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Don't like being lead on

Fatal Dawn

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One of the things that bothers me - mostly because of how much it has happened to me in the past- is when you are lead on or manipulated by someone you love. You develop a relationship with someone, as it blossoms the other person finally decides to tell you they're already in a relationship.



Recently it has hit me hard. I've recently noticed a girl that I've known for about a year and we've been getting close. I'm not afraid to admit that I love this girl, I'm serious about a relationship. During our time alone together we keep a close friendship, I'd explain it as a brother-sister relationship. It's platonic love. During our time she's been giving me hints about a romantic relationship, ways a girl would act if they want a more intimate relationship. However, she says she has a boyfriend, of whom I knew nothing about. I don't like being lead on because I am no tool!



Worse yet, her boyfriend is in one of my classes. They talk to each other a lot, but she seems to ignore me and act like she does not know me. In the dark she acts romantic to me. In the light she ignores me.



I am unclear of how to handle this situation. It's a slippery slope. Her boyfriend doesn't know the extent our intimate relationship and that's how I want to keep it. She further complicates things when she gets angry when I don't return her advances. Has anyone here been lead on?
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It's that obvious, huh... :/

Problem is like I said she is like a sister to me. We have history together, great chemistry.. It sounds stupid, but I still have faith in her and care enough about her to remain close. But on the other hand she needs to know that she can't have her cake and eat it too.



Thanks for the advice.
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I have a feeling I'm getting into this friend zone with a girl I like right now.
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