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Interesting article...exploring how/why women use social media and how/why men use social media.

What Men And Women Are Doing On Facebook


“The world’s gone social. And women are more social than men.” –Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg.

Facebook, the largest social networking tool in the world, is dominated by women.

According to BrianSolis.com and Google Ad Planner, the 400-million member site is 57% female and attracts 46 million more female visitors than male visitors per month. Plus, women are more active on Facebook. Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg says women on Facebook have 8% more friends and participate in 62% of the sharing. “The social world is led by women,” she concludes. And they’re leading that charge online.

Where Do Women Social Network? Top 10 Sites

Women are the majority of users on many of the biggest social networking sites, including Twitter, MySpace, Bebo and Flickr. Men, meanwhile, are most active on sites like Digg, YouTube and LinkedIn, which are more content-oriented and promotional than discussion-based.

However, women don’t just visit different sites from men, they use social media differently than men. Experts believe the difference between how men and women operate online mirror their motivations offline. While women often use online social networking tools to make connections and share items from their personal lives, men use them as means to gather information and increase their status.

“We’re women–we like to talk about things. Women use social media as a way to connect,” says Jodi Kahn, the head of iVillage. A recent joint study from BlogHer and iVillage supports her theory, reporting that three-quarters of women use online communities to stay up to date with friends and family, and 68% use them to “connect with others like me.”

On message boards and forums, Kahn says that both sexes seek information and advice, but women tend to get more personal. She says women want to learn about real people experiencing similar conflicts. “Women are online solving real-life issues. If I’m a mom who is about to start potty training, it’s important to me to hear how other real moms are doing it,” says Kahn.

Men, on the other hand, are researchers and social climbers. Professor of social media marketing at UC Berkeley, Lorrie Thomas, says men use social media as an “interactive Rolodex,” storing contact information for future use.

Sherry Perlmutter Bowen, a gender and communication professor at Villanova University in Pennsylvania, says she’s seeing men use social media to gather information and boost their influence. “I see males espousing their wisdom on social media sites and using social media to sell, to compete, to ‘climb the ladder,’” she says.

According to Bowen, these gender differences are rooted in communication styles learned since birth. “Girls and boys are often raised in two distinct cultures where they learn different rules and norms for behavior and talk: Girls learn to build relationships by sharing social information. Boys learn to compare and compete with others, always striving for more success.”

Psychologist Leslie Sokol, author of self-help book Think Confident, Be Confident, believes virtual communication differences between men and women can be tracked back through history as evolutionary methods of survival. Throughout time, males have been in competition with each other, even in the animal kingdom, she says. “The sexiest bird with the brightest plumage and best territory got all the women.” Because it was in their best interest not to show weaknesses or give away their strategies, men became more reserved as an adaptive method, she says.

Sokol believes that women, the gatherers and community builders, had to work as a team to survive. They needed to use each other as resources and adapted to be more supportive by sharing their plans, shortcomings and advice. Today, women are still more likely to be forthcoming and verbose than men, she says, a difference that is reflected online.

Diana Windley, 39, is a good example. The assistant vice president of marketing at Goldenwest Credit Union in Utah uses several networking sites mainly to keep up with friends and read and discuss things she likes, rather than using it for business or promotional purposes. She also blogs about her life as career mom. Everyday she signs into Facebook to reconnect with old friends from high school and college and to build new relationships with neighbors and extended family. On Twitter she aims to make connections with people who aren’t in her immediate circle but share similar interests in career, parenting and religion.

On the other hand, Allen Chen, 31, a communications assistant at Sarah Lawrence College in New York, uses networking sites as mediums to discuss ideas rather than share personal information. He logs onto Facebook several times a day to post interesting articles, which solicit responses from his 175 friends. He also uses Twitter to keep up on current events by following news outlets and “strangers” who share common interests in sports and technology.

Elisa Camahort Page, cofounder and chief operating officer of BlogHer, believes men leverage social media for broadcasting their ideas and skills vs. women who find connections with others by sharing the ups and downs of their daily lives.

Men are more active blog participants, she explains. They are more likely to read, write and post comments to blogs. Surprisingly, both men and women report that their most common blog topic is “my life,” she says. However, the second most popular topic for men is business and career, and food and fashion are tied in second place for women.

Men are also more active users of YouTube, with about 20% more men visiting the video-sharing site per week, according to the BlogHer-iVillage study. Camahort Page believes men prefer the site because it is more passive. “[YouTube] is about finding, consuming and passing along content, but it’s not about conversation.”

