No offense

[Toxic]

I often see these words being used when you're about to say something reaallyy mean. Why? I mean whoever being talked about will probably feel the same way anyway. like for instance, you look at this new thing somebody bought and bragged about. Not to mention it is very ugly. You'd say no offense, but it is ugly in my opinion. What are you trying to say? You're being honest, but you don't want that person to get offended?



I don't usually take things too personal, but when I see something odd. I'd say it like it is and I expect the same way coming from others. Truth hurts, you can either take it or leave it.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

I usually say

To be blunt, <insert rest of sentence here>

instead of

No offense, but <insert rest of sentence here>

 

[TayneC8]

I find that no offence is offending them, but some people think its okay if you say that when it could be offending them.

 

[DanteX]

Yeah I don't really like saying it, I will usually just say to be totally honest with you or something along those lines.

 

[Princess]

It's the whole BUT thing that means you know there is an issue.

I don't mean to stick my nose in, BUT

I don't mean to offend BUT

I don't want to cause trouble BUT

I don't want to.....well, you get the idea....

It's meant to soften the blow (whatever that blow is) Sort of like the old Mary Poppins school of thought A spoon ful of sugar helps the medicine go down sort of thing....

 

[Ashley]

Yeah I don't really like saying it, I will usually just say to be totally honest with you or something along those lines.

That's how I usually try to say it as well. I don't like to say, Not to offend you or anything, but... I do feel that's a bit mean.

 

[Toxic]

Do you ever get that from anyone? What's your response to it?

 

[sabrina]

Okay, honestly, I say it all the time and I don't say it to be mean. I say it because I really, really, really, really hate being honest with people when it means I have to say something bad, but I do it because I don't think it would make me a good person to lie like that. I don't think it will help anything and I'm trying to prepare them and calm them (even before I say anything bad) so they take it better and know I'm not doing it to attack them.



But I'm trying to stop because I read an article about how saying the words No offense actually has the opposite effect of that since it tenses people up in preparation for whatever you're going to say and therefore makes them already defensive before you've even told them anything.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

Do you ever get that from anyone? What's your response to it?

I rarely get offended by what people say..

 

[Toxic]

No offense actually has the opposite effect of that since it tenses people up in preparation for whatever you're going to say and therefore makes them already defensive before you've even told them anything.

I completely agree with that.