Get over your depression?

[Randy]

Have you ever been depressed and gotten yourself out of it? What did you do? What were you depressed about?

 

[Raven]

Yes
Not really
Lots of music, spirituality, and booze
My past

I've had depression for 10 years. I can pick myself up for the most part and hold it together when I am around people, but when I'm alone I'm screwed, Last year was a nightmare, fell back into the same old pattern of drinking and cutting.
I am currently reading the Herion Diaries by Nikki Sixx, it's made me realise that I can't change my past, but instead of running from what happened I need to confront it.
I have no idea how exactly I am going to do that, but there will be alot of changes in my life this year.

 

[Jazzy]

I am currently reading the Herion Diaries by Nikki Sixx, it's made me realise that I can't change my past, but instead of running from what happened I need to confront it.
I have no idea how exactly I am going to do that, but there will be alot of changes in my life this year.

Can you confront the person or people from your past and tell them how you feel?

 

[Raven]

Not really, He knows what he did.

Would open the worst can of worms, infact I do believe that my family which abandon me as no-one would believe me.

Mum once told me if I ever act depressed around her then she will have me locked up in a mental home! So no, none of my family I can talk to.
The only way I feel will be free of what happened is when the guy is six feet under.

 

[Jazzy]

Not really, He knows what he did.

Would open the worst can of worms, infact I do believe that my family which abandon me as no-one would believe me.

Mum once told me if I ever act depressed around her then she will have me locked up in a mental home! So no, none of my family I can talk to.
The only way I feel will be free of what happened is when the guy is six feet under.

I wish you had someone to talk to about your past. A lot of people blame themselves and feel guilty for what has happened to them. What they need to realize it that it was NOT their fault. They were the victims not the other way around.

 

[Fayble]

@Stormrider: Have you ever been to a psychologist before? They are known to be completely unbiased and a good person to vent and learn from..

 

[Raven]

No I haven't, I probably should but not sure if I could just open up like that :/
I've hid and bottled things for a long time.

 

[Jazzy]

No I haven't, I probably should but not sure if I could just open up like that :/
I've hid and bottled things for a long time.

It wouldn't hurt to try and talk to a psychologist. They are not going to rush you into anything. They are trained to pace and control the situation. Like Karrit said, they are unbiased and there to help you vent. Time to let the demons out of the bottle.

 

[Fayble]

People look down on therapy, but in reality nobody is perfect.. If you think you're too good for therapy then you probably need it the most! Even when you're in a good place, therapy is still healthy. Having a person to confide to and vent to can do wonders to stress and depression. It's all about preventing these mood swings at that point.

 

[Raven]

Thanks Jazzy,

Karrit, I never said I was too good for it. Actually think I am much the opposite.

Just seen this quote.

"If all you are doing in looking at the past, There is something wrong with your life." Nikki Sixx (again)

I actually think hypnosis would be better so I can forget my past and move on!

 

[Fayble]

Oh wow sorry, I wasn't singling you out.. I was just generalizing! Sorry for the confusion. That's just what most people who don't like therapy think. Also hypnosis sounds like a good thing to at least try. At this point, anything is worth an attempt. Good luck with whatever you decide.

 

[Raven]

Ahhh ok, sorry mate!

 

[Nebulous]

Meeting someone new and starting a relationship back in 2011 helped me get out of the funk I was in.

...Relationship is still going strong too!

 

[Bluezone777]

No I haven't, I probably should but not sure if I could just open up like that :/
I've hid and bottled things for a long time.

I think you can. The fact you can even mention even the slightest bit about it says that you can but it looks like fear is holding you back. Fear of what others may say about it that keeps you from letting go of it. You already seen the worst that can come from being open from those who spit hate when you just wanted someone to just listen and try to understand. Even if they don't understand but at least show that no matter how banged up you got in life, it doesn't change how they see you.

What I learned about depression is that it's holding it in that keeps you down and ultimately leads to self destruction. It's when you let go of the pain that it dissipates and leaves you but doing so means making yourself vulnerable to another if you have trouble doing it yourself which is terrifying if you don't have faith that they won't respond to your openness with love and understanding. I take it you don't have anyone you could put your faith into would without a doubt respond to your openness with love and understanding?

If you ever want someone to talk to then my PM inbox is always open. Whether you take me up on that or not is up to you but either way I hope you can find someone to help you let go of whatever has burdened you for so long. Going through life depressed is no way I would ever want anyone to live.

 

[Raven]

Cheers Bluezone, There is no-one around me who I can talk to but today I am starting a diary. I think it will really help being able to put my thoughts down and not keep them seething inside me.

 

[Bluezone777]

I think that would be a good idea. The important is letting it all out and letting it out to yourself by writing could work well for you as who else could you be more comfortable with then yourself? I hope it works out and let me know if it does that is if you want to of course.