Not surprisingly, the different ways men and women approach social media are beginning to be noticed and exploited by advertisers. Scott Staab, group creative director of marketing agency T3, whose clients include JCPenney and UPS , has recently been interested in women social gamers. Women are the majority of online social gamers (such as the Facebook application FarmVille) and often play with their friends, he explains.

Staab says that a woman who advocates for a brand online is more likely to influence her friends. “Some of our clients skew highly female, and we are going into social gaming because it’s an area that we know women spend more time.” Companies would be smart to create their own games to draw in users, Staab says, because “it doesn’t have to be about pushing product all the time. It’s about brand engagement.”

According to Kelly O’Neill, director of product marketing at e-commerce software firm ATG , beauty store Sephora targets women by tapping into social networking sites to advertise promotions and sales. In a recent ATG survey, twice as many women as men said they frequently share purchasing activities on Facebook, MySpace and Twitter. So Sephora advertises promotions with its Facebook page and often tweets about sales to its Twitter followers. Plus, fashion brands Tommy Hilfiger and Urban Outfitters have honed in on women’s dominance in social media by creating virtual fashion shows to engage them online.

Patty Kennedy, founder of communications firm Kennedy Spencer, uses her knowledge of gendered behavior on social networking sites to better target men and women for her clients, which include Coca-Cola and P&G. Kennedy Spencer uses “transactional” sites like LinkedIn, YouTube and Twitter to attract men, sharing content like articles, facts and games that they hope will spark their interest. It uses conversation-based sites like Facebook and “mom blogs” to spark dialogue among women.

Says Facebook’s Sandberg, “If you reach women [online], they will tell their friends.” What may be an evolutionary fact turns out to be a marketer’s dream.


http://www.forbes.com/2010/04/26/po...sites-forbes-woman-time-facebook-twitter.html
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Should women be expected to "act like men" and 'stick with the facts, just the facts' while interacting on online social sites, too, as well as while in boardrooms? Is the internet big enough to accommodate women's style of sharing information AND men's style of sharing information, or is there only ONE right way to interact with others, while online?

What say you?
 
Men react to the way women interact on line pretty much the same as they do in real life. Perhaps it is just more personified on line.

Just saying ...
 
Men react to the way women interact on line pretty much the same as they do in real life. Perhaps it is just more personified on line.

Just saying ...
You think? It would seem that anyone online nowadays would at least be familiar with "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus" and so would understand the concept that men and women process information differently...and communicate differently...and that these differences are NOT a bad thing.

Just last year, a (very controversial) study was released that showed that companies fared better financially in direct proportion to the greater the number of women serving on their Boards; a conclusion was that when female energy is incorporated into - rather than excluded from - the bigger picture, things work out better for everyone - employees and shareholders, alike.

http://www.forbes.com/sites/davidpr...performing-companies-more-women-on-the-board/
 
I found it interesting that according to the article, generally speaking, women turn to online social sites to share experiences and to gain a feeling of community...yanno, like "~Whew~ I'm not the ONLY one who feels like that/has had that happen"

and that men, generally speaking, turn to online social sites to show others their expertise and knowledge of a subject.

One type of communicating would invite a going back-and-forth between posters, while the other type would practically require an "/thread" once the ultimate expert had come in and shared his particular knowledge on the subject, as the final word. Once the "true" and "final" answer was revealed, there'd be no need for further discussion.



I'm curious if others' online experiences confirm or refute the article's - and experts' - findings.
 
Every one seems to have their own perception and interpretation of what is (or isn't) said online. That's for sure.

Talking through text causes a lot more misunderstandings because there's no tone of voice, facial expressions or body language to "read" like in real life.
 
Every one seems to have their own perception and interpretation of what is (or isn't) said online. That's for sure.

Talking through text causes a lot more misunderstandings because there's no tone of voice, facial expressions or body language to "read" like in real life.

Even though I AM female, I try real hard not to let perceptions and interpretations enter into online discussions; I prefer to simply look at others' posts, in black-and-white...where the facts *is* what the facts *is* and take it from there, without too much 'reading between the lines'.



You DO bring up interesting point, though. Years ago, I'd read about a study that had concluded that with the advent of email, women are slipping in the workplace...that because women (generally speaking) rely so heavily on visual and auditory cues in communication (body language, tone inflection, facial gestures, etc.) and email was replacing face-to-face communications and in-person meetings, there was a marked decline in women's performance in the workplace due to its introduction.


