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I'm going to come at this, not from a morality perspective, but from a personal experience.
I'm completely okay with women ghosting on me. I've had more women do it to me more times than I can count during my separation and after my divorce. It's just how dating is in today's society.
I'd like to think that it's up there with "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." It's better because not all reasons feel valid or acceptable. We all know that when things don't work out people should move on.
I prefer ghosting over lying. I don't like it when women imagine me into this horrible piece of shit human being and completely annihilate my character with a lie that they convinced themselves was true when it's not working out for them. Especially when we've only known each other less than a month and all we've done is have sex.
Ignoring me tells me a lot. It tells me that you're not interested and that's all I NEED TO KNOW. Nothing more. I don't want to hear a bullshit lie when a simple "It's not working out for me" would have sufficed .That is reason enough for me and I won't bother to ask why. Hell, not answering my texts at all for a day or two will give me a hint.
When a woman didn't call me back after a day or two. I knew she found someone else, or she wasn't interested, and that I needed to move on as well. It didn't hurt my feelings. It was a hint. It was the mature thing to do but move on.
Ghosting means there's no interest, no passion, no chemistry. It has many answers if you sit and think about it.
Why am I this way? Why do I prefer being ghosted? Because I was a with a serial cheater and chronic liar for 12 years. When you're 35, you learn how to take a hint. And to me, ghosting is a hint and one that I have come to respect.
Now, have I ghosted before? I have partaken. In this case it's happened when it came down to where there are women who text or call sparingly and need a lot of space. I don't doggedly text women who don't often return my messages or answer my calls. That's called begging and I don't beg. I spent 12 years begging my ex wife to stay with me. Look where that got me.
When I was single. I mostly just text girls and tell them that it's not working out and that I'm not interested. The problem with that are the women who don't let go which ask questions about what they did wrong at which prompts me to never reply. It's not what we did wrong at the start of things. It's just there wasn't enough chemistry. That's no one's fault. It is what it is.
I don't recall "ghosting" anyone not do I remember someone ever "ghosting" me. Of course, I didn't date a whole lot prior to meeting my husband. So, luckily for me I never had to experience that.
Depends on how far the relationship is, if you're just starting out it's kind of fine, if a way into it then something should be said.
