Sleeping with a married person

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

How do you feel about single people who have sex / get involved with married people?



To clarify: Not talking about the actual married person, but the person who is sleeping with that married person.

 

[Skillet]

There is debate about this?



BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD.



Find someone who isn't married. And to the one who is married- shame on you. I hope your spouse finds someone who isn't a cheating whore.





Sorry strong words, but I think it's awful.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

What if they didnt know until later on. They formed an attachment, and didnt want to let go after they found out?

 

[Skillet]

Maybe under small situations. But once you're married, you should be committed. I can think of reasons to still stay together too, a house, kids, but that doesn't take away from the fact that it is wrong.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

Say that person who found out their lover was actually married tried to break up the marriage.. Would that be wrong?

 

[Skillet]

Very. But if the married person takes on, or whatever, it kind of makes me question their marriage to begin with. If you can't stay faithful to that person, don't marry.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

We are only talking about the person who is NOT married, and is with a married person. We all know the cheating married person is already in the wrong. I think if a person is unaware of their lover being married, they arent at fault. It may be hard to automattically shut your feelings off if you found out your BF/GF was actually married.

 

[Skillet]

Ooh. Well if you didn't know they were married, it's not your fault at all! How can you know? Like if there is no ring, they didn't tell you, you have NO WAY OF KNOWING.



I totally misunderstood what you were trying to say.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

I saw a movie last night about someone who unknowlingly got with a married person.

The wife found out and nearly killed the mistress. But the mistress had no idea her man was married. I felt sorry for her.

 

[Skillet]

What movie? And that would suck. I read a book like that. At least his actual wife knew the other didn't know.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

I forgot the name. It was some 80's movie on tv. My cable is off so I have to watch the crap on the free broadcast channels. lol.



I was with a married girl once, she always had me pick her up at the jack in the box down the street from her house. She said she lived with her grandma and her grandma does not like company. Once I found out the grandma was actually her husband and 2 kids, I was gone. Luckily I wasnt with her long enough to form a deep attachment to her.

 

[Princess]

Some married people don't take being married very seriously. They will pretend to be single and don't mind leading someone else on. I've seen it happen--guys or girls--one is just about as bad as the other.



Yeah, it's easy to feel sorry for someone who was led on by a married lover. Not cool at all.

 

[Black Angel]

I think that those who knowingly participate in this kind of behavior are disgusting pieces of sh**. If you aren't going to take your marriage and your vows seriously, then don't get married. Simple as that. It is bad enough that there is an entire group of people who can't get married and want to for all the right reasons, and who would do the right thing by their spouses.. only for those who can't keep their pants on to further contribute to the divorce rate.



And unless the married person is raped, you can't have one without the other.. and so if a single person is having sex with a married person, then the married person is just as guilty, and just as disgusting.

 

[sakanagi]

Wow Nebulous, I was reading the 1st couple of comments and it sounds like you've been sleeping around

haha, If the person doesn't realise he/she is married then it'd be fine in my opinion, because its not the un-married persons folt, He/she just wasn't aware of the married ones circumstances. But on the other hand, the married person is in the wrong, a) for not telling his or her spouse about sleeping around and

for not telling the person he/she slept with about being married.

If she had kids, previous then that'd be worse for the married one.

If she had kids, after the sexual act took place then it would be wrong, Way wrong expecially if it wasn't her spouse's child.

 

[Princess]

I had to re-read your original post, because I was going to say that I regularly sleep with a married man. But, since he's the one I'm married to, I guess it's OK.

 

[sakanagi]

I had to re-read your original post, because I was going to say that I regularly sleep with a married man. But, since he's the one I'm married to, I guess it's OK.

Bad princess.

 

[Skillet]

I had to re-read your original post, because I was going to say that I regularly sleep with a married man. But, since he's the one I'm married to, I guess it's OK.

What? You're sleeping with a married man, and you're marrried yourself?

Aha! Just kidding =]

 

[Princess]

[quote name='Princess']I had to re-read your original post, because I was going to say that I regularly sleep with a married man. But, since he's the one I'm married to, I guess it's OK.

What? You're sleeping with a married man, and you're marrried yourself?

Aha! Just kidding =][/quote]

It is sad isn't it.

 

[Skillet]

[quote name='Skillet'][quote name='Princess']I had to re-read your original post, because I was going to say that I regularly sleep with a married man. But, since he's the one I'm married to, I guess it's OK.

What? You're sleeping with a married man, and you're marrried yourself?

Aha! Just kidding =][/quote]

It is sad isn't it.

[/quote]

But back on topic, if the person doesn't know the other has a boyfriend/girlfriend or even spouse, they can't be held responsible for their actions. Simple enough, they didn't know.

 

[Alien]

I would never ever get with someone who I knew was attached, whether it was married or just in a relationship with someone. When I was single, if I got chatting to someone I liked, I would just ask em out right where their girlfriend was. Being that blunt tended to take em by surprise and they would usually give an honest answer