Never happy no matter what

[MrDawn]

Have you ever had that friend, loved one, or partner that is unhappy all of the time?

What are some methods that you do to try and make them happy?

 

[EllieCat]

I try to be silly, but that just gets my people even more angry.

 

[Crys]

Yes and I stopped doing anything when I realized it wasn't going to work. There comes a point when nothing makes them happy it's more of a personal problem that they probably have to figure out on their own.

 

[Daltonio]

 

[ElegantAura]

Lately, that's how I've been feeling, but I don't show it so I don't spoil anyone's day

 

[fuzzems]

Nobody can make another person happy. But how do you know that person is "unhappy"? Having a quieter or more introverted personality often results in others ASSUMING you are "not happy" because you are not an outwardly expressive person. I have had many years of being attacked by the Smile Police. People who judge my face, tell me to "smile". Like I am supposed to mainipulate my face to suit someone's false presumptions about my mood ? It's ridiculous. I don't go about telling the Sunshine pumpers to tone it down or smile less. My face is my face. And i can't help how my genes formed together lol. Nor do i have the need to be "happy'. I don't chase "happiness". I don't describe or live my life in terms of happiness. I don't buy into the "Positivity" movement. I think we should feel ALL of our feelings. Glad, mad, sad, etc. That's real life to me. And there are times I feel joy and excitement , etc but I don't necessarily go about with that on my face.

So anyway, sorry for going on a tangent there. But, happiness is an indivual thing. So someone else's baseline is perfectly fine for them but from your perpective you may see "unhappy" when they really are not.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

Nobody can make another person happy. But how do you know that person is "unhappy"? Having a quieter or more introverted personality often results in others ASSUMING you are "not happy" because you are not an outwardly expressive person. I have had many years of being attacked by the Smile Police. People who judge my face, tell me to "smile". Like I am supposed to mainipulate my face to suit someone's false presumptions about my mood ? It's ridiculous. I don't go about telling the Sunshine pumpers to tone it down or smile less. My face is my face. And i can't help how my genes formed together lol. Nor do i have the need to be "happy'. I don't chase "happiness". I don't describe or live my life in terms of happiness. I don't buy into the "Positivity" movement. I think we should feel ALL of our feelings. Glad, mad, sad, etc. That's real life to me. And there are times I feel joy and excitement , etc but I don't necessarily go about with that on my face.

So anyway, sorry for going on a tangent there. But, happiness is an indivual thing. So someone else's baseline is perfectly fine for them but from your perpective you may see "unhappy" when they really are not.

You sound like you'd be a hit at parties.

 

[riseabovethis]

I worked occasionally with two guys who were always miserable. They never smiled or talked with anyone unless someone approached them. This went on for years and I guessed depression. The company reorganised and one had to move. The next time I saw him he was all smiles and never stopped smiling so I asked him why. He told me he was miserable because he didn't like or get long with the guys he was working with before. It was the same with the second guy, he didn't like the job he had been doing and was now doing a different job.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

I worked occasionally with two guys who were always miserable. They never smiled or talked with anyone unless someone approached them. This went on for years and I guessed depression. The company reorganised and one had to move. The next time I saw him he was all smiles and never stopped smiling so I asked him why. He told me he was miserable because he didn't like or get long with the guys he was working with before. It was the same with the second guy, he didn't like the job he had been doing and was now doing a different job.

I've been miserable with certain co-workers in the past. When an opportunity to move would present itself I would jump on it. A change of scenery can be nice.

 

[fuzzems]

You sound like you'd be a hit at parties.

Lol. I do have fun at parties. I can be silly and goofy.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

Lol. I do have fun at parties. I can be silly and goofy.

I'd hope so, from the post you posted above it sounds like you have Resting-<insert blank>-face all the time

 

[fuzzems]