Abuse?

[xneseyx]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. there are a lot of things that I do that he doesn't approve of and he gets upset with me over really little stuff. but he promised he'd change, so I decided to give him that chance. but now he has decided that I'm not allowed to hang out with a very good friend of mine. He is a boy, he is younger than my boyfriend, and apparently a lot of people don't like him. and my boyfriend told me that apparently everyone at school (I'm not there very often anymore, only one class) thinks that I'm cheating on my boyfriend with my friend. he told me that I have to stop hanging out with my friend or he'll break up with me. isn't this a form of abuse? what would you guys do?

btw: I asked some of the kids I go to school with what they thought and they all said that nobody thinks that anybody is cheating.

 

[Jazzy]

I think you already know the answer. The root of all evil isn't MONEY, contrary to popular belief. It's JEALOUSY. Nobody can abuse you unless you allow it to happen

 

[Raven]

Nobody can abuse you unless you allow it to happen

Hmm I don't agree with this comment at all.



I was in a relationship similiar to this and being jealous and possive is not a good situation. Get out whilst you can.

 

[Corleone]

Sounds like he has some insecurity and trust issues (Jealousy); if he can't accept you and your friends, regardless of gender, then maybe you should tell him you're just not into guys who don't trust you for no apparent reason. Abuse, if that's what you want to call it, shouldn't be tolerated. I'm a guy, I have a sister, and she had a boyfriend who told her what she could wear, what she could do, and who her friends could be. She wasn't happy, so why give in to some loser who doesn't deserve you? Dump him if he can't get over his jealousy issues. In no way is this your problem, so don't let him convert his predicament onto you, because you need to let him decide whether or not he wants to be with you, meaning he'd have to accepted your friends or he can find some other girl who will take his abuse.

 

[Nebulous]

Its pretty normal for a guy not to want his girlfriend alone with another guy. Thats just human nature.

Why dont you all three go out and do something together?

 

[Corleone]

Its pretty normal for a guy not to want his girlfriend alone with another guy. Thats just human nature.

Why dont you all three go out and do something together?

Hanging out and being alone are two different things in my book.

Going to the movies, mall, wherever is hanging out, but inviting him over to watch a movie home alone is another thing. But Nebulous is right, maybe I jumped the gun a little bit, but try hanging out together. Even still, if he is a big jealousy person, then I'd get rid of him. This one girl used/still may like me, but she ignored me for a while because I was talking to another girl, but that's her problem.

 

[hotspot]

I must do what I couldn't do before! My friend was/is in the same situation you are in! She had this abusive boyfriend that would cheat on her and was jealous of anyone near her age. He was jealous of me thinking I was going to steal her! She would always lie to him saying that I wasn't hanging out with her or whatever.

Eventually she got kicked out of her house and now is married to the scuzzball, I always wanted to tell her that I didn't like him and he isn't right for her. But she did know him first and I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship if I had said anything.



So I say dump his jealous buttocks!! dump him dump him dump him! If he can't trust you then screw him!

Sorry if I seem a little rude.

 

[Vivian]

Its not abuse. Thats just a typical man acting like a typical man.

 

[Grailknight]

Its not abuse. Thats just a typical man acting like a typical man.

I may feel threatened if my girl hangs out with some other guy, sure. But it's damn well no reason to forbid her from seeing anyone.

Trust is arguably the most important part of a relationship. If there's no trust, it's unlikely to last.