Annoying flatmate

[Bea Sunny (:]

I live with three girls in the apartment and I really like two of them but the other girl is really annoying us.
At first she was just messy, but after that she butt in her roomie's privacies saying that her boyfriend is not for her and stuff like that, but she is the one who is making out with her boss who is married. It is okay that they are together but they making out in the kitchen and in the bathroom and once they did in my room too and I didn't know.
Last night she came home and after 10 minutes we heard that her boss came too and they awoke up the rest of us. They stayed in the kitchen for a while and after that they took a bath together but with so much noise, I have no problem if they bath together but not when everyone is at home and it was also too late for that. We talked on chat with my flatmates and we discussed that two of us will go in the kitchen so they can't come back there because we thought that they want to make out there too. Ok we did that so they had to go in the room where it was her roommate. She was in bed and watched a moovie. After 10 minutes they left the apartment.
We talked a lot about this but we don't know what to do. The other problem is that she knows that with this behavior she is disturbing us and this is why she is doing it and she doesn't care about it and she is doing it constantly.
Honestly we want her to move out but we know that she won't do that in the near future.
What should we do?

 

[Duskpire]

Firstly, Sleeping with someone who is married is pretty wrong...or just immoral. Although, Nothing you can do about that. Thats her personal life and so is the married man wanting to cheat on his wife.

Secondly. What you can do. You and your room mates on the other hand. If you want her out. You all go to the land lord and have her taken off the lease. If its the 3 of you claiming she's causing issues, I'm sure your land lord will understand.If not, than you'll just have to wait it out.

Hopefully your land lord will help you and she'll be out.

 

[Elvira]

What Richard said!

Or change the locks on her?

 

[~KAGE-008]

Since I'm someone who isn't looking for a relationship at the moment, I have to agree with Richard's statement. When there is a couple in your APT, it's very hard to even keep a constant sleep pattern. I had to sleep at 03:00 several times back in December because of something similar.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

If you can't kick her out then you and the two girls should move out, find a new place to live.

First, maybe you should try to talk it out? Come to a compromise?

 

[Bea Sunny (:]

Firstly, Sleeping with someone who is married is pretty wrong...or just immoral. Although, Nothing you can do about that. Thats her personal life and so is the married man wanting to cheat on his wife.

Secondly. What you can do. You and your room mates on the other hand. If you want her out. You all go to the land lord and have her taken off the lease. If its the 3 of you claiming she's causing issues, I'm sure your land lord will understand.If not, than you'll just have to wait it out.  

Hopefully your land lord will help you and she'll be out.

We thought about this but I think the land lord will take her side because she can't kick her out just like this because she doesn't have anywhere to go.
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What Richard said!

Or change the locks on her?

Hmmm interesting idea.
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If you can't kick her out then you and the two girls should move out, find a new place to live.

First, maybe you should try to talk it out? Come to a compromise?

We don't want to move out because we like it here.
I don't know we can talk to her normal because when you think she is happy she isn't and she can get very very nervous so I don't know we can have a normal conversation. And even if we tell her that what she does is annoying she will continue to do because she knows this.

 

[Duskpire]

I guess the only real option at this point is that you have to tolerate your room mate since none of you are willing to move.

If you're really desperate I guess  you and your room mates can all try to convince her to have her boss leave his wife, file for divorce, than she can move in with him.

 

[Jazzy]

Here's what I would do. Put a note on her door and all of you sign it:

Notice

We do not appreciate having a married man in our flat. If you continue to bring him here, you will leave us no other recourse but to notify his wife of what's going on.

Signed,

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

Well if you won't move, make her move or attempt to talk it out, you're just going to have to tolerate it.

 

[michonne]

Here's what I would do. Put a note on her door and all of you sign it:

Notice

We do not appreciate having a married man in our flat. If you continue to bring him here, you will leave us no other recourse but to notify his wife of what's going on.

Signed,

I love this one

Or pack up her stuff in boxes and bags and leave it in the hall after you've changed the locks....

Sounds to me like she's well aware her behavior is both annoying and unacceptable....she does not seem to care about you two.....so give her the boot....

 

[mrldii]

I'm not sure what the leasehold laws are in Romania, but here in the United States, there's not a damned thing a landlord can do for roommates who are each named on a lease when they're not getting along. There's not much a landlord can do if someone's NOT named on a lease, other than terminate the whole damned tenancy and kick EVERYONE named on the lease out, for breaking the terms of the lease.

In all actuality...and all kidding aside...I like Jazzy's suggestion. Since you suspect she's doing *it* (and by "it", I mean doing "it with him") even more because she knows it distresses all of you so much, each of you should sign that note. And, then when she continues doing *it*, each of you should snap photos of them on your cellphones in the middle of *it* AND send those pics to his wife.

I love games of "fuck-fuck"...and I especially love to win games of "fuck-fuck" by out "fuck-fucking" the other *guy* who's playing.

Good luck! runk:

 

[Bea Sunny (:]

Things have changed a lot since I started this thread. I think like a month ago one of my flatmate talked to my other flatmate I talked about and she said that she disturbed us with this kind of "activity" she was doing and she said that she will try to change it. After that she wasn't doing it that often I think her boss came once or twice. Now we talk more and she is a lot nicer with us.