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Is honesty the best policy?
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I think honesty is the best policy when it comes to important things, but a little white lie over something trivial to spare someone's feelings is harmless. Like the age old question "Does this dress make me look fat" ... always say NO 
Honesty is the way to go. I would rather be told what I need to hear than what I want to hear so that I know where I stand.
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive!"
Sir Walter Scott
Not for some people. Some people are such good liars they start to believe their own lies, its like 2nd nature to them.
I think honesty is the best policy when it comes to important things, but a little white lie over something trivial to spare someone's feelings is harmless. Like the age old question "Does this dress make me look fat" ... always say NO
So, you're like Fletcher?
Maybe he lies to you just to make you happy because he cares about your feelings and does not want to make you feel disappointed. ???
Just a thought.
Very good point, and I think that is spot on.Maybe he lies to you just to make you happy because he cares about your feelings and does not want to make you feel disappointed. ???
Just a thought.
If you are honest from jump, you wont have to worry about covering your ass later on. This is a philosophy that I always try to live by.
Honesty is the best policy, but there are some who try to weaponize it by being an asshole and then when called out on it, they say they were just being honest.
I have found that others say that they lied because they didnt want to hurt a person's feelings, and I tend to think that this is b.s. because while you can't control whether or not a person will be hurt, you can control whether or not they trust you. So in those situations, it is still better to come clean and tell the truth, deal with the fallout but still retain their trust.
If a friend of mine told me that they saw my husband leaving a hotel room with another woman who was all over him, I would be hurt and angry, but I would also appreciate my friend being honest with me about what they saw, than trying to spare my feelings by keeping quiet.
Also timing and place is a factor too.. such as if a man decided to propose to his girlfriend via Jumbotron, and she doesn't want to marry him, then that might not be the right time and place to say as such.. in that case it would be better to play along and say yes, make a quick exit and then when at home or somewhere more private, tell them the truth.
Honesty is the best policy, but there are some who try to weaponize it by being an asshole and then when called out on it, they say they were just being honest.
I have found that others say that they lied because they didnt want to hurt a person's feelings, and I tend to think that this is b.s. because while you can't control whether or not a person will be hurt, you can control whether or not they trust you. So in those situations, it is still better to come clean and tell the truth, deal with the fallout but still retain their trust.
If a friend of mine told me that they saw my husband leaving a hotel room with another woman who was all over him, I would be hurt and angry, but I would also appreciate my friend being honest with me about what they saw, than trying to spare my feelings by keeping quiet.
Also timing and place is a factor too.. such as if a man decided to propose to his girlfriend via Jumbotron, and she doesn't want to marry him, then that might not be the right time and place to say as such.. in that case it would be better to play along and say yes, make a quick exit and then when at home or somewhere more private, tell them the truth.
