain your motives and ask for forgiveness later too.

 

[Lee]

Should parents physically discipline their children? Why or why not?

I have never raised a hand to any of my children and my oldest is 10.

Dialog is the way forwards. Physical punishment just teaches people to be more sneaky next time.

 

[Excommunicado]

In my opinion, physically disciplining your children is lazy parenting. There are other ways to discipline your children without hitting them and potentially making them resent you.

 

[The Raven]

Well, I wouldn't support to beat the crap out of him, but a normal slap on butt is acceptable. Words are not always enough, nor any kind of debate. I wouldn't even classify it as a violence because it is not something you apply all the time and for no obvious reason. It's not like you make bruises to him/her. Something like spank.

 

[Jayson]

Not everyone is qualified to discipline children. Like I mentioned in another thread, there a psycho group of people who feel they're entitled to abuse due to superiority.

Anyway, especially kids should not hit on the head, most of all, but some see nothing wrong with that

 

[Dismal_Bliss]

My answer is Yes, but with caveats.

Discipline means teaching (same root work as "disciple"). Your discipline should be geared towards reasoning with your child to help them understand what is and isn't acceptable. The risk for physical punishment should be made clear well in advance. Physical punishment should be a last resort when reasoning and dialogue isn't working by itself, or for when the situation is extreme.

 

[Jayson]

A lot of kids are truly mean and probably need corporal punishment. However, though, as noted normal people should admin it and it must avoid cruelty and dehumanization.

 

[Lee]

If the child is really bad then yes a beating would knock sense into them. I approve of this. Teachers especially should have the same privilege.

I know this person isn't a member here anymore, but this comment needs to be addressed.

Teachers absolutely should not have the right to assault or "knock sense" in to our children. This is small people with unique and imaginative minds that we are talking about physically hitting for making mistakes. Just think about that for a second. People want to condone hitting a person whose mind is still developing, whose brain is still learning and whose personality is still forming. That is abuse. That is a misuse of our power as adults.

If any grown person laid even one finger on my child, so help me...

 

[Nebulous]

How do we know what the difference between abuse and discipline is?

 

[Jay™]

I don't support beating a child, I got a few smacks growing up and all I did was rebel more, I think working with a child works best.
As for the comment above, If anyone touched one of mine they would not touch another one.

 

[Nebulous]

I am a parent I never physically disciplined my child. She was always a well behaved, well mannered, polite and kind person. All those adjectives still apply to her today (she is an adult now).

 

[Jay™]

I am a parent I never physically disciplined my child. She was always a well behaved, well mannered, polite and kind person. All those adjectives still apply to her today (she is an adult now).

I have 6 kids that are grown up and have kids of their own, I'm very proud of the job we did with them.

 

[Nebulous]

I have 6 kids that are grown up and have kids of their own, I'm very proud of the job we did with them.

6 kids? Thats a lot of kids!

 

[Jay™]

6 kids? Thats a lot of kids!

I'm just over 50 and have been busy
Would not change a thing.

 

[Jayson]

How do we know what the difference between abuse and discipline is?

That's a good point. For many people a smack across the back of the head is fine, but if you did that to an adult u might get the crap beat out of you or more.