Yet, this study (much more recent) states that women are flourishing in online communities...and suggests that women are the bread-and-butter of it.


*Odd*. Wonder which studies' findings are more accurate. It would be interesting to get people's take on it, who actually DO participate in online discussion boards as to what they've seen as to which seems more accurate.
 
I am excelling at work BECAUSE of written communications. Not necessarily so much social networks but specifically written communication within my field. I'm an expert in communications, interpersonal communications, and written an oral communications in the workplace.

I found it interesting that according to the article, generally speaking, women turn to online social sites to share experiences and to gain a feeling of community...yanno, like "~Whew~ I'm not the ONLY one who feels like that/has had that happen"

and that men, generally speaking, turn to online social sites to show others their expertise and knowledge of a subject.

One type of communicating would invite a going back-and-forth between posters, while the other type would practically require an "/thread" once the ultimate expert had come in and shared his particular knowledge on the subject, as the final word. Once the "true" and "final" answer was revealed, there'd be no need for further discussion.



I'm curious if others' online experiences confirm or refute the article's - and experts' - findings.
I personally come here specifically to "socialize" with you fine folks!
 
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and that men, generally speaking, turn to online social sites to show others their expertise and knowledge of a subject.

One type of communicating would invite a going back-and-forth between posters, while the other type would practically require an "/thread" once the ultimate expert had come in and shared his particular knowledge on the subject, as the final word. Once the "true" and "final" answer was revealed, there'd be no need for further discussion.

Interesting analogy.
I've seen plenty of male know-it-all's in my day but generally they want people to keep replying so they can keep on reaffirming how much knowledge & expertese they really have. You would think an "ultimate expert" would never want to have a "final word." After all, each new post is an opportunity for him to prove to everyone how much of an expert he really is and he most definitely would not want to miss out on that. :P
 
We all come here to "socialize" but generally we don't know each other. So basically we come here to "anonymously" socialize.
:shrug:

I come on social sites to see and share interesting articles but socializing is an enjoyable side effect. My twitter is up to over 5000 and it's ALL articles, no socializing at all. My Instagram is slightly more socializing but only half the posts. I love Instagram best because I make the photo art photos with inspirational messages and scenery or whatever beautiful photo and frames and such and I can hit 5 sites to share them from there, fb twitter flickr and tumblr as well as Instagram. So when I want to reach the greatest audience, I always use Instagram. Pinterest is pretty much strictly to share, no socializing there but it's fun there, to see photos and keep the albums there. Fb is a lot of socializing and some sharing with zero drama. Anything even attempted is squashed dead. I also try to spend some time each day in the religious forums. Those are usually pretty good too :)
 
I am excelling at work BECAUSE of written communications. Not necessarily so much social networks but specifically written communication within my field. I'm an expert in communications, interpersonal communications, and written an oral communications in the workplace...

But, do you find the same to be true with other women with whom you work, who aren't specifically trained in communications?

I, personally, don't fit the generally-stereotyped mold (as presented in the article), either...but I find it to be true, generally-speaking, for women. Most people who interact with me online find me to be too logical and fact-driven, rather than the emotional and touch-feeley-type they expect women to be. I don't know if it's due to my professional training bleeding through or my own personality, but many an online *debate* has been launched because what someone has written and presented-as-fact is completely devoid of factual actualities,

and I'm not afraid to whip out the citation to a legitimate source to *prove* it. MOST unlady-*like*, I assure you.

Though, in my real-world interactions with women, on a social level, I prefer - and feel most comfortable - in the typically *feminine* way of carrying on a conversation and sharing our experiences, which is how we typically sort things out and make sense of it all. Yes, I, too, bristle when in my personal relationships with men they want to 'quick, here, let ME solve this problem for you', rather than simply let me talk-it-out, which is how/where/when I make sense of it. Because I know this, I typically DON'T have those types of talks with the man in my life...which, yes...leaves me - as a woman - feeling less intimacy for, with, and towards him...

...and that lacking of intimacy then begins to show itself in other areas of the relationship, eroding away at my overall satisfaction within it.

I seriously thought the Men/Mars-Women/Venus thing had gotten us - and subsequent generations - passed all of this. Obviously NOT.



That realization saddens me. :cry2:
 
We all come here to "socialize" but generally we don't know each other. So basically we come here to "anonymously" socialize.
:shrug:

*sigh* If only everyone's reasons for visiting online communities were simply to socialize. The internet would be a lot nicer of a place let me tell you...

