Long Distance Relationships (LDR's)

[JasonBegheFanGirl]

I never answered this topic the first time around, so I'll do it now..



If you'd of asked me over 4 years ago if LDR's work, I'd of probably said no. However, in 2009, my thought changed when I met the man I was destined to settle down with. The man I'd been friends with since 2007. We talked over a forum for years, decided to talk via Instant Messenger and then, we swapped photo's and mobile numbers. We'd talked over web cam extensively for ages and I got to know him - and his family - gradually over time.



21st of March 2009 came and we decided to give things another go. Previously we'd dated for 4 months and split - on good terms - for reason I won't go into..



Beforehand, I was with someone else for 6 months and he turned into a nasty person, with a horrible attitude towards me and wouldn't come and meet me, I had to go to him.. So I ended it there and then. At the time, I did love him. But, I think back now and I know I did that right thing.



March 19th, 2011, I married him and we've been together ever since!



So yes, they can work, you just need to have the it'll work, I know it will attitude.

 

[Raven]

I know someone who had a LDR, lasted quite a while, even got engaged. But they broke up. Still good friends though.



Don't know if it could be considered a LDR but I dated someone for 5 months for lived a 3 hour train journey away. Like a mini LDR lol.

 

[Jazzy]

They are very difficult as they are based on trust. Kind of hard to fully trust a person when they live hundreds of miles away. Also, there is the fact you're dealing with NO physical contact. Humans, like animals, need physical contact. Even if it's just a hug or a peck on the cheek. These LDR's, IMO, are a true test of whether or not you have truly found your soul mate. They are very real relationships but very few can last through all the lonely times.

 

[Raven]

I find it hard to trust anyone full stop. I don't think psyhical contact would effect me that much as I'm abit funny when it comes to that. Someone who is there to talk to would be nice. And in LDRs these days you have things like Skype.

 

[CommanderMadi]

I have been in a long distance relationship from 2006 to 2009 and it was successful and we almost arranged for the engagement process but she betrayed me.

 

[Jazzy]

I have been in a long distance relationship from 2006 to 2009 and it was successful and we almost arranged for the engagement process but she betrayed me.

Ouch! That's a long time you had invested in that relationship. I guess the only good thing is that she betrayed you before you married her.

 

[CommanderMadi]

Ouch! That's a long time you had invested in that relationship. I guess the only good thing is that she betrayed you before you married her.

Exactly. Its less painful to be before marriage.

 

[MrDawn]

*dusts off thread*

No. I don't like doing Long Distance Relationships. I don't have the patience. Tried it and didn't like it so I only dated locally until I met someone.

 

[Nebulous]

Long distance relationships are not for me. The most important aspect of dating (to me) is physically being around the person you are dating. Being able to share (in-person) moments and experiences.