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Letting Go..

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When children become adults, should the parents let them be free to make their own decisions or do they have the right to interfere and question what is going on in their lives constantly?
 
Parents usually wants the best for their child regardless of their age or what not. Of course it seems like they are getting to involved or too controlling of their life. But it's up to the parents to decided when to let go and how to let go.



You just have to understand from a parent's point of view when you finally realize that.. your kids are now adults and able to do what they want in life. It's hard to let go when you had to hold on.



It takes time.



Of course some people think it's a bother for the parents to always contently be there.



But what happened if they weren't there at all?
 
Parents of adult children should be supportive and not interfere. The fastest way to cause a family problem, IMO, is for the parent to interfere and question what is going on in their lives constantly. It's one thing for a parent to offer advice if the adult child has asked but it's a whole different animal when the parents keeps butting in all the time. Parents will never let go but they do need to let the adult child live and learn on their own.
 
I like Jazzy's answer so...
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Well I was kicked out when I was 18.. I came home one day and all my stuff was packed up. I was told I could sleep on the couch for a week until I found a place to live. So it wasnt hard for my mom to 'let go' lol.. She did it for my own good though. That tough love was just what I needed to become a responsible adult instead of a rebellious loser.
 
Freddy said:
When children become adults, should the parents let them be free to make their own decisions or do they have the right to interfere and question what is going on in their lives constantly?

I highly enjoy how you placed constantly at the end, it gave me the idea that you oppose it. There is nothing incorrect about parents trying to assist their kids with things that they could be unfamiliar with but if the child doesn't want the assistance they have no right to push themselves in.
 
People should be thankful that someone cares about them. I bet they complain about it now but will miss it later on in life when their parents are gone.
 
I think parents should know that they are always wanted and that help is alway's apreciated, but I think that they should take a step back and alow the kids to live their own life and make thier own mistakes, and give advice when the kids need it.
 
Smooth said:
Youth is wasted on the young, just as parents are not appreciated by kids until the kids are somewhere in their late 20's early 30's. What a child may see as interfering could be the parent trying desperately to help the child avoid a heinous mistake.

However, there is a lot to be said for allowing kids to make their own mistakes and hopefully learning from them. If the parents are there to fix every issue, how is the child going to learn anything?

Parents need to find the happy medium between catastrophic interference and being available when their child(ren) come to them and ask for help.



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The parents should always be there to offer their opinion on matters. But they should not directly tell them what to do. Their kids are now adults and need to make decisions by themselves.
 
I think the parents should leave the children alone because i'm pretty sure their children are already like their parents by that time.
 
nolvorite said:
I think the parents should leave the children alone because i'm pretty sure their children are already like their parents by that time.

Children become adults at 18.. They are still immature and need guidance. They aren't like their parents at that time. Maybe when they get to their 40's..
 
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