Confidence?

[Fayble]

Do you live your life with confidence, or are you one of those people who look up to others? And I don't mean like an idol. It's more like you change your personality to try and be like them, because you're unsatisfied with your own self.



Well, I recently struggled with just that. Yeah, I admit it. I used to be very insecure and shy. I was always trying to alter myself to be more cool. IDK haha But something happened to me recently... I guess it's just what college does to you. I woke up from the fantasy I was living and started to look at myself as better then everyone else. But in a good way. Hear me out.



The old me used to walk with his head down low and a slouched back, but now I got a sudden boost of confidence and am walking with a straight back, head up, and a new mentality on my mind. I call it the shit mentality. I mean I don't show it, but in my head I'm thinking how much better then everyone else I am. It's the new me bitches! Haha



I feel this is a good way to live life, because not only does it make you realize how good you truly are, but it also shows others that you're confident and determined to be something in life. Let's face it, who's going to want hang out with an insecure and shy kid who probably has little to no friends. You need to be uberly confident and proud of who you are. Never change for anyone yah know.



Just a thought, what are your opinions on this...?

 

[Nebulous]

I was living and started to look at myself as better then everyone else.



in my head I'm thinking how much better then everyone else I am. It's the new me bitches! Haha

Well it seems like you described arrogance to me, not confidence.

 

[sdrawkcab]

Well it seems like you described arrogance to me, not confidence.

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...its good that ur happy and more outgoing, but don't overdo it buddy...

 

[Raven]

I used to be really unconfident. Now I am sometimes.



I have no confidence round large groups of people.

 

[Fayble]

Well it seems like you described arrogance to me, not confidence.

Well no, I still know my place. I just think like that in my head. Trust me it's far from arrogant and I understand I'm not the coolest or best looking guy around, but with all that confidence on my mind it sure does help me talk to people, and sometimes I may even be just that just because the way I carry myself.

 

[Kasynlie]

I never got the impression that Karrit was being arrogant. I believe he was just keeping a positive frame of mind and if that means thinking you're better than everyone else, then more power to him. You can't have a positive attitude if you think that everyone else is better than you. It just doesn't work.

 

[Fayble]

I never got the impression that Karrit was being arrogant. I believe he was just keeping a positive frame of mind and if that means thinking you're better than everyone else, then more power to him. You can't have a positive attitude if you think that everyone else is better than you. It just doesn't work.

That's exactly what I was trying to say. Thanks for clearing it up and glad you agree. People now-a-days need to be more confident in themselves. I see so many people with such great potential. If only they saw it too.

 

[Nebulous]

People who think they are superior to everyone else are arrogant. Also I don't think thats a very positive way to think / act.

You can be confident in yourself that doesn't mean you have to think you are better than other people. A confident person shouldn't have to compare themselves to others.

 

[Alien]

Feeling inferior to others is obviously a negative way to feel, but feeling just as good as anyone else, rather than better than others, is no bad thing.

 

[Kasynlie]

I'm generally always pretty confident. I just smile and say to myself that everyone who I may encounter is my best friend. That way it's easier to talk to them. And if anyone says or thinks anything negative of me, then I just think to myself that they're jealous of me and need to get over themselves.

 

[Xerent]

Do you live your life with confidence, or are you one of those people who look up to others? And I don't mean like an idol. It's more like you change your personality to try and be like them, because you're unsatisfied with your own self.



Well, I recently struggled with just that. Yeah, I admit it. I used to be very insecure and shy. I was always trying to alter myself to be more cool. IDK haha But something happened to me recently... I guess it's just what college does to you. I woke up from the fantasy I was living and started to look at myself as better then everyone else. But in a good way. Hear me out.



The old me used to walk with his head down low and a slouched back, but now I got a sudden boost of confidence and am walking with a straight back, head up, and a new mentality on my mind. I call it the shit mentality. I mean I don't show it, but in my head I'm thinking how much better then everyone else I am. It's the new me bitches! Haha



I feel this is a good way to live life, because not only does it make you realize how good you truly are, but it also shows others that you're confident and determined to be something in life. Let's face it, who's going to want hang out with an insecure and shy kid who probably has little to no friends. You need to be uberly confident and proud of who you are. Never change for anyone yah know.



Just a thought, what are your opinions on this...?

That happened to me a year ago. My mom got a new boyfriend who taught me not to be shy and what not. And now I walk through my school halls with my head up thinking I'm not a loser, I have friends, and I can get people to like me and enjoy beign around me.