However there's lots of bitter people who (I assume) are very unhappy with their own lives so they look for any venue available (forums are a convenient option) to make everyone else feel as bitter & lousy about themselves as they do.
Other people have seemingly good lives and are well adjusted, they just crave conflict and they're not satisfied until they get some of it.

Anyway back on topic, we're all individuals and we're all wired differently so a person's gender (in my opinion) has nothing to do with how they behave or conduct themselves in real life or the internet. Studies and statistics may be able to tell you what most people do but they can't tell you what all people do. We're all unique and special, regardless of what body parts we have attached to us.

:grouphug:
 
I think it depends on the man and woman . How they choose to engage. Communication being important in any interaction. I also think as well it depends on what interest a person holds in another or subject.

The more interested a person is in another or subject, the more they offer up about themselves. But personally have found both genders can be as equally coy about this as well as open. Dependent on what they are more comfortable with.

Some people like the intellectual challenge that opens a discussion, whereas others post their opinion and just leave it at that.

I think more open when interacting and the more personal gives the ability for people to be able to relate to others.

But a very interesting article. :)
 
I started out on the forums 7 years ago because when my son was left brain damaged
because of a text driver I had to leave work as I lived at the hospital with my son for a few
months and so many people were at my side every day/night.

But when I came home with my son people stopped visiting because the changes in my
sons personality scared people they didn't know how to interact with me like they use
to be able to do for so many years.

With brain injuries you only get 2 years to try and improve things so I made it my mission
to grab lot's & lots of books on the brain I needed to try and give my son a real good chance
of being able to live independently in case some thing was to happen to me that scared me
more than any thing in this world.

When my 2 years was up I taught myself how to use a computer because I yearned for
contact with the out side world..I came across forums.

It's very rare for me to post serious unless some thing touches my heart and I feel I'm able to
contribute to help some one..You will never see me on debate threads because I prefer verbal
debates rather than typing.

I joined forums 7 years ago because I so needed laughter in my life and I know my sense of
humor isn't every ones cup of tea but hey I've had enough serious in my life to last me a life time.

You will never see me put commas where they should be and all that jazz not because I'm dumb
just because I don't bother with that stuff on the forums.

Nobody in this world can make me miserable on any forum simply because the real world is what
I'm all about I've lost mates on forums because of the silly mentality of who I interact with but
that's no skin off my nose.

I'm sure I irk many people because of my sense of humor but I'm not on forums to be popular I'm
on forums because it's me time and the best medicine is laughter.

I'm very much enjoying my time with these intelligent ladies on this thread we are like chalk and cheese in so many ways in regard to the way I post compared to them but on the other hand we have things in common
and for the first time it's enjoyable to read their thoughts on threads that once for so long I ignored.

Any way if I'm off topic it wasn't on purpose as I know for a fact mrldii does prefer threads to stay on topic.

Just made a post about why I enjoy the forums.
 
But, do you find the same to be true with other women with whom you work, who aren't specifically trained in communications?

I, personally, don't fit the generally-stereotyped mold (as presented in the article), either...but I find it to be true, generally-speaking, for women. Most people who interact with me online find me to be too logical and fact-driven, rather than the emotional and touch-feeley-type they expect women to be. I don't know if it's due to my professional training bleeding through or my own personality, but many an online *debate* has been launched because what someone has written and presented-as-fact is completely devoid of factual actualities,

and I'm not afraid to whip out the citation to a legitimate source to *prove* it. MOST unlady-*like*, I assure you.

Though, in my real-world interactions with women, on a social level, I prefer - and feel most comfortable - in the typically *feminine* way of carrying on a conversation and sharing our experiences, which is how we typically sort things out and make sense of it all. Yes, I, too, bristle when in my personal relationships with men they want to 'quick, here, let ME solve this problem for you', rather than simply let me talk-it-out, which is how/where/when I make sense of it. Because I know this, I typically DON'T have those types of talks with the man in my life...which, yes...leaves me - as a woman - feeling less intimacy for, with, and towards him...

...and that lacking of intimacy then begins to show itself in other areas of the relationship, eroding away at my overall satisfaction within it.

I seriously thought the Men/Mars-Women/Venus thing had gotten us - and subsequent generations - passed all of this. Obviously NOT.



