Marriage

[Randy]

What are your views on marriage

 

[Skillet]

In theory, it is an amazing thing, but people don't understand the seriousness of it in USA or Canada, leading to a near 50% divorce rate. If people can understand the life-long commitment...etc, then maybe it wold mean more than it does now.

 

[Nebulous]

Look before you leap...

Don't get married to someone during the peak of your fun and new time part of the relationship.

Hang in there for a few years, live together 1st.. If you can make it through all that then get married.

 

[Skillet]

Many women just have this crazy image in their minds of this wedding, and will do whatever it takes to do it. My last ex was like that, always trying to push it. Reality is, I'm 17, and want to go through university before I get married and raise a family. I just don't see why you can't wait. This really upset her. And I don't get it. I promised her everything. She'd live with me through university, we'd have all these things after I finished. University isn't cheap. I'm going into law for 10 years. 25,000/yr, and well, you do the math. I just don't understand what the whole rush is. Get to know the person, before you marry. Don't marry just because. Chances are 1/2 that it'll fail in USA. Why not try and better your odds?

 

[Nebulous]

Nobody cares about statistics and odds. If people really love each other they can stay married until they die.. It still happens.



I was only engaged once. I lived with my ex, we had a kid together, but after a few years the relationship turned sour and we didnt want to raise our kid in a house full of negativeness and bitterness. We broke up before we got married. We get along great as friends.. I think of her more like a cousin or sister now instead of someone to lust after. My mindset shifted towards her. We have one happy kid because of it.

I suppose I will get married to the right person, but I wont jump right in, I will wait a few years.. if it doesn't happen until im in my 40's then so be it. It wont bother me none.

 

[Skillet]

I was just stating marriage is devalued. I thought a statistic would help prove my statement, even though it's more common sense than anything.



If I find the one at 40, she will be worth the wait. I'm not too concerned either.

 

[Princess]

It's gotta be the right person.

And remember--don't marry someone just because you love them--you have to really like them too. (sometimes that's more difficult)

 

[Xarina]

My view on marriage is you do it once and that's that. Personally I don't think I'll have to wait till I'm 40 to find the right one, I might already have found him, who knows.



I don't really see how you can love someone without liking them to o.0 that's my personal opinion based on my feelings towards my boyfriend... though admittedly sometimes I do want to punch him. I haven't had the urge to punch him often lately, he have been a good boy XD I just hate it when he makes me worry.

 

[Skillet]

My view on marriage is you do it once and that's that. Personally I don't think I'll have to wait till I'm 40 to find the right one, I might already have found him, who knows.



I don't really see how you can love someone without liking them to o.0 that's my personal opinion based on my feelings towards my boyfriend... though admittedly sometimes I do want to punch him. I haven't had the urge to punch him often lately, he have been a good boy XD I just hate it when he makes me worry.

Ah, women are the same way with making me worry

. Anyways, I just wouldn't rush into marriage. If you are sure you'll marry, what will waiting affect? Make certain that is the person you envision being with for the rest of your life.

 

[Corleone]

Marriage is typically rushed & pursued for the wrong reasons. As stated previously, a marriage is more than a celebration, it is a life-time commitment. My father was with my mom for 5 years (In a serious relationship) before he proposed to her, then after he married her, a few years latter he thought deep and hard about having children. He knew he loved this girl (my mom), but he also understood that a child is a life-long commitment. My mom and dad have been together since they were 13 years old, and have been married over 20 years. Still loving and passionate about one another. Also, my grandparents have been together for 50 years, so my views on marriage is that you should really be sure it is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, especially in a case where you have a child that is involved.

 

[Toxic]

To me personally, marriage is just a piece of paper that a couple jot down their name to.. I don't believe in the vow either..because when you're in love yea you will do everything to make this thing works, but then when the love is gone.. you will end up in divorce anyways.



The victim of this type of thing is the kids..it can cause a lot of things to them.. besides I have seen a lot of boyfriends/girlfriends living together in one roof for years and they are actually doing okay as a family..papers don't really do much to them...

 

[Skillet]

To me personally, marriage is just a piece of paper that a couple jot down their name to.. I don't believe in the vow either..because when you're in love yea you will do everything to make this thing works, but then when the love is gone.. you will end up in divorce anyways.



