Long Distance Relationships (LDR's)

[DrLeftover]

LDRs suck.



Period.



End of discussion.



Close the thread.



Move on to discussing the Scoville Ratings of Hot Sauce or something.

 

[identityissues8]

Can I just clarify my pending marriage had to do with love and nothing to do with visas.

Long distance does not mean international...

 

[Cranos]

Marriage is supposed to be out of love, and nothing else... Right?

I disagree, that's just our western view of marriage.

 

[Jazzy]

LDRs suck.

Are you talking from experience here Doc?

I disagree, that's just our western view of marriage.

Then what's your personal view of marriage?

 

[Cranos]

I disagree, that's just our western view of marriage.

Then what's your personal view of marriage?

Umm, I live in Europe, so that is my view on marriage. I'm merely stating that that view isn't absolute and universal. In a lot of other cultures people don't marry because of love.

 

[Jazzy]

In a lot of other cultures people don't marry because of love.

Understood but we're talking about LDR's here and since you brought it up, how long do you think a loveless marriage would last?

 

[Jazzy]

Question for members that are currently in a LDR and have never met but tell each other I love you. Whether those words are said by email, phone, or mail, how can you love someone you have never met?

 

[Jazzy]

[quote name='Jazzy']Question for members that are currently in a LDR and have never met but tell each other I love you. Whether those words are said by email, phone, or mail, how can you love someone you have never met?

I don't think I could...[/quote]



Dang! Then I guess there's no hope for the two of us

 

[Jazzy]

We can always try?

I

you

 

[Flurry]

I now pronounce you man and wife! And as for your question.



I think it is very possible to feel love for someone you have yet to meet. Cause when you talk to that person a great deal. Feelings develop. Even if you haven't even seen a single picture. Or just seen only one. Or even talked on the phone or seen them in person.

 

[Flurry]

*sheds a tear at the beauty of it all*

 

[Cranos]

In a lot of other cultures people don't marry because of love.

Understood but we're talking about LDR's here and since you brought it up, how long do you think a loveless marriage would last?

Well in most of those cultures it's considerably harder to divorce and it would have different consequences, so a lot would last long. Also, a lot of them are some sort of LDR's, there are a lot of Arabic girls here in Belgium who marry men from their native country and then come back to make money here.



Regarding the other question, I've never been in an LDR before, but I can somewhat imagine that you can fall in love with someone's personality.

 

[identityissues8]

Always meet before you let that happen...Otherwise, them in person could be a REAL downer.

 

[Jazzy]

Bumping this thread since we have new members now.



[background=rgb(251, 253, 254)]Do you think LDR's are real relationships?



Have you ever been in one or are you in one now?



Share your thoughts or experiences with us.[/background]

 

[Jazzy]

Most LDR's never work out, there's your answer...

Well, at least we know your answer.

 

[Jazzy]

You also forgot this...

You didn't answer the questions:



[background=rgb(251, 253, 254)]Do you think LDR's are real relationships?[/background]

[background=rgb(251, 253, 254)]Have you ever been in one or are you in one now?[/background]

 

[Jazzy]

What's so funny? Cat got your tongue?

 

[Jazzy]

I'm not trying to change the subject at all. The subject is Long Distance Relationships.



The questions are as follows:



[font=tahoma, helvetica, arial, sans-serif][background=rgb(251, 253, 254)]Do you think LDR's are real relationships?[/background]

[font=tahoma, helvetica, arial, sans-serif][background=rgb(251, 253, 254)]Have you ever been in one or are you in one now?[/background]

 

[hotspot]

I don't believe internet/long distance relationships can work, I think a big part of a romantic relationship is the physical connection between the people involved.

Plus, I've seen a few and they did not work out at all.



If the people do meet eventually, I do think something can spawn from that however.

 

[Jazzy]

Here's my opinion:



[background=rgb(251, 253, 254)]LDR's[/background][background=rgb(251, 253, 254)] like traditional [/background][background=rgb(251, 253, 254)]relationships[/background][background=rgb(251, 253, 254)] are built and sustained on trust. When you enter a LDR, you have to do it in good faith because that’s all you will have to keep you sane when your lover is so far away. If you start on the wrong track, it will only lead to self-doubt, suspicion and your romance will be sabotaged before you even know it. Keep in mind that feelings are your only comfort when your object of desire is miles away from your arms. Lacking physical proximity with your loved one can be devastating to your attitude towards your relationship. That’s why you need to invest in trust, honesty and communication from the beginning. This is the only way you will be able to be comforted in your choice and to enter in a [/background][background=rgb(251, 253, 254)]long distance[/background][background=rgb(251, 253, 254)] romance.[/background]