That realization saddens me. :cry2:
I am literally the only woman where I work. The boss' (79 years old) wife 77 years old works 3 hours 4 days a week. But I'm the only other woman in a "man's" world.
I don't even tell anyone when I'm going to the bathroom cuz it's no mans business lol

I started out on the forums 7 years ago because when my son was left brain damaged
because of a text driver I had to leave work as I lived at the hospital with my son for a few
months and so many people were at my side every day/night.

But when I came home with my son people stopped visiting because the changes in my
sons personality scared people they didn't know how to interact with me like they use
to be able to do for so many years.

With brain injuries you only get 2 years to try and improve things so I made it my mission
to grab lot's & lots of books on the brain I needed to try and give my son a real good chance
of being able to live independently in case some thing was to happen to me that scared me
more than any thing in this world.

When my 2 years was up I taught myself how to use a computer because I yearned for
contact with the out side world..I came across forums.

It's very rare for me to post serious unless some thing touches my heart and I feel I'm able to
contribute to help some one..You will never see me on debate threads because I prefer verbal
debates rather than typing.

I joined forums 7 years ago because I so needed laughter in my life and I know my sense of
humor isn't every ones cup of tea but hey I've had enough serious in my life to last me a life time.

You will never see me put commas where they should be and all that jazz not because I'm dumb
just because I don't bother with that stuff on the forums.

Nobody in this world can make me miserable on any forum simply because the real world is what
I'm all about I've lost mates on forums because of the silly mentality of who I interact with but
that's no skin off my nose.

I'm sure I irk many people because of my sense of humor but I'm not on forums to be popular I'm
on forums because it's me time and the best medicine is laughter.

I'm very much enjoying my time with these intelligent ladies on this thread we are like chalk and cheese in so many ways in regard to the way I post compared to them but on the other hand we have things in common
and for the first time it's enjoyable to read their thoughts on threads that once for so long I ignored.

Any way if I'm off topic it wasn't on purpose as I know for a fact mrldii does prefer threads to stay on topic.

Just made a post about why I enjoy the forums.
This is just astounding. Thank you merc for sharing such a life story. What a wonderful mother and lady.
 
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This is just astounding. Thank you merc for sharing such a life story. What a wonderful mother and lady.

Thanks mate but I was the lucky mum I witnessed young kids die from terminal cancer
parents deathly screams still haunt me to this day.

Got very close to families with kids who were waiting for lung transplants because of
cystic fibrosis watched those kids die too.

Kids with brain injuries I would sing too and feed/cuddle because their parents gave up on them.

It was a very very very sad time in my life but my family got lucky compared to many families.

Now I'm off topic.
 
In all honesty, I began my fb for sole intentions of bashing a used car lot who ripped me off $11,000 for a worthless lemon car that I paid cash for. I had the car two months and had to completely redo engine transmissyon breaks and rotors and I didn't want to deal with it anymore. The rentals the breakdowns the walking... They would not satisfy me and I gave them every opportunity and told them I was going to publicize my discontent and their responses. They wouldn't so I did. The FIRST person that fb told me I might know? The salesman who sold me the car! True story! I immediately friended him to which he immediately blocked me! I then proceeded to put that shit right out there. It's still there 4 years now. But that was my PURPOSE for making my fb now I have hundreds of friends and absolutely no drama whatsoever.
 
Drunken Man Careens Wildly Across Internet
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PLYMOUTH, MA—Racing erratically between unrelated browser tabs, local man Eric Mancano was spotted careening around the internet in a drunken haze at approximately 2 a.m. Tuesday, sources confirmed. “He was out of control, just swerving from one site to the next without any apparent idea of where he was going,” said an anonymous witness, who saw Mancano stagger incoherently from an NHL box score to CNN’s Politics section before suddenly jumping 28 seconds into Nas’ “Hate Me Now” music video on YouTube. “At one point he must’ve been about halfway through a Buzzfeed ‘20 Most Expensive Zip Codes’ list when he blacked out, regained consciousness right in the middle of an IAmA subreddit, and then slammed headfirst into the Washington Post paywall. It was alarming to watch.” Sources then reported seeing a semi-lucid Mancano quickly reverse course and head straight for his ex-girlfriend’s Facebook page.

Thanks mate but I was the lucky mum I witnessed young kids die from terminal cancer
parents deathly screams still haunt me to this day.

Got very close to families with kids who were waiting for lung transplants because of
cystic fibrosis watched those kids die too.

Kids with brain injuries I would sing too and feed/cuddle because their parents gave up on them.

It was a very very very sad time in my life but my family got lucky compared to many families.

Now I'm off topic.
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