The victim of this type of thing is the kids..it can cause a lot of things to them.. besides I have seen a lot of boyfriends/girlfriends living together in one roof for years and they are actually doing okay as a family..papers don't really do much to them...

In reality, you're right. Marriage is just a piece of paper. I know many people who have been together for many years without getting married because they felt the same. In our society, it's just accepted that you get married. That Piece of paper symbolizes the love you have for each other, in in those terms, it's okay to me. There are many things that seem simple, like wearing a poppy on Remembrance Day, for example. It is just a poppy you are wearing, but it symbolizes something more serious.

 

[Toxic]

[quote name='Toxic']To me personally, marriage is just a piece of paper that a couple jot down their name to.. I don't believe in the vow either..because when you're in love yea you will do everything to make this thing works, but then when the love is gone.. you will end up in divorce anyways.



The victim of this type of thing is the kids..it can cause a lot of things to them.. besides I have seen a lot of boyfriends/girlfriends living together in one roof for years and they are actually doing okay as a family..papers don't really do much to them...

In reality, you're right. Marriage is just a piece of paper. I know many people who have been together for many years without getting married because they felt the same. In our society, it's just accepted that you get married. That Piece of paper symbolizes the love you have for each other, in in those terms, it's okay to me. There are many things that seem simple, like wearing a poppy on Remembrance Day, for example. It is just a poppy you are wearing, but it symbolizes something more serious.[/quote]



So you are saying if they don't get married that means they don't love each other? It's like on Valentine days, if they don't give you chocolate that means they don't care about you? I'm just trying to be real and logic here. I'd rather have someone to take action to show his love for me than giving me something like diamond or a necklace or something catchy and stunning because anybody can literally buy it for you.



it is the same with marriage... You can get married right here right now, but can you really keep it the way when you were only boyfriends or girlfriends? Everything is becoming financial problems when you get married. You do not enjoy your days anymore.. it is all about your job as a wife or a husband.



I'm not married yet, but I have lots of friends that do and believe me they wish they could turn back time to when they were only boyfriend`/ girlfriend. Too many responsibilities, they say.

 

[Skillet]

[quote name='Skillet'][quote name='Toxic']To me personally, marriage is just a piece of paper that a couple jot down their name to.. I don't believe in the vow either..because when you're in love yea you will do everything to make this thing works, but then when the love is gone.. you will end up in divorce anyways.



The victim of this type of thing is the kids..it can cause a lot of things to them.. besides I have seen a lot of boyfriends/girlfriends living together in one roof for years and they are actually doing okay as a family..papers don't really do much to them...

In reality, you're right. Marriage is just a piece of paper. I know many people who have been together for many years without getting married because they felt the same. In our society, it's just accepted that you get married. That Piece of paper symbolizes the love you have for each other, in in those terms, it's okay to me. There are many things that seem simple, like wearing a poppy on Remembrance Day, for example. It is just a poppy you are wearing, but it symbolizes something more serious.[/quote]



So you are saying if they don't get married that means they don't love each other? It's like on Valentine days, if they don't give you chocolate that means they don't care about you? I'm just trying to be real and logic here. I'd rather have someone to take action to show his love for me than giving me something like diamond or a necklace or something catchy and stunning because anybody can literally buy it for you.



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Read my third sentence. I agree with you. Then read my fourth. That's why. It's society's pressure. I know that just because you don't get flowers for your wife on Valentines Day, it doesn't mean you don't love her, but it is just what our society says you do. It's all symbolism.

 

[MamaFrankie]

My views on marriage? Not for me, thank you. Better dead than wed.

 

[Nebulous]

My views on marriage? Not for me, thank you. Better dead than wed.

Lol I like your little anti-marriage mantra.

 

[Jane]

Been married for 36 years this year

 

[Smiley]

My views on marriage? Not for me, thank you. Better dead than wed.

I've seen first hand what marriage is all about, and I'd rather blow my brain out with a 12 gauge shotgun than to so much as let anyone in my life, much less get married.

 

[Nebulous]

Been married for 36 years this year

Congrats! Got anything special planned for your 40th?

 

[Cory]

I think I'd rather just be BF/GF than getting married, to be honest.