Stay Or Go?

[Jazzy]

Your significant other of 2 years has cheated on you, do you stay or go? Please explain why you would stay or go.

 

[Bryd0]

I'd go. It's not nice to be cheated on and I don't know why anyone would do it :\

 

[Jazzy]

^Two years is a significant amount of time you have spent together. Would you consider trying to find out why this happened and perhaps work it out?

 

[Bryd0]

Probably, but no matter what my partner does I will not want to see her face again. If she cheated on me by mistake then I can bring her back but that really depends what kind of mistake she does.

 

[Jazzy]

If she cheated on me by mistake then I can bring her back.

How does a person cheat on another person by mistake?

 

[Bryd0]

How does a person cheat on another person by mistake?

Sorry. I felt stupid for a minutes after saying that

 

[Flurry]

If I really loved and cared about the person, I would want to find out why she would do such a thing. And maybe try to work it out. But if the reason is a really dumb or bad one. I would probably just go.

 

[Jazzy]

If someone cheated on me, there would be no if's, and's or but's about it. They would be out of my life for good and there would be NO turning back. Once you've lost my trust, it's gone FOREVER. There is no excuse in this world to cheat on someone. People who do this are cowards and plain disgusting in my book.

 

[Jazzy]

If I really loved and cared about the person, I would want to find out why she would do such a thing. And maybe try to work it out. But if the reason is a really dumb or bad one. I would probably just go.

What would be an acceptable reason to you as to why she would cheat?

 

[Flurry]

I don't think any reason would be acceptable. Even if you brought it on yourself somehow.

 

[Cranos]

Depends on the reason and how I feel about her after she did it I suppose. The idea of having a relationship for 2 years freaks me out more than that she'd cheat on me tbh.

 

[Flurry]

Why is that?

 

[Cranos]

It's just so... long. I usually get bored of my partner after a month or 2.

 

[Flurry]

Ohh I see.

 

[BeautifulAngel]

I would definitely go, if the person cheats that just shows disrespect and that he obviously doesn't love you. If the guy would cheat that would just prove that he doesn't care much about the relationship or about me because if he did then he wouldn't have cheated, I would have been in the back of his mind and he would have rejected the other girl.



I also think that if you stay with him, he will just think Well she forgave me last time and they are kind of like criminals, they will keep doing it only the second time or the times after that he will be more careful about it, hide it a lot more and find ways to cover it up.



Also when someone cheats it creates a lot of trust issues and since it happened once who is to say it won't happen again? So you'll constantly be worried and thinking Are they cheating on me? Are they actually where they say they are? and so on so forth.



Another thing is that cheaters cheat because of their own insecurities, they are selfish and they thrive on having a secret relationship. Plus if you leave a cheater they will go crazy, they will beg you to take them back they will do anything in their power to get you back, not because they love you or because they feel bad, it's because they can't cheat if they there isn't a third party right? So just keep that in mind.



Cheaters will cheat no matter what, it doesn't matter how much you do for them, how much time you dedicate yourself for them or how much you're there for them, they will always cheat to feed their ego.



In my opinion once a cheater, always a cheater. So why stay and continue to get hurt time after time if you can be in a good healthy relationship with someone who will respect you and only wants to be with you?



So for me again, I would definitely leave.