Ended the friendship

[Jazzy]

Has a friend done/said something that just straight up ended the friendship? What happened?

 

[Nebulous]

Friendships aren't like a light switch (for me anyway), it takes multiple instances of [whatever is bothering me] for me to end a friendship.

 

[Jazzy]

For me it was when I came home early from work one day. I found my best friend and my boyfriend having sex in MY bed. Needless to say, they both got thrown not only out of my house but out of my life as well.

 

[Enter Username Here]

For me it was when I came home early from work one day. I found my best friend and my boyfriend having sex in MY bed. Needless to say, they both got thrown not only out of my house but out of my life as well.

Well, I would of went to jail that day , if I was in that position.

 

[Jazzy]

Has a friend done/said something that just straight up ended the friendship? What happened?

Jazzy, maybe you remember me talking about one particular guy/biker/friend who'd been really good to me, named Mike, and his tag is Q. He's the one who gave me my laptop in February of 2012. This story is about him.

I had a friend a while back who started out as my ex-husband's buddy. His tag is Q, and he treated me like gold. He was my ol' man's friend, but he and I hit it off really well because of some common interests like bow hunting and ice fishing, along with riding. When the asshole (my ex-husband) went to prison, Q took it upon himself to look out for me. He'd come by at least once a week and bring me smokes, a bottle of wine, a couple of my favorite chocolates and stuff like that. And just to visit. He made it his responsibility to always be there if I needed anything. I loved him dearly, as a friend. He is a huge flirt and dealing with me he was no different. Since I was married to his best friend, obviously, I didn't take his flirting seriously. I suppose I should have brought his flirting with me to an end; made it clear that I am a no fly zone. But I didn't think he was hoping for more to happen between us.

One day, a little over 2 years ago, we were having a text message conversation about my condo that I was getting ready to close on. He made some silly, flirtatious comment about me being the first MILF on the block. I laughed and said "Not with the extra 15 pounds I'm lugging around with me!!" His reply? "I'd still tap ya if you'd let me."

I sat there staring at his comment for a solid minute, then turned my phone off. I was completely incensed; livid, furious, how DARE he speak to me as if I were one of the idiot groupie bimbos whose only wish is to be on the arm of a Patchholder!!?!??? I was seriously unglued.

I didn't reply to that text and he knew he'd fucked up because he came back fairly quickly with some inane question about some damn thing. I ignored that one as well, and maybe 4 days later after I'd ignored every call and every text from him, I sent Q an email, explaining to him where he now stood in my world. I sliced him up one side and down the other, and have not spoken to him in any way since that day.

The shame here is if it weren't for his flirting and that comment, he sounded like a tight friend. Shame some men think with the wrong 'head' and ruin a good thing.