How tight are you with family?

[KO896]

How tight are you with your family? How about siblings and their children?

We used to be really tight with everyone, but then we moved away for my husband's job and now everyone is really distant. Their political views make them really toxic and have said some harsh things that shouldn't have been said just because we voted the way we did. So now we don't want to even contact them. I wish that we lived closer like we used to because I think that they wouldn't have felt so bold to be so hurtful with their words.

 

[passenger]

How tight are you with your family? How about siblings and their children?

We used to be really tight with everyone, but then we moved away for my husband's job and now everyone is really distant. Their political views make them really toxic and have said some harsh things that shouldn't have been said just because we voted the way we did. So now we don't want to even contact them. I wish that we lived closer like we used to because I think that they wouldn't have felt so bold to be so hurtful with their words.

That's too bad!

It's a fact and a real shame that political discussions can cause serious rifts between friends, children (grown) , and other family.
For that very reason I refuse to even "touch" on politics (& sometimes that's pretty tough to do) with some of the children.

 

[blinding]

How tight are you with your family? How about siblings and their children?

We used to be really tight with everyone, but then we moved away for my husband's job and now everyone is really distant. Their political views make them really toxic and have said some harsh things that shouldn't have been said just because we voted the way we did. So now we don't want to even contact them. I wish that we lived closer like we used to because I think that they wouldn't have felt so bold to be so hurtful with their words.

I'm sorry you've had to experience that, politics are no reason to hurt others, especially family. I will say though, living closer may have stopped them from saying anything, but that doesn't mean that those thoughts and feelings wouldn't still be there. They showed you who they actually are, that's a positive to take away imo.

My family dynamic is, uh, weird. My mom took me and ran from my dad, didn't let them know or tell the courts and spent the entirety of my childhood basically hiding my whereabouts from them. She replaced my dad with a physically and abusive monster, they had my half-brother and then she forced him out for cheating (not the prolong mental and physical harm.) She also ran from her own family, my grandfather at the time being active service was being shipped all over the place and my grandmother barely had the means to come visit us for holidays. She would actually end up getting excommunicated by my mom for a decade, for standing up to my then-stepfather and his abuse on the last holiday trip she would make. So needless to say, being tight-knit with family isn't something I experienced, and even asking for that from my mom resulted in me getting the "you're dead to me" treatment.

I reconnected with my dad's side as an adult, and while I want and would love having a close connection with all of them, there's just too much at odds with it. The biggest being the resulting mental mess of everything I went through, the next being the ~14 hour distance. I don't think that's representative of a lack of love or wanting of that though, and I'm certainly glad that we're at least able to navigate around our political differences to make good memories when we are able to meet up. It's just how it is for now, you know?

Sorry once again for what you're dealing with @KO896

 

[KO896]

I'm sorry you've had to experience that, politics are no reason to hurt others, especially family. I will say though, living closer may have stopped them from saying anything, but that doesn't mean that those thoughts and feelings wouldn't still be there. They showed you who they actually are, that's a positive to take away imo.

My family dynamic is, uh, weird. My mom took me and ran from my dad, didn't let them know or tell the courts and spent the entirety of my childhood basically hiding my whereabouts from them. She replaced my dad with a physically and abusive monster, they had my half-brother and then she forced him out for cheating (not the prolong mental and physical harm.) She also ran from her own family, my grandfather at the time being active service was being shipped all over the place and my grandmother barely had the means to come visit us for holidays. She would actually end up getting excommunicated by my mom for a decade, for standing up to my then-stepfather and his abuse on the last holiday trip she would make. So needless to say, being tight-knit with family isn't something I experienced, and even asking for that from my mom resulted in me getting the "you're dead to me" treatment.

I reconnected with my dad's side as an adult, and while I want and would love having a close connection with all of them, there's just too much at odds with it. The biggest being the resulting mental mess of everything I went through, the next being the ~14 hour distance. I don't think that's representative of a lack of love or wanting of that though, and I'm certainly glad that we're at least able to navigate around our political differences to make good memories when we are able to meet up. It's just how it is for now, you know?

Sorry once again for what you're dealing with @KO896

That sounds really awful Family can really be the worst people!