Human socialization-Important or optional?

[James]

Well, do you really believe that human socialization(Off-line, I mean to say) is a requirement or can we evade it with no harmful effects.l?



In my point of view, I believe in only engaging in offline human socialization, when it's absolutely necessary.



Frankly, offline.. I love solitude, because I can think about my novel ideas,read,watch anime,etc.



However, in the case of college(Which I'll be going into next year..), I'll participate in socialization, when maybe my education is at stake, but other endeavors/events, like social gatherings(parties) or sport events, I will refuse to partake.



Girlfriends and dating? Those are distractions.



At this current point in my lifetime, schoolwork is my main priority.



Afterwards, when I have a job and a apartment?



Still will refrain from socialization, unless, it is absolutely of requirement.

Any relationships?Strictly professional and un-personal.

And frankly, other than finances, I see no benefit in marriage.



Right, I have only 4 friends, and I believe that's balanced.

It's not necessary to be popular.



And I quit youth group, partially because of the repetitive preaching(I already heard enough about safe sex quite a few years ago!) and because a irritating pre-pubescent girl kept bothering me.



But, enough of my point of view, how about the rest of you?

 

[Temerit]

Having close friends is more important than healthy eating habits or exercise for individual health. Or at least that's what they teach public health professionals.



Humans are social animals by nature.

 

[DrLeftover]

Yes.



But one can be Over-Socialized and unable to function as an individual, make their own decisions, and be able to entertain themselves as well.

 

[Fatal Dawn]

How is having a social life interfering with your education? How is it a distraction to date a girl? Frankly, I believe you are just making those false connections on your own.



But to answer your question socialization is very important for every living creature not just humans. People need to socialize to stay alive.



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[James]

How is it a distraction? Because I've been having to cram, as they say..



Plus it would get in the way of fiction writing and anime/game reviewing.



Besides, I have more freedoms being single and frankly... *cough* I have some form of austism, which already impairs my social skills.

 

[James]

Socialization isn't required for fiction writing... Socialization isn't required for achieving my dreams.



I'll just keep a low profile and remain blank and indifferent to people around me..

 

[DrLeftover]

Socialization isn't required for fiction writing... Socialization isn't required for achieving my dreams.



I'll just keep a low profile and remain blank and indifferent to people around me..

Yes it is. Not a lot mind you. But, yes it is. You'll see.





And I still do. Maybe not blank but damned near totally Indifferent.

 

[James]

I already have the personalities for said character and I know how to make them sound realistic too, so why would I need to go on dates and out with friends, in order to write fiction?

 

[DrLeftover]

How many stories with how many characters in how many plotlines are you going to write over your lifetime?



To make it realistic, and even fiction needs to be somewhat believable, you need to understand the underlying dynamics of the various relationships and the differing levels of those relationships.

 

[James]

And I'm not gonna be a absolute hikikomori……



I'll still go to the grocery store and maybe Gamestop.



Just going to avoid making friends, avoid dating and manage professional, but impersonal relationships.



There's nothing that is saying you have to absolutely meet new people.



I'll go my own way.



Any questions asked? Never mention interests(gaming,anime,etc).



Co-workers invite me somewhere? I will decline everytime.



Girl asks me out?Reject, without mentioning the reason.



Only what the Major approves of.No optional socialization



And besides, I'm not gonna write romance novels..

 

[Fatal Dawn]

How vain it is to sit down to write when you have not stood up to live. Henry David Thoreau

 

[DrLeftover]

I didn't say you were.





But with you, it seems to always come back to the female of the species.



I didn't mention them.



Fascinating, no?





But in any case, in the interest of furthering your pursuit of our mutual affliction. I suggest you at least check out the words of the Master.



http://xroads.virginia.edu/~HYPER/poe/composition.html

 

[James]

And specifically, by evading off-line socialization, I evade ridicule.



I used to be paranoid of ridicule, but now it's better just to ignore it.



But, I need no benefit in meeting new people.



The limited socialization I get from family and my four childhood friends is enough.



I don't require new friends and I don't any reason why I should get new ones.



With education, as I said before.. I am cramming, so a girlfriend would be a distraction, plus they are too difficult to obtain.



There's probably not a single female anime/video game otaku out there who likes thought-provoking fiction and other stuff.



But, frankly, solitude isn't going to make me insane.



Saying Hello or Thank you counts as small socialization, so I don't believe my health will be affected in any way.

 

[Temerit]

Believe what you will, I would like to see the results of 10+ years of living life as a hermit. I couldn't imagine there not being any negative effects.



I feel it would be a miserable existence, I used to devote far too much time to video games, but now I spend a vast majority of my time out of class with friends, actually I almost always study with friends, eat with friends, and even go to class with friends.



I haven't played a video game in at least a year.

 

[James]

Video games,anime and books provide me with enjoyment already.



The only friends I have are my childhood friends and my PSN friends.



I don't see any benefit in obtaining more friends.

 

[Bluezone777]

Evading ridicule at the expense of living is not worth it. One thing in life that I learned is that none of us are as imaginative as we like to think we are and the life we plan most often then not isn't the life we end up living but looking back we learn that the life we ended up living was far better then the one we planned for ourselves.



I don't know why you fear ridicule so much? If it's bound in logic then weave it into how you think and act in life and if it don't then discard it as trash and move on. That's all there is to it so don't see why you are depriving yourself of who knows how many worthwhile experiences due to fear of disapproval.

 

[DrLeftover]

James



It's just my own, worthless, two-bit, half-baked, nitwit, non-medical, worthless, nonsensical, (wait a minute I already said 'worthless', ignore one of those), opinion from a half-crippled, half-drunken ex-sportswriter.... but....



it sounds to me like you're trying to convince yourself that you don't need anybody else in your life and looking to us for validation.



But like I said, that's just my own two-bit, half baked, etc. opinion.

 

[Bluezone777]

Socialization isn't required for fiction writing... Socialization isn't required for achieving my dreams.



I'll just keep a low profile and remain blank and indifferent to people around me..

There's more to life then just writing stories. BTW, if socializing is so unnecessary then what are you doing here, anyway? You do know this is the definition of socializing as not seeing the person doesn't make any different from talking to someone on a phone?



If you expect to get published then how are you going to go about it? Just slip it on someone's desk and run for the hills and expect someone to just accept it without meeting the author at some point? I really don't think you thought this all out as much as you think you did to be honest.

 

[James]

Getting the stories published is a requirement, but I'll only act professional.



What I mean is optional gibberjabber like going out to dinner with someone or going any other social events.



Sports? Eh, I can just watch it on TV.



Movies?I'll just rent them on DVD.



Girls?I'll just play a galge game or a visual novel.(And they are considerably easier than real women)



Everything that I could want in life is already answered by fiction)

Meeting new people isn't a requirement and is thus, considered optional by the Major.



And I'm referring to off-line socialization.



Don't tell me to get outside, going to the store,Gamestop.. and maybe a convention counts.



But that's the extent of it.

 

[James]

And frankly, how does meeting new people even make someone mature?



Manner and intelligence = Maturity.



Also, phase? Autism is hardly a phase.