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Calming anger

How do you successfully calm your anger?
Interesting question,

Though I quite simply get away from the problem as much as possible. Say go up to my room (taking food with me if needed) or going on a walk even outside to the mere neighborhood.

That is usually enough to de elesicate the situation.
 
Usually with heavy music like Anthrax, Vio-lence, Coroner, Death or similars.. it's been like that for decades. Also having a nice leisure mini trip helps a lot.
 
How do you successfully calm your anger?

I don't think I ever did stop my anger. I spent 11 years fighting with my ex wife only to come out of it burned out, mentally and emotionally. During the marriage, I was on anti depressants to help keep me mellowed out.

And when the divorce was finalized and I was living alone. I decided that the triggers that had been there were gone. What was the point of being doped up all of the time on prescription drugs? So I got off of the medicine. I haven't had an episode in almost 2 years. I'm with a wonderful woman now.

I haven't snapped at her or gotten upset. She is far far different than my ex wife ever was and I'm still not used to it. It's a good thing. But I'm just used to coming home and dealing with drama and stress. And this woman doesn't do that to me. I'm not used to it yet. But I like it.
 
I try to do something else to keep myself busy like take a walk or listen to music. Usually after the walk I realize it's literally not worth it or wonder why I was so mad in the first place because it doesn't seem like a big deal anymore.
 
Self-awareness.

If I can catch myself before I tip over the edge, then I can stop myself from getting angry. Not internally, but externally. I will rage inside but obviously it keeps confrontation to a low.
 
I cry, yell, try to talk about it as applicable. Divert my attention. Go for walks on our wooded acreage. Being in nature always calms me down. As well as petting our furkids.
 
When I get angry, I may take a deep breath and then walk away. After that, to calm my mind, I listen to some of my favorite music.
 
I sometimes listen to music or hike in the mountains. It depends on how I handle it.
 
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