I don't know how to title this...

[Dollhouse]

I had an on and off relationship with this guy for about 2-3 years ago. It was terrible. For some reason I couldn't seem to forget him, he's made too many impacts on my life, I guess.

He's a completely different person now; he's worse. I remember that I still had some feelings for him back then. A friend of mine reminded me that I was probably in love with the old version of him, or MY perfect version of him that only exists on my mind.

I started to think that, ok, maybe the old [guy's name] is dead now, I don't know this person anymore. Somehow it's comforting that the "old" him is dead, knowing that he'll never come back to life. I'm not sure if that's the appropriate thing to do, but it works on me.

I wonder if others have done the same thing.

 

[MrDawn]

I wonder if others have done the same thing.

When I met my ex wife, she was a totally different person. She was sweet, charming, and funny. But through the years leading up to the divorce, she just became someone else and I missed the old her. I had hoped the old her would come out of hiding, but it never happened. She just turned into someone that I didn't get along with and after the divorce she turned into someone I really didn't like.

 

[Nebulous]

Its only natural to think about someone who was a large presence in your life. The best way to get over an ex is to get into a new relationship, but I wouldn't rush into one for solely that reason.