Do you plan your life?

[Randy]

Do you plan your life in detail, or do you prefer not to make plans? Why?

 

[PGen98]

I used to. I used to have plans for each payday, plans for the future, plans for where I wanted to go in life. I was doing well until I gave everything up. Now I don't bother, my life is basically on repeat each day, so...not much point.

 

[Elvira]

Plans can be broken too easily.

 

[Smiley]

Plan as much as reasonably possible, wing the rest.

 

[MamaFrankie]

Yes, especially now that I have more years behind me than I have ahead of me.

 

[passenger]

I used to. I used to have plans for each payday, plans for the future, plans for where I wanted to go in life. I was doing well until I gave everything up. Now I don't bother, my life is basically on repeat each day, so...not much point.

I've been there; the best you can possibly do now is try to plan each day. Most days even that small plan does not work because you have no idea what to expect and seems like there are always notsogood surprises.
Things will change & then you will be free to dream again.

 

[PGen98]

I've been there; the best you can possibly do now is try to plan each day. Most days even that small plan does not work because you have no idea what to expect and seems like there are always notsogood surprises.
Things will change & then you will be free to dream again.

Yeah, I still try to make plans for days now and then, but because I'm looking after my mother full time, and she's completely unpredictable, most of those plans go out the window.

 

[passenger]

Yeah, I still try to make plans for days now and then, but because I'm looking after my mother full time, and she's completely unpredictable, most of those plans go out the window.

Do you get a helper, relief 'sitter', for at least one day a week? (Courtesy of your state) If so, maybe you could at least make a plan for that day; go to a movie, whatever. ??
(Small stuff )

 

[PGen98]

Do you get a helper, relief 'sitter', for at least one day a week? (Courtesy of your state) If so, maybe you could at least make a plan for that day; go to a movie, whatever. ??
(Small stuff )

Technically yeah, my mother is entitled to 8 hours of respite care per week, but she's so skittish around people she doesn't know that we don't make use of it.

 

[passenger]

Technically yeah, my mother is entitled to 8 hours of respite care per week, but she's so skittish around people she doesn't know that we don't make use of it.

Your Mom may have "windows" of lucidity, but if she has periods of not recognizing you, chances are that if a chore worker took your place for 8 hours a week your Mom would not be 'frazzled' about it the next day....or maybe even as soon as you got back home. You never know, she might even enjoy talking with the worker for a change of pace.
Would sure do you a world of good to take advantage of this service.
We lived 30 miles from town when Mom was with us; so I mostly used the 'time off' for grocery & etc. shopping. Besides her main mission of keeping an eye on Mom, our chore worker would get some light housework done while I was gone....vacuuming, making beds, dishes......NICE!
I think it's totally unreasonable for you to be on the job 24/7; it'll eventually drive you batty.

 

[PGen98]

Your Mom may have "windows" of lucidity, but if she has periods of not recognizing you, chances are that if a chore worker took your place for 8 hours a week your Mom would not be 'frazzled' about it the next day....or maybe even as soon as you got back home. You never know, she might even enjoy talking with the worker for a change of pace.
Would sure do you a world of good to take advantage of this service.
We lived 30 miles from town when Mom was with us; so I mostly used the 'time off' for grocery & etc. shopping. Besides her main mission of keeping an eye on Mom, our chore worker would get some light housework done while I was gone....vacuuming, making beds, dishes......NICE!
I think it's totally unreasonable for you to be on the job 24/7; it'll eventually drive you batty.

Her lucid periods are a long way behind her, and she doesn't recognize me beyond knowing that she does know me in some way, so I take your point. I just worries me leaving her with someone she's uncomfortable with, especially for my own benefit. It would be lovely to have that time, but I would spend the whole time worrying.

I was batty long before I started caring for my mother, lol. I can thank dysthymia and gender dysphoria for that!

 

[Nebulous]

I am a planner. I like to plan things out and be ready ahead of time. Like Friday we went out of town, I factored in the drive time and how long it would take to do each activity. We left at the perfect time, had time to do all the things and then make it back home exactly when I thought we would.

 

[PGen98]

I am a planner. I like to plan things out and be ready ahead of time. Like Friday we went out of town, I factored in the drive time and how long it would take to do each activity. We left at the perfect time, had time to do all the things and then make it back home exactly when I thought we would.

Now that's a level of planning I could do with!

 

[Webster]

Do you plan your life in detail, or do you prefer not to make plans? Why?

Other than making sure funeral expenses are set and planned out (life insurance, distribution of assets, etc.), not really....

 

[emily]

I never plan anything, and actually, it's a grate way to avoid disappointment
just take things as they come..

 

[MrDawn]

No. Life can pass you by while you're making plans for it. Best to live in the moment.

 

[Cory]

Not really, I fly by the seat of my pants and see what life brings me. I've never had many goals or aspirations.

 

[Nebulous]

No. Life can pass you by while you're making plans for it. Best to live in the moment.

You can take a couple minutes out of your day to plan something out and still live a life.

 

[brad.smith]

I do plan but also realize things can change as life, plans, nothing is guaranteed.
But in a general sense like If I have something coming up or a big payment on something, I make sure nothing gets in the way of that AKA, House payment, Car payment etc. even if everything else has to be on hold til thats taken care of so be it.

Depends what it is other things can wait especually if its an importance or high on the priority list.

Plans with others - meh those are the ones that are important but dont always stick.

Involving money- Depends what part of that is involved I make sure that is taken care of or handled - Saving for a safety net granted that one is alil harder but i still keep trying.

Planing my day - Thats really rough, With owning a business, full time job and house and a new romantic partner that has made it really tough. and also my sleep schedule is off too as i sleep during the day and up at night. When i am off i stay up during the day and sleep at night depending on the day and how tired i am.

 

[MrDawn]

You can take a couple minutes out of your day to plan something out and still live a life.

Like mowing the lawn? Sure!