Family...

[Peaceful]

I've been in quite a rut these past few weeks, months. Mainly because of my views on certain things in life, my brother and mother have completely different views on things than me, and it's getting to me, i know i can't make them feel the same as i do, but they don't have to try and make me feel the same was as they do.



My mum is a complete homophobe and it gives me the shits, just last night, we were watching Little Britain and she kept making comments on how did this guy even have a boyfriend, he's ugly as hell, and then a cross dresser came on and she went on about him for atleast 5 minutes until i told her to give it a rest who cares.



I personally, am not gay, but this sort of thing outrages me, when-ever my mum see's something homo-sexual on TV or how it relates to someone being gay, she acts like it's a bad thing like saying He's probably GAY.



I find it hard to even be around her at the moment, and my brother is the same, but he is not as aggressive with his remarks, but he has said some pretty hurtful things when he was drunk one night quite some time ago which i can't seem to get out of my head.



It's not just the gay thing either, there's lot's of other things that i am outed on.



I even considered moving out at home at a few points these last few weeks and possibly moving in with my old step-dad, it's gotten that bad.



I really don't know what to do at the moment. It's getting to me.

 

[Evil Eye]

No offence but do you really think the web's the best place to ask these kind of questions?

You should probably talk to people around you as they probably have more insight in these matters.

 

[Peaceful]

Meh. I don't really care. This is to discuss whats going on in your life at the moment, and this is one of the things which is going on in mine, and i'm not in it for advice, i just want to know if anyone else has had these sort of problems with their parents etc.

 

[Nebulous]

Just be thankful all you have is differences of opinions and you are not growing up in a physically abusive and/or neglectful home and/or have parents hooked on drugs or alcohol. Things could be a lot worse than what you described. Trust me.

 

[Alien]

This could be a part of growing up. I went through something similar, when I realised that I have a lot of different opinions and views on life to other members of my family.

 

[McConnaughay]

I think it'd be a bit babyish to move out due to them having different opinions, I'd tell them to cool it around me and whatnot. My family makes alot of offensive jokes, my grandma is a racist and she's quite hilarious, but when I tell her I don't agree with the ways she thinks she'll put it to rest but as long as they aren't shoving the gay thing down your throat (

) than it should be fine.

 

[Corleone]

Agree to disagree. Best solution for your problem. Life will go on.

 

[Odie]

It sounds like you have had enough with your mom's snide comments and your brother being drunk and I don't blame you one bit, there is no way I could not live in a household like that.



I would talk to them, all 3 of you together, explain your feelings and see how things work out.



If that doesn't help, move out, maybe have a friend move in to share the rent, you'll be a much happier person.

 

[Fayble]

All I can say is stick it out man. You have your opinions and others have theirs. Trust me, I'm sure you still love them, and all moving out will do is harm your relationship with them in the long run. I say just be you and never change for anyone. Know who you are and how you feel. Just because they feel that way doesn't mean you should too and I think it's wrong that they're trying to change who you are. Just let them know next time they're down your throat that you're not like that. And leave it be.