You know what also feels good? Speaking up. When you buy something at a store, look the cashier in the eye and just say it loudly Thankyou, I really hope you have a good night and when you say that so loud and nicely you definitely see them spark up and just go... what a nice kid haha...

 

[Fayble]

People who think they are superior to everyone else are arrogant. Also I don't think thats a very positive way to think / act.

You can be confident in yourself that doesn't mean you have to think you are better than other people. A confident person shouldn't have to compare themselves to others.

Stop thinking so narrow minded man. Look! I'm not better then everybody and I know that deep down inside, but thinking like that at the present moment helps bring out my confidence. You're making it seem like I think I'm a God. I keep telling you that no one can tell that I'm thinking like that. They just see a confident person standing in front of them. But thinking like that helps me give off the confident persona, and not to mention I am better then everyone, in my head. Why would I sit there and think others are better then me...? That brings me back to my insecure stage. That's just stupid. If you keep thinking like that then eventually they will be better then you, cuz it's all in your head. It's called self confidence bro. You make it sound like I'm being cocky. Trust me, If I was cocky people would know, but since I think like that in my head, and no one can read my thoughts, hence I just come off as a confident person.

 

[Nebulous]

Actually what you are doing is being insecure. Why would you think about weather or not someone is better or worse than you in the first place?

Like I said, if you really were a confident person and secure with yourself, you wouldnt have to compare yourself to others.



Im a confident person + secure with myself and it shows but I dont think Im any better than anyone else nor does the thought ever even cross my mind. At the end of the day, we are all people.

 

[Fayble]

Actually what you are doing is being insecure. Why would you think about weather or not someone is better or worse than you in the first place?

Like I said, if you really were a confident person and secure with yourself, you wouldnt have to compare yourself to others.

First I'm arrogant and now I'm insecure. Make up your mind bro. Those are antonyms of each other. Pick a side and stick with it.



How can I be



arrogant: making claims or pretensions to superior importance or rights; overbearingly assuming; insolently proud: an arrogant public official.



and...



insecure: subject to fears, doubts, etc.; not self-confident or assured: an insecure person.



at the same time...

 

[Nebulous]

Well at 1st you came off as arrogant and then after getting down to the nitty gritty Im seeing some insecurities.

Ive never met you in person so I cant really say for sure thats what you are, Im just replying to what I am seeing on my computer screen.

 

[Fayble]

I've repeated myself over and over again bro... I haven't changed my view at all. Unlike you. Seems to me like you're trying too hard to win this argument instead of opening your mind and realizing what's coming out of my mouth or your computer screen I should say... You're the only one who has disagreed with me so far and like I said before I used to be like you and changed the way I was and what I said to try and be on top. So who's really being the insecure one. Hi old me. And by the way you don't know me. That's one thing you got right. I aint insecure and never will be again. I'm arrogant right...? Yeah ok.



And by the way this wasn't suppose to be an argument. I wanted to discuss the matter and see if anyone else is like me. But now you just unleashed me and I can do this all day bro. Come at me haha I don't like your attitude. You're assuming things about me and it's totally not me. Just so you know before you assume things.

 

[Nebulous]

Im not trying to argue with anyone. Im just saying that instead of coming off as the confident person you are striving to be, you are coming off arrogant and insecure at the same time by reading the reasonings behind your statements.

 

[Kasynlie]

I'm taking Karrit's side on this debate. I used to be not be as confident as I am now, and I did the exact same thing Karrit does. Trust me, once you have built up that confidence and lock it in place, you don't need to think that everyone else is beneath you. It becomes second nature it's a fantastic feeling.

 

[Fayble]

Im not trying to argue with anyone. Im just saying that instead of coming off as the confident person you are striving to be, you are coming off arrogant and insecure at the same time by reading the reasonings behind your statements.

- Nebulous



I'm arrogant just because I think highly of myself...? I'm sorry I'll try and be a negative nancy and go about life getting walked on. Yeah right bro, I'm me and no one will ever change that. I've never had an enemy in my life, nor been called cocky or arrogant. And thinking that I'm on the same level as others is just plain stupid as well. I want to shine not be average. I know what is within me. Which is greatness. Oh, I'm sorry meant to say average so I won't come off as cocky.



Is the message behind this video telling you to be average? No... And look at what Michael accomplished. Stop trying to please everyone. I come first in my mind. I don't even care if you think I'm cocky, because I know what I really am.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y5Vwt_VYYcg



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_-EyRUgp9Mk

 

[Nebulous]

once you have built up that confidence and lock it in place, you don't need to think that everyone else is beneath you. It becomes second nature

Replace the word confidence with arrogance and I'd say thats accurate statement.